Friend Zone-I want out

[The_Hunger_Games]

So there is this guy on my bus... I like him in a gay way. But I don't know what to do. I think he might suspect me of being gay. Although I kinda get the feel he is gay. What to do I'm only 13 and I don't want to come out of the closet but I do want this guy.

[steellord321]

So there is this guy on my bus... I like him in a gay way. But I don't know what to do. I think he might suspect me of being gay. Although I kinda get the feel he is gay. What to do I'm only 13 and I don't want to come out of the closet but I do want this guy.

If your bus is as loud as mine, u can probly ask and no one else will hear. I mean there's ways to do it then just deny if he reacts bad but yeah it's risky. Or u could get lucky and he's gay but then even if u get this guy are u gonna let others know? Might be tough to hide that.

[fast8]

yea just come out and ask him an play it off if he saids no

[Aves]

Or you could very easily become friends with the guy and when you trust him let him know and see if he might be the same way. Also, you're 13. I know sexuality is weird, but what you might be feeling is just bi-curious. The only reason I bring this up is because you don't want to tarnish your reputation (I'm not sure how 13 year old's view homosexuality) by coming out, especially publicly.

If you're sure though, go the way of becoming friends with him. I mean, think about it. How do straight relationships start, as a general rule? They become friends and then they become closer until they admit their feelings for each other. It should be no different with a homosexual relationship.

[Jae Ostraes]

ask his number, so if anything happens, youre in touch :D

[The_Hunger_Games]

ask his number, so if anything happens, youre in touch :D

How would something happen?

[Jae Ostraes]

How would something happen?


what i mean of " anything happens" is like when you saw him or if he is really a gay, you could communicate with him.

exchange messages, discover him and be close, so you could be sure if he is really gay.
and if yes, it will be easy for you to be with him even you arent coming out yet :)

[The_Hunger_Games]

what i mean of " anything happens" is like when you saw him or if he is really a gay, you could communicate with him.

exchange messages, discover him and be close, so you could be sure if he is really gay.
and if yes, it will be easy for you to be with him even you arent coming out yet :)

How do I know he is gay for sure

[Jamesison]

Just come out ask him or talk about it...

[Phoenix911]

dude just send him a friend request on facebook if y'all aren't mutual friends.if his interested in being your friend he will accept the request. so thats one step closer. then you just talk to him from there. build conversations from there with him and make sure you check for key details in the way he speaks to you online and with other persons.if his the kina guy that doesnt speak much when he socialize with his friends and writes lengthy messages to you then you know somethings up.. wish you all the best dude.. tell us how it turns out for you..

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

Start talking to him. Don't tell him right away because I'm assuming he's a stranger, right? So get to know each other a little and go from there

[Jae Ostraes]

How do I know he is gay for sure

if he wears lipstick? HAHA , lol, See his acts, You could easily distinguish it, if he do things the same as what you do.. :)

[StoneColdNicky]

Well you've said you're in his Friend Zone, but is the only time you see him when you're on the bus? Why don't you try to get a seat next to him and see if you actually have stuff in common, and if you do have something you both like doing, see if he wants to go do it with you some time. Maybe it will become clearer if you get to know him better, somewhere other than the bus, whether he likes you that way too.

[justin 13]

Dude I need to know how u gonna solve this LOL, cuz I have the same problem, There is this guy at school I think I have a crush, but he is older than me I guess he is in 9th grade, and I dont think he is gay but he is very friendly. Tho, I cant come out. social suicidal.

[Second Chance]

I agree with the others that trying to figure out if this guy is gay before getting to know him is not the right way to go. Just get to know the guy first and see if you two can become friends. If you two become really close and open to each other, then you can tell if he is gay/bi/curious. However, that's going to take time to figure out, and you need to get to know the guy first before trying to go beyond that. For all you know this guy could be a jerk, and the only way you can figure that out is by doing what everyone else suggested by becoming friends with the guy first and go from there. Even if the guy is not gay, then at least you have made a new friend.

If coming out is not possible where you live, then you really do not need to do so. Whether you're 12, 17, 20, or 100 your feelings will be what they are, and it is not like you have to come out right away. I would take things a lot more slowly in that area and build up a support network first so that when you do come out (if you turn out to be gay) you'll have folks who'll be there for you.

[Ionizedhelix123]

The only problem with living in Texas just south of Austin is it seems to be the homophobe Capitol of the world I assume it gets better up north