Virginity

[Jane-123]

I am still a virgin and might be loosing it pretty soon, what's it like? Does it hurt? I heard it hurts a lot

[BebeFleur.]

I'm still a virgin but know these things:

>It may hurt
>There may be blood
>Your first time probably won't be as "sexy" as you think, as there could be pain
>Make sure you aren't rushing sex
>Make sure your partner knows it may be painful
>Make sure your partner is understanding
>Make sure you use protection
>Go slowly

[Hunter_Steel]

It most likely will hurt if you have a Hymen.

Make sure that your guy understands this, and make sure he is gentle. You don't want him to just suddenly ram into you and cause you more pain than what is needed when breaking the Hymen. There can be blood because of the hymen breaking. But after a few seconds I believe, the pleasure sinks in.

I've taken a girl's virginity, the best thing to do is to rather go gently, than to just rush into it. And personally, I prefer to make a girl orgasm before I take her. It seems to work alot lol. But anyways, I think others will give either the same or different suggestions.

Make sure you and him don't rush into it.

~Hunter

[BebeFleur.]

Note: Not all girls have a hymen. Some are born without one, some have previously popped it (eg. gymnastics, horseback riding, incorrect tampon inserting, incorrect masturbating, etc.), or some have a flexible one that doesn't pop.

[Evaboo]

For me it hurt a lot! And I blead....but what ever....it's fun!

[Hunter_Steel]

Note: Not all girls have a hymen. Some are born without one, some have previously popped it (eg. gymnastics, horseback riding, incorrect tampon inserting, incorrect masturbating, etc.), or some have a flexible one that doesn't pop.

Note that I put an IF in my sentances lol

I know some girls don't have a hymen. ;)

~Hunter

[BebeFleur.]

Note that I put an IF in my sentances lol

I know some girls don't have a hymen. ;)

~Hunter

You were the one that reminded me. I was just adding to what you said to explain :)

[nicole97]

I'm still a virgin but know these things:

>It may hurt
>There may be blood
>Your first time probably won't be as "sexy" as you think, as there could be pain
>Make sure you aren't rushing sex
>Make sure your partner knows it may be painful
>Make sure your partner is understanding
>Make sure you use protection
>Go slowly

This is all very good advice. Honestly don't go into it expecting to have some amazing instant physical connection and/or mind-blowing climax, especially If you were like I was (hymen intact, partner was also a virgin). It will hurt and your odds of it lasting really long, having an O, or honestly enjoying the experience sexually are pretty low. But it doesn't mean the entire experience is a waste, if its with the right guy it should still special both then and down the road, and should act as a nice learning experience for both you and your partner. Making sure your ready, using protection, and going slowly are also very important.

[Holdens]

I'm still a virgin can't help sorry

[ChrisA1998]

I am still a virgin and might be loosing it pretty soon, what's it like? Does it hurt? I heard it hurts a lot

your boyfriend must go softly and slowly, and take his time, and it shouldn't hurt. if it starts to hurt, stop and dont go further ;)

[anyone50]

I don't thnk there is any one clear answer to your question because everyone is different and everyones circumstances are different. Will it hurt? It may but maybe not and then again maybe only for the first few minutes before it feels so good you forget about the intial pain. There are things you can do lessen the chances of any pain the first time like masturbation with an object the approx. size of your parternes penis but this still may not be 100% effective in avoiding pain at the time of your first sex because lying in your bed alone masturbating with an object is different than actually having sex. Other factors that will influence how it will feel is how aroused you are at the time of penatration. Some guys like to rush this part and if your not ready it's going to hurt even if you have had sex mutiple times. Anxiety at the time of having sex can cause the vagina to constrict making the penitration diffucult and painful. All vaginas aren't created equally a lot depends on a persons body type. I have a friend that has been having sex for over a year and she is really tiny and says it always hurts a little at first but it's woth it because of how it feels after he's in. So you see the only way your going to really know the answer to your question is to have sex and I don't know how hold you are or why you say it's going to happen but my advise is to make sure your having sex for the right reasons and not just because he wants to or your being pressured by peer groups. Sorry my response was so long but i believe the first time is something you will always remember you should just have sex so you can say you have done it. Good luck.

[xmojox]

If you're planning to do it just so you aren't a virgin anymore, don't do it. It's a thing that should happen as a next step in a loving relationship. If that's your situation and you both think it's the right time, as opposed to you just saying yes because he's been asking and asking and asking, then go slowly. Make sure he understands he can't just shove his dick in you and pump. You have to be aroused, the more aroused you are the better It will be for you. If he doesn't wanna do that, it means he doesn't give a fuck about you and what you need, and you should call it off. Just because you start doesn't mean you're under any obligation to continue. You can say no at any point. He won't die, no matter how much he tries to tell you he will. And make sure he wraps his dick. Gotta use the condom.

[Lucyluulee.x]

I think the more nervous you are the more its going to hurt, because you tense up so are tighter making it harder for penetration. Like said above ^^^
Just go at your own speed and don't do anything you don't want to. He should understand if he really cares about you.
Just relax and be comfortable and know that you are doing the right thing, it may hurt a little, it might not hurt at all, i didnt bleed my first time or my second but a few times after i did. Everyones first time is pretty different but make sure you're comfortable and know you want to have sex for the right reasons :)

[PinkFloyd]

errr. sorry if this isn't where I should be posting, but... Just make sure to let him know that if you say stop, it's not like the steriotypical "STOP!", and that he should keep going. I say that because there will be zero pain for him. Also, make sure to use protection. Soooo meany things can go wrong if you don't. Th pull out method is like 35% effective according to my health teacher... A condom is 98% and the pill is 94%

[LouBerry]

It hurts. Usually, the only people who don't hurt are ones with either a very high pain tolerance, or who have already had experienced other sexual actions. If not, it hurts like hell and you'll bleed. Also, it's not fun. Like, some girls say that they really love it and all, but it's just not as great for girls as it is men.

[Jamesison]

It might hurt there might be some blood. the first time you may not liek it...

[anyone50]

It hurts. Usually, the only people who don't hurt are ones with either a very high pain tolerance, or who have already had experienced other sexual actions. If not, it hurts like hell and you'll bleed. Also, it's not fun. Like, some girls say that they really love it and all, but it's just not as great for girls as it is men.

Wow Just for your information it's not true that all girls will bleed because if the hymen is already gone there is ussually not any blood unless he's so rough he tears her inside. As for it hurting it may as hurt like hell for you the first time but everyone is different. For myself there was some mild pain for the first few minutes but that didn't last long and wasn't all that bad. I have had a couple friends tell me that they didn't even classify it as pain just a little discomfort at first before it started to feel really good. About the only thing i can agree with on your post is that it's not as good for a girl the first time as it is for a guy but thats not to say a girl can't enjoy her first time if the guy is caring enough to make it good for her.

[LouBerry]

Wow Just for your information it's not true that all girls will bleed because if the hymen is already gone there is ussually not any blood unless he's so rough he tears her inside. As for it hurting it may as hurt like hell for you the first time but everyone is different. For myself there was some mild pain for the first few minutes but that didn't last long and wasn't all that bad. I have had a couple friends tell me that they didn't even classify it as pain just a little discomfort at first before it started to feel really good. About the only thing i can agree with on your post is that it's not as good for a girl the first time as it is for a guy but thats not to say a girl can't enjoy her first time if the guy is caring enough to make it good for her.



Wow, just for your information,(see how annoying that is), I, in not so blatant terminology, said the same thing. If your hymen is still present, you will indeed bleed, and I've never met anyone who said it didn't hurt when it happened. I mean, my was gone and it still hurt me like hell.

[anyone50]

Wow, just for your information,(see how annoying that is), I, in not so blatant terminology, said the same thing. If your hymen is still present, you will indeed bleed, and I've never met anyone who said it didn't hurt when it happened. I mean, my was gone and it still hurt me like hell.

Granted it may hurt for some girls and if this was what your first time was like you made it sound like this is the only way it will be, but to some it may only be discomfort for a short time, I was just pointing out that what you said isn't always true for everyone for instance and I quote "It hurts like hell" and "you will bleed" These were your words. You should have qualified those statements saying this was your expereince and not make it sound like it's a fact that all girl will have the same results when having sex for the first time

[Rima]

I'm still a virgin but know these things:

>It may hurt
>There may be blood
>Your first time probably won't be as "sexy" as you think, as there could be pain
>Make sure you aren't rushing sex
>Make sure your partner knows it may be painful
>Make sure your partner is understanding
>Make sure you use protection
>Go slowly


+1 for this .

[brockfalcon]

first time isn't always that great..

[LouBerry]

Granted it may hurt for some girls and if this was what your first time was like you made it sound like this is the only way it will be, but to some it may only be discomfort for a short time, I was just pointing out that what you said isn't always true for everyone for instance and I quote "It hurts like hell" and "you will bleed" These were your words. You should have qualified those statements saying this was your expereince and not make it sound like it's a fact that all girl will have the same results when having sex for the first time

"...or who have already had experienced other sexual actions. If not, it hurts like hell..."

Emphasis on the if not.

[Sasha M]

I wouldn't know. But I hope to find out in the future!

[GigglyAbby]

I'm still a virgin but know these things:

>It may hurt
>There may be blood
>Your first time probably won't be as "sexy" as you think, as there could be pain
>Make sure you aren't rushing sex
>Make sure your partner knows it may be painful
>Make sure your partner is understanding
>Make sure you use protection
>Go slowly

Can't disagree with that or the comment you made at hymens possibly being broken or fact some girls don't have a hymen.

I'd like to add:
Consider discussing what to do IF birth control fails, period is late, or she's pregnant
Try to have some foreplay so BOTH are relaxed and comfortable
Communicate with each other
Take a break or change it up if there is discomfort
Comfort each other
Consider using lubrication