Friend issues

[booboo22]

So im in college and joined a group of really good friends, and everything was great! I felt like my life was perfect! Anytime they would get people together for activity x, I was included. Activity x costs money but when I offered to help pay, one guy said no one expects to be reimbursed. So that was cool. I have a car so when anyone asked for a ride, we would all get together and go to Walmart or to get ice cream.

More recently though, I've still been the one to drive to places and this one guy still comes to borrow my vaccine or whatever. But I've not been included in activity x. I had always thought we all had fun with it... But every time they are about to go, one guy comes to grab my roommate but only gives him a signal and he grabs his stuff and leaves. I know what they are doing but they no longer invite me... I'm feeling left out and don't know if I did something wrong or what...

What should I do?

[Harley Quinn]

You need to confront them, in a respectful way and ask what you've done to make them isolate you from the activity. You'll never know if you don't ask, and communication is key in friendships. Say that you really had a good time with them and you can't understand why you're being isolated. If they tell you, and you don't accept that reason, that's fair enough but you should ask basically.

[TerryBerry622]

maybe its because they don't find you any fun
maybe you should try and talk to them. ask them why they're not inviting you anymore.
thats the simplest best answer. either talk to them or find new friends

[Gandalf]

You couldn't really know whether your friends are being unfair or not unless you could determine why you were left out, so I'd casually ask and see how they respond, it might be that they just realised it's not your idea of fun or that they just want a change for a bit and decided to do something together rather than as a group.

You just need to be able to accept the consequences of whatever they respond with.

If you want to spend more time with them arrange an activity which you'd all enjoy and it will remind your friends that nothing really has changed and be a good opportunity tto be together and have some fun.

You appear to have only been a good friend to these people, so I don't think there'd be anything wrong in the long term :)