Confused and can't figure it out

[JustinCB]

So, let me start off by saying I'm 17. I thought for sure I'd have myself figured out by now, but I don't, and it's getting pretty ridiculous.

Yeah, I masturbate and watch porn like any other teenager, but for me - I don't know what turns me on. I've always thought, "I'm bisexual, nothing more to it", but now I'm questioning that and I can't say which one I believe I am.
And I know labels don't matter, and that I should just go with what feels right - but the thing is, nothing feels right.

For as long as I can remember, I've had a fetish for mens feet. Nothing too big - but it's a fetish I've always had.

When I masturbate to porn, I alternate between gay, lesbian, and straight porn - but I still can never figure out "Is this what I want?". Personally, I know I don't like dick. I know I don't want it in my mouth, and I know I don't want it up my ass.

As for girls, I can see a pair of boobs and think "I like those", but it doesn't mean I'm gonna get a hard-on, and wank off to them. One other thing is vagina. For me, the thought of touching one scares me. Don't ask me why... I think it's similar to my belly button phobia (I'm scared of touching my belly button, idk!) but like, yeah.

I haven't really liked any girls lately, but the last time that I did, I remember telling her and then feeling awkward around her when I found out she felt the same way - so that was the end of all of that.

I've liked several guys lately, and I've actually told them how I felt and although they said they're straight, I'm not sure I could really see myself in a relationship with a guy.

Honestly, I don't know. I wish I did, but I can't figure out who I am. I know in my heart, I want to be with a female. But at the same time, do I want to be with a guy? I guess that depends on the person. But no matter who it is - it comes down to, what turns me on about you? And if I can't figure that out, how am I gonna be in a relationship?

And if I tell somebody I like them, and later find out they might have the same feelings for me, and I get so awkward that I avoid them like I've done in the past - then what? Is it commitment issues, or what is it?

I don't know what to do. I just want to figure all of this out. I'm tired of being depressed over crap that I can't control. /:

[jmaguire24]

Well, that there is quite the situation! At 17, I'd say its safe to wait for college and then expirement! Try out everything and anything there is and hopefully you'll find an answer :D best wishes man!

[fast8]

yea i say you will have to wait a see maybe meet a few pepole to help you figure it out

[johnsmith1]

You are 17, and that is still quite young. The first thing is to accept that you don't have to decide now where you need to be. The previous comment about waiting for colledge is a good idea. A lot of people are still trying to find themselves out, even then. Hopefully you will meet the right person eventually, but there is no rush

[Jae Ostraes]

too young to discover yourself, You have atleast 3 years to think , to discover and to decide.

[paulw]

Don't forget if none of the labels fit, you dont have to use one.

Sexuality is really complicated and sometimes it can vary and sometimes it can just be weird. Its good that you have obviously thought it through and you are open and honest with yourself. But dont put yourself under too much pressure to choose a name for how you feel.

Mostly just relax, go with the flow, do whatever you enjoy at the time. Its better to just be attracted to whoever you are attracted to at that moment, rather than feel like you have to pick a gender or type to go for for life.