Trouble with Dad...

[Eric57]

This post is probably going to seem a little on immature side, but it is frustrating me so bad.

In my house, we had 3 bedrooms downstairs and then a big bonus room upstairs. The bonus room is above our garage and it is huge. It used to be my dad's "man cave," but the room has been occupied by my older sister for the past 2 years because she moved back home. After those 2 years, she moved out. My dad was going to move back up in that room, but he didn't have a TV to put up there anymore. Because of that, he didn't move back up there. The room was empty for a good 6 months. Eventually I started using the room because it was bigger and I wanted more space. I moved all my stuff up there and have been up for there like maybe 5 months now.

During the hot seasons my dad would put an air conditioner up in that room because it just got really hot. During the winter, he took it out because there was no need for it.. Now it is spring and it is starting to get really hot up there. I have been asking him to put the air conditioner back upstairs, but he refuses and I don't understand why.

I have 2 fans blowing upstairs at all times and it doesn't help anything. He knows it is hot, but he won't do anything about it. I complain about it and ask him to put it back up there, but he won't. He always tell me that if I get hot, move back downstairs.

The thing is, I know for a fact that if it is was him upstairs, he would have put that air conditioner back up in there the second it got hot. But since it is not him, he just doesn't care it seems like. That pisses me off. I truly don't understand why he won't put it back up there.

I know this might seem a little immature, but it is frustrating me to no need. He refuses to do anything about it even though it is clearly an issue with me. I don't know what to do or how to reason with him. It is like he couldn't care less about anybody except for himself. It's like since it is not him upstairs having to endure the heat, he doesn't care. I just don't understand why he is being so damn stubborn about it. And he won't even give me a legit excuse as to why he won't put it up there. He is pissing me off to no end!

[TopThrill]

Don't worry about it. The more you complain, the more likely he is to ignore you. Not really sure what you're using the room for, if it's for satisfying your "needs" or to get away from it all, just chill. He'll come around. If not, I'd recommend finding a stress ball or talking to a school counselor to let out your frustration, cause that's what they're there for!

[HunterSteele]

I can see why this might be frustrating, even if it's trivial. Heat is heat, and even if it seems immature it doesn't make it less hot or uncomfortable.

I'm not sure what kind of air conditioner you have, but I assume there's ducting that needs to be connected? Can you move the air conditioner upstairs yourself, or find another family member to help you? The ducting is not hard to connect. Just one single duct to the vent outside. You need a screwdriver to tighten the ring thingy that secures it (I can't remember what it's called).

Also, lose the fans. Fans move the air, they don't cool it.

[PinkFloyd]

I know this will stupid, but I think you should buy your own window mounted air cinditioner. You can get them from prices in the $100-$800 neighborhood.

[Ghareth]

If it's a heavy in the window one then do all the other stuff like move stuff out of the way and get the insulation stuff ready to go around it and then ask him to help YOU move the air conditioner and maybe he will. Or volunteer to help him with the other ones in the house then say OK let's do mine OK?

[likemike]

Your 19 just move out or or take it yourself

[xmojox]

Offer to pay some for the electricity it uses, assuming you have a job. If you don't, maybe that's the real issue. Just a thought...

[teen.jpg]

#FirstWorldProblems

[Wanderer_]

Have u asked to help him do it?

[Ryhanna]

#FirstWorldProblems

He's already acknowledged that it's a trivial issue, come on. At least contribute to the thread instead of just belittling peoples issues, no matter how small their problem may be.

There are many ways you could go about fixing this. Offer to help him move it, move it yourself if possible (good way to show some independence, also), offer to contribute to the electricity bill if that's why he won't help you. Good luck, it does suck to have a hot and stuffy room.

[teen.jpg]

Yes, but REALLY? Is this really that big of a deal? What advice could we possibly give that he isn't able to come up with yourself.

But instead of being a total jackass I'll reply to the OP. Just help him move it.

[Wanderer_]

OP needs to man up and do it himself, how hard could it be?

[HunterSteele]

#FirstWorldProblems
If you don't want to help, why not just refrain from replying? Just because there are other sorts of problems, why should that mean he can't cool his room?

[Stronk Serb]

#FirstWorldProblems

Pissed my pants laughing.


Message for OP: Dude, do it yourself, there are guides on the internet. I once pulled off my room door, I fixed it back. The only help you might truly need is carrying the AC to your room.