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kittyvlekkie
April 6th, 2013, 04:33 PM
I am a 15 year old man who has Asperger's Syndrome and Paranoia. Socialising has always been difficult for me but I can socialise reasonably well with guys but not that good with girls. I easily fall in love with a girl but I don't have the guts to ask a girl out. Recently, this feeling keeps getting stronger due to hormones. I want to know how to approach a girl and how to start a relation with one, I am going to greece on the 4th of may and thought this would be a good place to excercise(harshly said, we are dealing with someone's emotions here.) because:
1.The girls there don't know my history.(social awkwardness and was bullied has lead to the majority of girls not even trying to resocialise with me because of the 'group effect'(don't hang out with him, other girls don't do that too.))
2.Small amount of consequences. If I screw something up at school, I might get many bad reactions and often those awkward 'Hey, remember that time when you X' situations.

I am mostly looking for being with a girl that I can love(and preferably be loved back), if she is good looking, that would even better, but any normal girl would suffice.

I want to know how to approach a girl and how start a relation with one.

jayyy-lmao
April 7th, 2013, 03:20 AM
You sorta just need to go. Just go up to her and say "Hey. Wanna have a Coke?" or something like that. If you get along, just say "Wanna go out?"
It's one of these things that once you do it, you'll wonder why you ever worried.

Ryhanna
April 7th, 2013, 03:28 AM
It's quite daunting, but it's easier if you make the first move. Start up a conversation casually. 'Hi, how's you weekend? Do you want to hang out later?'

Talking to girls is basically just like talking to guys. It's really not much different at all, even though they may feel like a completely difference species! Just act natural and be yourself. Talk as though you were talking to a guy, if it makes you more comfortable.

Disappearing_Girl
April 7th, 2013, 01:47 PM
Just be casual! If she see's you're nervous, she'll either be obnoxious and walk away (Which is good because that's not the kind of person you will want to hang out with anyways) or she'll kinda pick up the conversation and help you out. (which is good because she is not rude and she wants to talk to you) try to find common interests, that will give you something to talk about. (: Once you gain confidence the first couple times, it will come natural! (:

kittyvlekkie
April 7th, 2013, 03:16 PM
Thanks a lot for all the replies! This is helping me a lot.

giofighter
April 24th, 2013, 07:10 AM
I'm from Greece!So,starting a conversation with a Greek girl it's going to be a bit hard.1st you might have a problem because many beautiful,sexy,attractive girls you'll be seeing they most likely won't be able to speak in English.2nd they want someone who has muscles and stuff,but even if you have muscles you still can't do much :p Girls here in Greece want some kind of doushe. Trying to start a chat with a Greek girl is VEEERY tricky :p

giofighter
April 24th, 2013, 07:11 AM
In which place exactly in Greece? :p