14 year old boy HELP ME! :(

[jmaguire24]

I used to be attracted to girls but over the past year everything has changed and I really don't like it :( I can't get a boner looking at a girl but what makes me more upset is that I can get an erection when I see a penis. Everyday I worry over my sexuality and honestly I don't even know why it bothers me this much but the last thing I want to be it gay. I can't imagine myself ever dating another guy, so why would they turn me on? I've always dreamed of having a wife and kids and now this is just ruining everything! :( please help! What do I do?

[iAmSecret22398]

Hey, don't worry! I was going through the exact same thing about a year ago.
Obviously you can't force your sexuality, but you can influence what you see and interact with. I've had a couple of girlfriends, and through that period I've eventually become more attracted to girls again.

It's most likely a phase that'll pass with time. Try and interact with girls a bit more often, if you don't already.

As a follow up, at this age your hormones are going wild. However, your mind can only think about things it's seen or experienced before (this is why dreams usually have some reference to what happened recently, people you know etc.). Assuming you've only ever experienced sexual acts with yourself, and not with other females, your mind can't really picture what a girl genuinely looks like under her clothes! (Porn doesn't count, it's hardly realistic)
However, your mind can play with images of penises as you have seen and played with your own! If you start to interact with girls a bit more, you might find yourself getting plenty of boners due to girls, especially if you have a girlfriend ;)

[jmaguire24]

This kid... I like this kid. :D thank you sosososososos much! I suddenly feel 101% better about all of this :D

[norcaldude18]

I'm sure you are very scared, and I'm sure you are terrified of the thought that you could be gay. I felt the exact same way that you do right now, but I finally accepted that I was gay. I think most gay guys have these same thought when they are in the denial process. I know you feel like you don't want to date a guy, and you can't be gay, but as you get older and get tired of convincing yourself you're straight, you get more and more comfortable with it.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Don't worry! It happens to me some. I'm bisexual, and It is somewhat like this, except in a more romantic fashion.

[teen.jpg]

Dude, get a hold of yourself. Being gay isn't a bad thing, and isn't something that is supposed to "ruin your dreams". It's just what you like. Doesn't mean any more then that.

[Famos]

It may be a phase or you may just like boys. Whatever the case its who you are so dont stress over it. It will work itself out

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

Seeing as how you just started to get random feelings you are probably just curious and it might blow over in a while, but if it doesn't there's nothing wrong with being gay or bisexual. If you let your sexuality haunt you, you will always feel restrictive of yourself which gets tiring(trust me I know, I did that) but after realizing its okay you feel so free.

[tommy100]

a lot of others have said it, you are probably just being curious and it will pass with time.

[xmojox]

You might be curious, you might be gay, you might be bi. The thing is, whatever you are is what you are, and it's not something that you can control. The important thing is that you realize that not matter what your sexuality winds up being, it's ok and it doesn't make you a bad person. It's pretty common to have some confusion at some point, just always be honest with yourself about you're feeling and be ready to accept yourself regardless.

[Charlie48]

i think everyone goes through "phases" a one point or another.

[The_Hunger_Games]

It's just hormones don't worry

[Andy daMuzak mAn]

Hey man don't worry so much! :) Even if you are gay (or bi)...which you don't have to be sure about now, just go with the flow!... it doesn't have to "ruin your dreams." You can still have kids and be gay or bi! :) It's not illegal, even if some people wished it was illegal. They are ignorant and don't listen to them.

Look, I felt the same way you do for a while and just recently started thinking I'm 100% gay. It's not the end of the world but take your time and everything will work out the way it's supposed to work out! :)

[allanscudder]

Nothing wrong with thinking about other guys sexually

[Thekiid031]

im having the same problem but not as worse... just try to keep your mind occupied with other things, it really helps. dont allow your mind to wander cause thats when you start overthinking things :/

[fast8]

yea your fiine its just a phase you will so enough fine out who you are whatever it is just be happy with yourself its nothing to be upset with or stress out about you will be ok

[dontfiguremeout]

Like everyone said, your just curious. What makes you gay/bi is if you are emotionally attracted to the same gender. Now you haven't really said if you were, so I'm guessing you are straight but very curious, but enough to keep you straight.

[xmojox]

Dude you have a need for doctor consulting.

Why do you say this?