Unsure now

[jayyy-lmao]

I've always been sure of myself, particularly of my sexuality. But I'm not so sure anymore. I'm beginning to think I'm bi or gay. Reasons being:
- I've always been very good at complimenting other girls.
- I've always been very boyish, more than other girls.
- I have been known to crush a lot, but sometimes I wonder if it's to hide that I like girls too.
- I've had strong feelings in the past, when I was younger, towards female teachers who changed my life. I can't remember if they were affectionate feelings, it was too long ago, but it makes me question myself.
- I think I have a crush on one of my best friends.
- I find some of my current female teachers attractive, particularly Ms. Meenagh, my RE teacher.

I'm sorta scared, to be honest, because I don't know if I'd be comfortable with being gay/bi. I have nothing against gays or bis, but I'm not sure how I would cope with being one. I think I'd just be pretty damn confused, and I might try and deny it, but I'd give in.
What do you lot think?
Could I be bi/gay?
Also, do you guys think I should see the guidance counsellor about this? I've been loads of times before, and I'm just so goddamn confused.

THANK YOU GUYS.
You've shown me it's ok to be gay/bi, and that it is what I probably am, but it doesn't matter. Thank you. :)

[Gandalf]

With regard to being boyish, there is little correlation between personality and sexuality, so I wouldn't think about that.
And being able to compliment people is a good skill, maybe you can just compliment girls well because you are a girl and have an opinion that you're willing to share. :)

But overall, it would depend if your feelings were sexual and romantic towards girls, and while it's possible you've tried to suppress (I have in the past) non heterosexual 'feelings' (ok not the best term...) I'd ask yourself if you could see yourself with another girl? You could just be curious, I'd avoid trying to label yourself. It really doesn't do anything good in the long run.

[Meh Guy]

Possible, or you could be a "tomboy" kinda of thing

[jayyy-lmao]

Ok, I just want to add some stuff.
This was really bothering me, so I told two of my friends, and they were accepting of it. But the thing is, I think I have a crush on one of them. Like, she's just the most amazing thing ever. I was talking to my other friend, who had been through the same thing, and she was saying how I shouldn't worry, but I can't help it. I don't know if I'm bi, or gay, or if I'm straight. I'm just really, really confused. Can anyone give me any advice? Like, how can I know? Please, I just want to put my mind at ease.

[xmojox]

I know this is easy to say, hard to do, but don't stress over it. The only way I can tell you how to do that is to just understand that if you are gay or bi there's nothing you can do about it, and in the end, it's not a world shattering thing. As to helping you figure things out, first please understand that confusion regarding one's sexuality is fairly common at our age. Mine seems to change daily sometimes. You can do some deep, honest soul-searching. Picture yourself in different situations, and take note of how you feel. Ask yourself the hard questions and be honest with your answers.

And please realize, that no matter what your sexuality is, you are a good person, and it's ok.

I'm sorry I didn't have any grand fool-proof answers for you, but I hope that I helped in some small way. If talking would help, feel free to PM me any time.

[jayyy-lmao]

I know this is easy to say, hard to do, but don't stress over it. The only way I can tell you how to do that is to just understand that if you are gay or bi there's nothing you can do about it, and in the end, it's not a world shattering thing. As to helping you figure things out, first please understand that confusion regarding one's sexuality is fairly common at our age. Mine seems to change daily sometimes. You can do some deep, honest soul-searching. Picture yourself in different situations, and take note of how you feel. Ask yourself the hard questions and be honest with your answers.

And please realize, that no matter what your sexuality is, you are a good person, and it's ok.

I'm sorry I didn't have any grand fool-proof answers for you, but I hope that I helped in some small way. If talking would help, feel free to PM me any time.

I told a friend of mine earlier, and I feel so much better. She helped me understand, and it made sense. She's just helped me a ton. I feel comfortable with the idea of being gay or bi now. Thank you for those kind and encouraging words. :)

[xmojox]

I told a friend of mine earlier, and I feel so much better. She helped me understand, and it made sense. She's just helped me a ton. I feel comfortable with the idea of being gay or bi now. Thank you for those kind and encouraging words. :)

I'm glad you're feeling better :D and you're very welcome!

[Twilly F. Sniper]

You could be... it doesn't matter. I believe anyone and everyone should treat each other with respect

What is right is not always popular,
What is popular is not always right.
Romans 12:2

[jayyy-lmao]

You could be... it doesn't matter. I believe anyone and everyone should treat each other with respect

What is right is not always popular,
What is popular is not always right.
Romans 12:2

Thanks! I understand that I should avoid labels as much as possible, and that it doesn't really matter who I like. It's my life, not anyone else's.