Gay but curious?

[Ajone0297]

So I think of myself being a very educated person in general... I do not like labels persay but what would label yourself if in my position; I am attracted to men, I fantasize about them and not women, but in the past I have looked at bi Sexuality explicit videos and '' got off'' on them. I don't not wish to start a relationship with a women or fantasize about them with out pornographic material, thirdly I do not see myself wanting to have any Sexual experience with a woman. I do not know why I am concerned about this but we'll I guess I'm just curious to see what other people think...

[paulw]

That's okay, most people aren't totally 100% anything and what turns them on can vary a bit from any label.

If you are attracted to men and fantasize about them and not women, you are probably mostly gay. But its like the same conversations as when people say things like 'I like girls and only think about girls, but if I see a naked guy with a boner, sometimes I get a boner too'. You are human so you will get turned on by lots of things it doesnt really matter or change who you are.

I think if u read all the threads where people are saying it the other way round, but switch it over in your mind between straight and gay, you will get the idea! Curiosity is natural.

Always remember though that u dont have to call yourself anything u don't want to. Just enjoy being whoever you are and what ever u like.

[Meh Guy]

As the above poster said, it can vary. You sound like you are gay, or at the least very bi curious.

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Nobody is 100% gay or straight. It fluctuates.

[steellord321]

Nobody is 100% gay or straight. It fluctuates.

Well I'm 100% gay and I'm sure there's others like that. Its like when some say bisexual isn't real, i bet that gets old.

OP you've come across where labels can be useful, when it helps ya stop worrying. Since u ask, it sounds gay, but we aren't in your head so only u can figure that out in time i'm afraid.

[teen.jpg]

Well I'm 100% gay and I'm sure there's others like that. Its like when some say bisexual isn't real, i bet that gets old.

Why would you say that? Everyone has feelings for both genders at certain points. It doesn't make you any less gay.

[ImCoolBeans]

When you're all ready to go, I don't think it really matters what you're watching to be honest, unless it's a complete turn off. I know gay guys who will watch straight or bisexual porn just for a change of pace and it doesn't change their sexualities. It's just a matter of being turned on by something sometimes and going for it. I personally don't have a physical attraction nor an emotional attraction to woman, but could probably do that if I made myself. A lot of gay guys start off by dating girls to fit in, and some of them even seriously date them and get involved with them sexually. A wise man (well maybe coked out but still a little wise) named Mick Jagger once said "You can't always get what you want" and he was very right -- when I couldn't get what I wanted because I wasn't confident enough in myself to be open and free with my sexuality I settled for dating girls and being involved with them because it was "what normal guys do". I later saw that to be a very stupid thing that only wound up hurting me and the girls I had dated and stopped doing that. With all that being said, all I'm trying to say is that even though you have no attraction to girls and don't desire them, it isn't impossible to get off to them or make yourself do so.

[steellord321]

Why would you say that? Everyone has feelings for both genders at certain points. It doesn't make you any less gay.

If i felt that way about girls ever i would just say so and maybe get less crap for it. Its not a huge deal but just to clarify , i'm pretty sure some are 100% gay/str8.

Anyway i don't think the OP is asking for a strict %