Coping With A Forced Breakup

[RockObsessed]

I've been going out with a guy who was literally the guy of my dreams. I know that's extremely cheesy but I really, really liked him. We talked like we were best friends yet he made me feel like I was loved. So things were going great until my mom found out. Some things happened but we promised each other that we would stay together. I guess the guilt of lying took hold and we broke up, but on good terms. He said he just wanted me to be happy but if my mom found out again, the consequences would be much more severe. I'm not mad at him at all but I can't get over him. According to his friends, he hasn't been himself and neither have I. It's eating away at me and I can't concentrate on anything anymore.

Thank you for reading all this and please, please help.

[PinkFloyd]

That sounds like a real tough situation. Just remember that you'll be an adult in under 3 years. I think you should hook up with him then if you can wait.

[Hank Hill]

I'm going through the exact same situation right now. And something that the girl I love and I are doing to help cope with the time until she turns 18 is I went out and bought a matching necklace and bracelet, and we wear them every day and (in an admittedly sort of cheesy way, ;) ) we're together even when we're apart.

Like Rob said, you should just look forward to when you're 18 and keep in touch with him! Don't get in trouble by hanging out a lot, but just because you aren't together shouldn't mean you can't still talk to eachother.

Hopefully this helps! :D

PS: PM me if you need anything else to help with it. I do know what you're going through. Hope I can help!

[TinyDancer]

Its silly but time heals all wounds. I've been there but I have no idea what the future will bring. It's def going to take you sometime before you're able to focus again. I know it doesn't seem like that now but you will look back on it differently. Good luck! Huggs!

[RockObsessed]

Thanks for the advice! I'll be sure to tell him and I'm sure we'll work something out. If not, I guess we'll just be friends until I'm old enough. So I was really shocked for a moment because my boyfriend's name is Tyler and he's also 18. He also bought us matching necklaces so I though you were him :P

But yeah, thanks again for the advice and maybe everything will work out just fine. Oh and good luck with your relationship too!

And to everyone else, I'll be sure to keep your advice in mind too :3

[Hank Hill]

Thanks for the advice! I'll be sure to tell him and I'm sure we'll work something out. If not, I guess we'll just be friends until I'm old enough. So I was really shocked for a moment because my boyfriend's name is Tyler and he's also 18. He also bought us matching necklaces so I though you were him :P

But yeah, thanks again for the advice and maybe everything will work out just fine. Oh and good luck with your relationship too!

And to everyone else, I'll be sure to keep your advice in mind too :3

He must also be stunningly handsome then. Ha :D

Good luck! Best wishes. :)

[azngurl]

Story telling time!!!

So my boyfriend and I basically went through the exact same thing. I come from an Asian family and my parents are super judgemental. Anyway, my boyfriend looked like one of those try hard Asian gangsters, so when my dad found out.. It was a huge nono. We basically broke up and got back together (behind my parents back) several times. About a year ago my mum found out again. This time, she felt sorry for me and decided to keep my secret from dad. From there, she got to know my boyfriend, only to discover that he's actually a lovely person (by this time he had grown out of his "Asian gangster" look). Then my dad found out and was super angry... But he just gave up fighting it. So then he got to know my boyfriend as well. It's taken 3 long years to fight for my relationship. My parents are finally okay with it, now that I'm 16. They love him as if he's a part of the family now.

Basically, if you want it enough... You'll have it in the end. It'll all work out. And the best part about being with my boyfriend now is knowing that we fought for it, to be together this strongly today.

Best of luck to you. <3

[Synyster Shadows]

That sounds like a real tough situation. Just remember that you'll be an adult in under 3 years. I think you should hook up with him then if you can wait.

Agreed. Once you're an adult, your parents can't stop you. Just wait a few more years.