Just leave me alone

[VEight]

My friend Livi (a girl) treats me like shit. She does this to me exclusively, finding a way to ruin my day any chance that she gets. She calls me names (calling me a faggot so much it might as well be my name.) She'll undermine me in front of my friends, bringing up things that I entrusted to her months ago. She tries to boss me around, essentially making me her bitch, she'll tell me to shut up like I am some sort of dog.
We used to be good friends, almost inseparable like family. But now our relationship is so fucked up I cant even have a normal converstation with her.
I cant hit her, I cant cuss her out or insult her like I would do to any other asshole just because shes a girl and thinks she has some type of dominance over me just because I respect women and would never purposely hurt them (even if they are the spawn of Satan himself.)
The second I say something back to show her that she's going to far, "oh dont trip, you know I am just joking" I cant ask my friends for help, they'll lose respect for me if they ever found out I am bending to a girl. I dont see how I put up with it, or how I havent stabbed her in the jugular with a pencil
I am at a loss. Nothing I say will get to her. NOTHING.
A girl I know in my 1st period even noticed, Saying "so are you like her bitch or something?"
I don't need to get back at her or anything, Karma will do that for me. I just need her to get THE FUCK AWAY FROM ME. Otherwise I just might send her back to the ditch in hell that she spawned from. I swear she is the anti-christ. Please Virtual Teen I need your advice :(

[Caldwell]

She doesn't sound like she's your friend anymore. Also, don't commit homicide, please. You have two options here, at least, in my view:

A: Be direct, tell her you don't like the way she treats you. Explain that, even though she may be joking, it is hurtful and you don't feel like you can trust her anymore. The positives is that she may just leave you alone, albeit strongly dislike you, but who knows. She sounds like a bad person who may have an explosive reaction, so this might not be the best.

B: Slowly pull away from her. Talk less, find more opportunities to be away from her. Try and befriend other people. Do you have any 'side-friends?' I did back in Elementary school. Whenever I would get into a fight with a friend, I had another person I could fall back on and be closer to for a while. If not, see if you can make some. Don't just use them as tools, though. Use it as an opportunity to meet new people and make new friends. For somebody who sounds as emotionally stable as her, this might actually be the best. It may be subtle enough, and not as provocative, for her to just move on or not even really notice.



Please tell me what happens, I'm interested to see how this turns out. I hope all goes well!

[Haydenn3]

Just like he said above she isnt a real friend tell her to sort it out or just befriend her

[Castle of Glass]

Two things:

first: love the user name

Second(all this is how i would solve this): She would not be my friend anymore, i would ignore her, if she tells you to shut up, keep talking. Do what ever you want. I respect girls also, but if they are fucking annoying, i don't give a shit about them. Also, i would somehow every discreetly get her to hit me, so i could beat the shit out of her(in self defense)

there are two jerks on my wrestling team who keep annoying the fuck out of me. never can go 1v1 on them cuz they are pussies and always need each others so it is a 2v1. I know when i have the better odds or not so i drop it. but i have sprinted across our wrestling room and beat the shit out of one of them before the other could react. im huge and clumsy but when i need to be or am pissed i am a beast

also, a girl once kept annoying me and slapping me for no reason. then one of her friend's told her to hit my groin. As she was going for it, blocked her, took her down and nearly made her faint. her friends get a teacher to get me in trouble. but lucky for me, another teacher saw and heard the entire thing and get me out of trouble and get the two girls suspended for 3 weeks. after that they didn't ever annoy me.
but yea. ignore her and if she harms you in anyway(can be a slap, but needs to be forceful) use self defense

[PinkFloyd]

I know this is the absolute last thing you want to hear, but I think you need to tell her you have something very important to talk to her about. Tell her that you are going to speak your mind weather she likes it or not. After you've done that, you need to tell her that she has been really abusive and you want it to stop. When saying all this, use a calm, nice tone and do not insult her at all. If she does it afterwards, ask her if she can recall at all you insulting or in her case "messing around." And that you don't think you deserve all her shit.

[xmojox]

There's one thing you can tell her that will get to her. Goodbye.

Respecting women in NO way means that you have to submit yourself to abuse and betrayal of trust. This person is not your friend. Tell her goodbye, and mean it.

[Jamesison]

She is not a real freind I would not bother with her anymore thats so not cool...

[Stronk Serb]

When she tells you to shut up, calls you names, make that authority voice and say these 5 words:
"Your word has no value."
Or something similar like "No, I think not." or a good ol' "Nope.". Just tell her to fuck off without insulting her.