Need help with a decision...

[UKRaven32]

Hey guys and gals, this is my first post on VT and just wanna say it's great to be able to be anonymous about this and open at the same time :), Here's my predicament:

So shortly before my 14th birthday, I asked out a girl called Erin. We were pretty close, but not close enough at the time. Plus, I dressed like a tramp and wasn't the kind of guy you would want to be seen with.

After being rejected I decided the best course of action was to get a haircut and get some new clothes. It worked! Girls wanted to be around me more and I felt more confident afterwards. During the next few weeks I slowly started getting closer to Erin and just after new years eve I asked her out again. She said this time 'I don't know because it will be too awkward as soon as we get a title placed on it. " which I understood and told her it's fine but carried on trying to get with her.

So on valentines day she had a little get together (which I went to) and watched a few films. We both gave each other a valentines present, but no dice. I managed to get to her privately in her room (just talking :P) and I told her I loved her but I didn't ask her out. Remember that. There was an awkward silence and then she said I don't know what to say, we hugged but then left it there because a friend was leaving and she needed to say goodbye.

After that experience,up until now I've avoided the subject because in my head I don't think I can get her to say yes to me. But after all I didn't ask her out so that could have been my fault. I just talk to her normally now, not trying to win her over or anything like that. But I can't get over her. I really want to ask her but there's a big problem;
Her sister, Alisha.

Now, with Alisha I've been talking to her more and more and have grown fond of her. I'm at the point where it would be a good idea to ask her out, but I still can't get over Erin, even though I probably won't get with her.

Plus, Alisha being her sister I would get a lot of sh*t at school for just' moving on to the other twin' when they don't know half the story...
So, what's your guys' opinion? What should I do? Who should I ask or should I just forget it?

Thanks, from a a very confused teenager :S

[xmojox]

First, IMO that was way too soon to use the "L" word. I'm guessing that's why she didn't know what to say. It made it awkward for her.

If you think you wanna get with her sister and that her sister would like to get with you, then go for it and don't worry about what the gossips at school say. If you wanna get with her sister just because she's her sister and it's some kinda vicarious thing, then you should absolutely not get with her. It all depends on your true motives.

Good luck to you.

[Gandalf]

As the above poster said, you should choose the person you genuinely care about and want a relationship with, and if it's the second sister, whether the gossip and scandal is worth it.

Think very carefully and do what seems right :)

[unnamed94]

you shouldnt care about what people at school think about anything that you choose to do. it seems erin doesnt like you back. you can move on (about dating her) or wait to see if she suddenly starts seeing you as something more than a friend, which i dont think will happen after you asked her out twice and you told her you loved her. my advice would be to keep being friends with her but dont expect anything else to happen. on the subject of her twin, just do what you feel is right. if you think you really like her and you are over her sister then ask her out.

[UKRaven32]

Thanks for the help guys, it's much appreciated! I'm gonna call it quits on Erin because it's obvious she won't turn any time soon. I don't like Alisha just because she's erins sister, quite far away from it actually. I like her because we're really close and in think she genuinely does care about me (like I do for her). But I digress, thanks for the help guys, maybe I can bring some good news in a week or so :)

[OFD-Lt.Mark]

Damn, thats a hard one. I say that you should just go out with the new girl and move on. Dont risk your friendship by being pushy.