insecurity

[Gumleaf]

now from the start i will point out that i am not gay. i am very much into girls, i have a girlfriend and loving it. but i'm also a sensitive person who is genuinely concerned and worry about my friends, especially those going through hard times. i always like to check in with my friends just to see if they are ok just for no particular reason other then i'm interested in their life. i am a 'touchy feely' person who does not find hugging, etc embarassing or even an issue at all. when i'm having difficulties in my life there is nothing i like more then a friend to listen to my problems and help me find a solution. now these things and more are just the way i am. in the past few days/weeks i have heard things mentioned (not on vt) that this sort of personality is generally found in homosexual people. now i know not to take much notice of the media, but i am after some reassurance. what i want to know is if you met a guy who fitted the discription of myself, would you think they are gay, and why and why not? thanks.

[Whisper]

No i wouldn't think they were gay

Your more in touch with your feminine side then most guys but that isn't a bad thing nor does it mean your automatically gay

I'm similar

People are going to talk
If not about this then something else
they will always find something man
don't let it get to you
there not worth it mate

[Sapphire]

No, I wouldn't. It's all just stereotypes. Everyone is human and it is human to need hugs, reassurance, support and love.

[Maverick]

No, I wouldn't. I actually have a friend like that. No matter what your personality is people are going to talk crap so you might as well be yourself. People can appreciate how you are and as for anyone else, not worth your time.

[redcar]

I wouldn't personally.

BUT I know a lot of people that would and this is because there is a terrible sterotype associated with being gay and if you show any sort of emotion or feeling and you are a guy then you face the risk of being labelled gay, which is totally wrong. I blame this on an uninformed society.

[[[chickaroo92]]]

Listen to everyone else, man.
Lot's of guys are like that, it doesn't mean they're gay...
it just means that they care.

[mobile]

Im exactly the same mate, I always hug my mates and like to have them their for me when I need them and I am not gay. Doesnt make any difference In my opinion dude

[need_of_help]

my absolute best friend is like that and hes had more girls than me he's also more of a pervert i don't like stereotypes at all and thats exactly what it is

[byee]

It's a sad day when characteristics like yours are somehow denigrated by some.

Being aware, caring, being sensitive, leading with your heart, are all virtues that often seem to be in short supply these days. And like people who are in the minority, who aren't like 'everyone else', they're often viewed with suspicion and hostility by those blokes too insecure (or plain ignorant) to truly understand what they're missing.

I think there are people out there who, like yourself, are aware and caring, some of whom might be straight and some, gay. Likewise, I'm sure there are alot of truly ignorant, head-in-the-sand gays, too. Personality characteristics are not indicative (as far as i know, anyway) of one's sexual orientation. They're different.

[RaisingSand]

I hate stereotyping, and that's basically what this is. Good on you for not being afraid to hug people and be sensitive. :) The way most girls see it, that's a good quality to have.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

I wouldnt see you as gay. I am that same way, I would just say that you are a kind, loving person, not gay. (Not to say homosexuals arent nice or loving :D)

[Gumleaf]

thanks to everyone who responded and i appreciate all your words. i like the person i am and i like the fact that i remember my friends birthdays, support and love and care for my friends, listen to my friends problems, be sensitive and show emotion, hug my friends, take genuine interest in their lives and enjoy their company when i'm in down times. so i am happy being the person i am.

[LateForTheSky]

now from the start i will point out that i am not gay. i am very much into girls, i have a girlfriend and loving it. but i'm also a sensitive person who is genuinely concerned and worry about my friends, especially those going through hard times. i always like to check in with my friends just to see if they are ok just for no particular reason other then i'm interested in their life. i am a 'touchy feely' person who does not find hugging, etc embarassing or even an issue at all. when i'm having difficulties in my life there is nothing i like more then a friend to listen to my problems and help me find a solution. now these things and more are just the way i am. in the past few days/weeks i have heard things mentioned (not on vt) that this sort of personality is generally found in homosexual people. now i know not to take much notice of the media, but i am after some reassurance. what i want to know is if you met a guy who fitted the discription of myself, would you think they are gay, and why and why not? thanks.

I'd just think your a nice guy!:D nothing gay about that.