Forever Alone: Never had a BF

[JPandoWicks]

Hello, I am 14 years old and I'm having a stage in my life where I need to feel love, to be loved, to give love. I am Bisexual and I have done sexual things with a girl but have never been in a relationship or had any close guy friends. I know some people will say you will find someone or you are too young for a relationship anyway. I just want to be able to kiss a boy and tell him I love him. I'm feeling increasingly lonely and my younger sister is starting her second relationship while I am struggling to even make a male friend. The hardest part is getting to know people. Everyone is in their own little social groups and I can't just walk over and be friends with them all. Nobody appears to have any sort of a crush on me and I don't know what to do to find someone... Even if it's just for a little while :(

[Captain Who]

Well, Kinda simular to me, Do you have a crush on anyone? If so why not take it slow with them..? Also, this will sound crazy but what about if you have any online friends, take it slow with them...?! If you are that desperate anyway >.<

[OFD-Lt.Mark]

I am a guy, so I'm not sure how much weight my advice will carry or if you even wanna hear it or not but im still gonna give my two cents.

First off,
If you are living in a shell when a guy comes around or clamming up (Not accusing or trying to be mean) guys WILL notice. You need to show...a wilder side...not saying screw every guy you see I am just saying open up and talk (not to much) to any guy you woudnt mind dating. Flirt alot, and dont be scared to ask a guy if he wants to go to the mall or movies or something with you. Dont make it sound like your desperate because they will notice that to. Just go with the flow and see where it takes you.

Let me know if i can help in any way :P

[Haydenn3]

I am sort of the same but im not bi and i cant seem to find a relationship with a girl i have had previous relations but nothing to serious and being 16 it kills me to not be doing normal things but i think i have found the problem why i think im in this situation because im not very outgoing i have 3 very close girl friends who i never want to get with as they re like family well except for one i do have a crush on her but thats another story i think its because im to reserved and maybe i give of needy signals because girls are great at pick them up ahaa

I just realized im meant to be helping not telling my problems sorry ahaa
i think its maybe your just to closed of and dont worry so much love comes when you least expect it i know its hard to take that serious because i cant thats why im not in a relationship i think is because im to shy and not putting myself out there making an impression
Sorry i didnt help much :)

[gipsy danger]

just talk to some guys in your class. and get to know them take it slow. sooner or later one will like you :) guys like confidence :D I hoped I helped

[Imfeelinglostagain]

I'm 16 and haven't had anything close to a boyfriend! You're 14 why are you in such a rush to grow up? Enjoy life and hang with your friends and just wait until highschool!

[boring_guy]

Yeah, go slow. I know how you feel, but you really can't rush it. I just had my first relationship and I'm a Junior in High School.

On another note, as a guy, I find girls who do their own thing very attractive. Be an individual. And as a shy guy, having a girl start the conversation really helps. Seriously, most guys (the good ones) like me are merely sitting & waiting for a girl while we work up our courage to make a move ourselves.

Back to the rushing thing, definitely take it slow. The reason my relationship ended so abruptly was because it was over hyped & rushed.

[Jean Poutine]

Had my first girlfriend at 21, so if I could wait that long, you can too.

[CharlieHorse]

Hello, I am 14 years old and I'm having a stage in my life where I need to feel love, to be loved, to give love. I am Bisexual and I have done sexual things with a girl but have never been in a relationship or had any close guy friends. I know some people will say you will find someone or you are too young for a relationship anyway. I just want to be able to kiss a boy and tell him I love him. I'm feeling increasingly lonely and my younger sister is starting her second relationship while I am struggling to even make a male friend. The hardest part is getting to know people. Everyone is in their own little social groups and I can't just walk over and be friends with them all. Nobody appears to have any sort of a crush on me and I don't know what to do to find someone... Even if it's just for a little while :(

I feel EXACTLY the same way as you, only I'm a straight guy.
I've felt this way for almost 2 years now.
All I want is a wonderful girl that I can cuddle up to and tell I love her. A girl that will love me for being the fun goofy guy I am, and will do fun things with me.
A girl that I can give everything for.

I feel so lonely :(

[BebeFleur.]

I feel EXACTLY the same way as you, only I'm a straight guy.
I've felt this way for almost 2 years now.
All I want is a wonderful girl that I can cuddle up to and tell I love her. A girl that will love me for being the fun goofy guy I am, and will do fun things with me.
A girl that I can give everything for.

I feel so lonely :(

I feel the EXACT same way. :( I mean, I am not waiting for that Prince to come along and save me from a miserable life (Princes to be conceited, lol :P). I just want the person meant for someone. Someone I can talk, have a nice time with, and... oh great, here I go again with a too long story. :P

[chezhans]

Oh don't say that...even me being a male, sometimes you get that. Don't worry...it will arrive eventually.

[Cooper197]

Honestly, I think 14 is a little young, and I know you don't want to hear it, but please hear me out on this one.
I started dating my current girlfriend when we were 14, that is coming up on 3 years ago. Although the way things worked out for us, it is a good thing we didn't wait until we were 15 or 16, since it may not have happened then due to her moving, the maturity level makes a difference. Trust me, I get what you are saying, I'm sure we all do, but at the same time looking back now we all seem to be in such a rush to grow up that we forget to do things that we should. One huge issue now that I have from dating Anna starting at 14, is the time I spent with her and not my family. I'm getting ready to go to college in another year, and realizing this I try to spend as much time with my parents and siblings as possible, all things I took for granted before since I just "had time," which goes by insanely fast.
WITH ALL OF THAT SAID,
This is probably the part you will listen to, I know I would have listened to this over what I said above at your age
What I looked for in a girl when I was 14, somebody who was confident, not always an easy find, or easy to be but if you can be confident in yourself it makes a HUGE difference. Kind/caring/compassionate, nobody wants to date somebody who is just a jerk, doesn't care about anything and so forth. Somebody who has a dynamic personality, I find those who are just always the same to be very boring. Be able to change to your situation, when it needs somebody to be fun and exciting, be that person, just don't do something stupid to get attention or make it exciting, when it's time for more serious deep conversations and things, go there. Do it. Be into it.
Above all, realize the guy who likes you (somebody will) is just as scared to talk to you, if not more, than you are to go talk to him. If neither of you act on it, nothing will ever happen. So be confident, and go for it. The worst that happens is they say no, but seriously at least think about maybe waiting a bit longer. I think it'll help.

[Elysium]

I'm the same way, and I'm older than you, except I haven't had any type of relations whatsoever with anyone.

[scott757]

Yea I'm a guy and I really need to give my affection to someone, I know who it is and I am seriously friendzoned :(

Anyway, to your own problem - I would say (I always say this) I have found that online messaging helps a lot, chatting over facebook or whatever I really think especially for shy people like you, I am too, that having the computer screen there seems to help with the nervousness of talking to them, give it a shot and message someone you like, but don't be seen to going round all the guys, trust me, if a nice girl was to start messaging me I would be over the moon :P

[teen.jpg]

Hello, I am 14 years old and I'm having a stage in my life where I need to feel love, to be loved, to give love. I am Bisexual and I have done sexual things with a girl but have never been in a relationship or had any close guy friends. I know some people will say you will find someone or you are too young for a relationship anyway. I just want to be able to kiss a boy and tell him I love him. I'm feeling increasingly lonely and my younger sister is starting her second relationship while I am struggling to even make a male friend. The hardest part is getting to know people. Everyone is in their own little social groups and I can't just walk over and be friends with them all. Nobody appears to have any sort of a crush on me and I don't know what to do to find someone... Even if it's just for a little while :(

I feel the same damn way. The worst feeling you can every feel is loneliness.

I've liked a couple guys this year, and it's all just been a huge disappointment for me. But I'm not giving up, because eventually I'll find the one for me.

[handle with care]

hey don't worry you'll find someone and when you do take things slow.

[Fanta_Lover44]

Hello, I am 14 years old and I'm having a stage in my life where I need to feel love, to be loved, to give love. I am Bisexual and I have done sexual things with a girl but have never been in a relationship or had any close guy friends. I know some people will say you will find someone or you are too young for a relationship anyway. I just want to be able to kiss a boy and tell him I love him. I'm feeling increasingly lonely and my younger sister is starting her second relationship while I am struggling to even make a male friend. The hardest part is getting to know people. Everyone is in their own little social groups and I can't just walk over and be friends with them all. Nobody appears to have any sort of a crush on me and I don't know what to do to find someone... Even if it's just for a little while :(

Hey, I feel like this all the time, i'm not really close with anyone. Never had a proper relationship with someone and plus no-one really likes me soo. I might as well just grow up and meet someone nice, theres someone waiting for me....