Want to ask this guy if he wants to hang out.

[Eric57]

Ever since I graduated high school, I lost touch with the majority of my friends. They all went off to different colleges and because of that, we don't talk anymore. I have been struggling a little with making new friends because the majority of people in my classes are a little older than I am. I go to a technical college, which is why it is like that.

Anyways, I have talked to a lot of people in my classes, but not too many people I talk to are my age. I talk to this one guy every now and then during class. Occasionally I'll go to the library in between my classes and if he is in the library, he comes over and we talk until we have to go to our class.

We have talked many times and he is a pretty cool guy. I kind of want to ask him if he wants to hang out, but I don't really know how to do that. haha I have never had to really to do this because I have had the same friends for many, many years. How do I go about doing it? Do I just ask him straight up if he wants to hang sometime?

I feel kind of dumb even asking this, but the semester is over and I doubt we'll have any other classes together. So I figured I might as well attempt to hang out and maybe be friends while I still see him.

Anybody have any tips?

[HunterSteele]

Do I just ask him straight up if he wants to hang sometime?
Yes, you do. I used to go to great lengths trying to find the best way of asking someone to hang out, then try to design ways to steer the conversation to a point where my question would blend in. I felt that if I asked the question out of the blue it would be very blunt and they would be able to think about it and say no, but if I blended it into the conversation it would feel more natural and they would be more comfortable saying yes. But the fact is how you ask is completely irrelevant-- if they want to hang out they'll say yes no matter what. And if they don't want to they just won't, no matter how you ask.

Someone who doesn't want to hang out won't necessarily say "no". People try all sorts of lies and excuses because they figure lying and trickery will somehow hurt less than the word no. One time, I asked a kid if he wanted to walk home with me and he told me he lived in another city. This itself is not unbelievable. Some people do attend distant schools for whatever reason. However, I've seen this kid walking to and from school before, so I knew he was lying. Pointing it out didn't do any good though.

While we're at it, someone who says yes doesn't necessarily really want to hang out either. One kid I asked said yes, then just flat out ignored me when I tried to talk to him to pick a time. Another kid I invited to watch a movie said yes and I never heard from him again. Yet another said yes but was slow to respond to my messages asking when, beat around the bush whenever he did, and we never settled on a time. One kid said he'd like to come to my house and would message me on Facebook to choose a time but never did. Another chose a time and never showed up.

Finally, keep in mind that just because someone talks to you a lot doesn't mean they'll want to hang out outside of class. This isn't to say that this person probably won't want to hang out with you. Just don't get overconfident thinking that just because there are many people you talk to there are also many people who want to hang out.

[Steve Jobs]

Story of my life dude.
Have you tried joining a club or organization within your college? Meet people through other people? Start up a project outside of school, look up competitions and plan to enter. I've met a lot of people that way :)
It's interesting how one little shared goal, hobby or passion quickly brings someone into your life..

[xmojox]

"Hey, wanna go grab a burger or somethin after class?"

[Second Chance]

It's tough after graduating high school to see friends grow apart because they all end up in different places. Don't feel bad if your old circle of friends are now doing their own thing because it happens to everyone after high school, and a lot of folks end up making a whole new circle of friends after high school which is normal. For the simple fact that everyone ends up in different careers and places that is why your old group of friends have gone their own way.

As for the guy you know at your current school, my suggestion is to use the direct approach and ask him if you both can hang out. Especially since the guy and you talk whenever you see each other and he clearly likes you, then you have nothing to loose. Since you are feeling a bit isolated at your new school it does not hurt to reach out, and I give you credit for trying. I would not feel bad, and chances are the way you are feeling is exactly how the other guy is feeling. Just ask him if he wants to hang out, and take things from there.