Why the way you look actually does matter

[Helena]

You probably see many people say, "I'll love anyone I fall in love with" or "it's character that counts..." Truth is, if you're "ugly" and fat, you will get an ugly and fat partner. In all seriousness, it does matter how you look like. Yes, character matters more, but people won't want to know you if you have poor hygiene and you don't look attractive.

The whole point of dating is for reproduction. You are all just chemicals. If you're "chemicals" don't look like they'll have a high chance of survival, then you're off the list of possible mates.

I'm posting this rant because I just really hate how ugly girls complain about either not getting hot guys, or only getting asked to have sex, or getting ugly boyfriends and thinking they're too good for them. It's so annoying. Vice versa for W̬͉̭̪̠̗͛͊̉̉̃͑A̝͇̟͙̋ͫĪ̮̾͗̃͂ͣͦT
So yes, personality does matter most. If this guy/girl is going to marry you, they're looks will fade eventually. But you'll never meet this guy/girl if you dress like a slob and don't take showers and go to mcDonalds every single day.

[unnamed94]

i gotta comment that not everyone that is fat and ugly end up with a partner like him/her. its all about confidence and self esteem, but obviously no one likes a guy/girl that doesnt take care about their body at all. i know a lot of people (including myself) that dont really put much atention if the other person is fat or not, as long as they have a nice personality and a healthy life style. in the end, you fall in love with someones personality, physical appearance is just what attracts you at first.

[Ryhanna]

No offence, but this is a fairly pessimistic point of view, and it's not necessarily true.

Sure, it's likely that 'attractive' people will seek other 'attractive' people, but I know plenty of couples who are total opposites in terms of looks, but love each other regardless. Looks do matter, but ultimately, most people aren't going to settle down without someone hot who treats them like dirt.

[Rayquaza]

Appearance =/= hygiene. Of course I'm not going to go out with someone who's not hygienic, it's filthy. But they can be not even that attractive and smell lovely, as long as I love them, it's all that counts.

Anyway, this is a really controversial topic. It's a long going debate about how each human is a slave to just have sex to keep producing offspring so that over time, humans evolve into coping with the Earth's challenges; survival of the fittest, but let's not dwell on that.

And what do you mean by "McDonalds every single day?" Has it ever occurred to you that people actually meet in McDonalds, or any other simple restaurant? You've basically said "if you look a bit scruffy and eat at a fast food chain, you're not going to get a partner." That's totally wrong.

And yes, the way you look will matter if you're attracting people, but it's not vital for love. Love can surprise you, and spring out in many ways, looks are just a tiny part of this massive spectrum.

[Harley Quinn]

The whole point of dating is for reproduction. You are all just chemicals. If you're "chemicals" don't look like they'll have a high chance of survival, then you're off the list of possible mates.


If that's the case, you just proved that homosexuality doesn't exist. I wonder how that one works, really I do. Congratulations though, you tried.

[BebeFleur.]

Hygiene is different from appearance. I want someone clean, but I don't care about hair and stuff.

"Ugly" is a sterotype. Everyone is ugly, everyone is sexy. It depends on how you look at them.

Why does it seem like "ugly" and overweight people are together? Because they UNDERSTAND about inner beauty. They get the low self esteem and that it's what's on the inside that counts.

[Jess]

The whole point of dating is for reproduction. You are all just chemicals. If you're "chemicals" don't look like they'll have a high chance of survival, then you're off the list of possible mates.

I completely and utterly disagree with this. Why does it always have to end in having kids kids kids? Why can't I date, marry, but not have to have kids? That's what I want. I never want to have children.

[anyone50]

I don't know about where you live but where i'm from i rarely see the perfect couples together you know the guy is athletic and extremely easy on the eyes and the girl is prom queen. What i have noticed is most couples i see together one is always more attractive than the other sometimes it the girl and sometime it's the guy and the same can be said for weight one is usually a little more over weight than the other. and i have to agree with the other posters about the hygiene. You may not always have as much control as you would like about your looks and weight but how you take care of what you have is totally on you. Don't use the excuse your not beautiful enough to get a guy if it's your hygiene that keeps them away. I believe there is someone for everyone.

[DerBear]

Like others have said. Hygiene is different than appearance. I don't want to go out with a girl with very poor hygiene because I am quite sensitive when it comes to hygiene and someone who smells bad 24/7 would make me feel physically ill after awhile. I'd say I couldn't go out with someone with poor hygiene but I could go out with someone who has good hygiene yet doesn't have outstanding hygiene.

Appearance doesn't really enter into it for me, its really more about the personality and when it evolves into love you can look by petty things like looks etc.

But yes hygiene and appearance is two completely different things.

[Xandle]

I think looks are important in a relationship, simply because part of being in love means being attracted to the other person physically as well as emotionally. I think hygiene is part of this, though. Obviously it's not the most important thing but it's a contributing factor.