Bisexual Friend

[TheWaterPrince]

Okay so my friend (I'll call him Jake) is bi. I know and he's told me before that he's somewhat attracted to me. So there was this whole series of events that ended with my gf worried and another friend irritated but that's essentially blown over now but I still like Jake (as a friend) and still want to be close to him and I don't feel weird about his attraction to me but my gf doesn't quite understand how Im not uncomfortable around him so I have two questions; one, would you be uncomfortable around a friend of yours like Jake and two, how can I explain to my gf that Im not uncomfortable around Jake? Sorry for such a long post you guys but to those who take the time to read and provide an opinion thanks alot.

[Cicero]

Okay so my friend (I'll call him Jake) is bi. I know and he's told me before that he's somewhat attracted to me. So there was this whole series of events that ended with my gf worried and another friend irritated but that's essentially blown over now but I still like Jake (as a friend) and still want to be close to him and I don't feel weird about his attraction to me but my gf doesn't quite understand how Im not uncomfortable around him so I have two questions; one, would you be uncomfortable around a friend of yours like Jake and two, how can I explain to my gf that Im not uncomfortable around Jake? Sorry for such a long post you guys but to those who take the time to read and provide an opinion thanks alot.

I wouldn't feel that weird or uncomfortable. Just explain to her saying that you value your friendship with him and that she can trust you to not do anything with him. She's probably worried, because it'd be like a girl interested in you except its a guy. It's like if you knew a close friend of hers who was a girl liked her, you'd probably get a tad worried or jealous. So just reassure her that nothing will happen between the two of you.

[TerryBerry622]

I would be comfortable
I would be accepting of the fact he/she likes me
infact I would be flattered. your girlfriend and friend need to lighten up seriously
you stated you don't feel the same way back so leave it at that
as long as you have clarified that then everything should be fine

[jayyy-lmao]

Maybe, for a while I'd be uncomfortable, but I'd get used to it. I would try say "Jake has been my friend for a long time, and this doesn't change that."

[DerBear]

Family and Friends :arrow: Teen Sexuality. I think you'll get more relevant replies here

[Troy35216]

his sexuality is irrelevant. he is your friend so of course you are comfortable with him.
as for your gf, i still say his sexuality is irrelevant. would she feel the same way about you hanging out with a girl who was into you but that you only liked as a friend? If the answer is "no" then she either has a problem with bi/gay guys or for some reason she thinks he's gonna "convert" you or something which is dumb. If the answer is "yes" then the problem is that you have a very jealous gf who will never let you hang with anyone of either sex who likes you. In that case you have to make a choice. your gf or your friends. personally the message I get is she doesn't trust you which doesn't say a lot about the relationship so I know who I would choose but that is just me.

[xmojox]

his sexuality is irrelevant. he is your friend so of course you are comfortable with him.
as for your gf, i still say his sexuality is irrelevant. would she feel the same way about you hanging out with a girl who was into you but that you only liked as a friend? If the answer is "no" then she either has a problem with bi/gay guys or for some reason she thinks he's gonna "convert" you or something which is dumb. If the answer is "yes" then the problem is that you have a very jealous gf who will never let you hang with anyone of either sex who likes you. In that case you have to make a choice. your gf or your friends. personally the message I get is she doesn't trust you which doesn't say a lot about the relationship so I know who I would choose but that is just me.

This. Exactly this.

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one, would you be uncomfortable around a friend of yours like Jake

No, but I guess I would be kind of biased since I'm bisexual myself. I know, probably not the answer you wanted. :D

and two, how can I explain to my gf that Im not uncomfortable around Jake? Sorry for such a long post you guys but to those who take the time to read and provide an opinion thanks alot.

Tell her that Jake is your FRIEND, nothing more nothing less. If she can't understand that, then explain to her how you feel. If it is really that big of a problem, looks like you're going to have to choose between your friend and your girlfriend.

P.S. I'm in the exact opposite of this situation right now. Irony works in wondrous ways.

[NickTheBest]

maybe, for a while i'd be uncomfortable, but i'd get used to it. I would try say "jake has been my friend for a long time, and this doesn't change that."

same

[steellord321]

I think a lot of times is not mistrust but maybe she has insecurity issues that she can get past. Maybe if she hangs out with u both some time she'll see that he's not a threat. That's really sweet that u stick by your friend though. Need more people like u :)