Need Advice!!

[udhaav_98]

Hey guys, this is my first post. I am a regular reader of the forums but have joined just to take some advice.

I am in 9th grade, i am a very shy type of person. The last time i liked a girl was 1 and a half yrs ago. That time i didnt have the courage to ask her out and i still regret it. Im not very confident around girls and dont actually have any friends who are girls but since the past month or two a girl in my batch and i have started chatting a lot over BBM and have become pretty close friends.

Now the problem is that i think i have started to like her, and i think she kinda likes me too because she keeps on asking me who my crush is but it could mean nothing at all. I'm a very sensitive kind of person and would be distraught if she said no and i dont want to break our friendship either but nor do I want to regret not expressing my feelings. I also think that if i dont make a move quickly ill lose my chance.

Please help me, what should i do? Is there a way i can get to know her feelings for me? How should i express my feelings for her? All advice will be greatly appreciated!!!!

[peaceNlove]

hi:) well, for seeing if she likes you, have you ever asked her who her crush is? Maybe try that and see how it goes. For possibly asking her out, you just have to put in as much confidence as you can. There's a good chance that she feels the same way about the not wanting to ruin your friendship, so if she says that, just realize it's for the best. But..there's also a good chance she'll say yes:D you just have to take that idea and go for it
:) hope i helped.

[udhaav_98]

I have asked her a few times, the first 2-3 times she said that she did have a crush on someone but wouldnt tell me (this was when we werent close friends) and now a week back i asked her and she said that she didnt have a crush on anyone but she did tell me her previous crush which was 6-7 months ago soooo im kinda confused

[Gandalf]

Hey guys, this is my first post. I am a regular reader of the forums but have joined just to take some advice.

I am in 9th grade, i am a very shy type of person. The last time i liked a girl was 1 and a half yrs ago. That time i didnt have the courage to ask her out and i still regret it. Im not very confident around girls and dont actually have any friends who are girls but since the past month or two a girl in my batch and i have started chatting a lot over BBM and have become pretty close friends.

Now the problem is that i think i have started to like her, and i think she kinda likes me too because she keeps on asking me who my crush is but it could mean nothing at all. I'm a very sensitive kind of person and would be distraught if she said no and i dont want to break our friendship either but nor do I want to regret not expressing my feelings. I also think that if i dont make a move quickly ill lose my chance.

Please help me, what should i do? Is there a way i can get to know her feelings for me? How should i express my feelings for her? All advice will be greatly appreciated!!!!

I think you should find time to speak to her privately, and be honest and open. Just lay down the facts and let her know that even if she doesn't reciprocate that you still want to be friends.

Be yourself, relaxed and considerate. What's the worst that could happen?
Good luck :)

[udhaav_98]

hey gandalf,
u make it sound so easy :P
but im not at a stage where i feel confident that she will say yes, she last had a relationship which lasted a month or so and was very very bad so i dont think she will say yes unless she is fully convinced by me so i need ur help as to how to get to a situation quickly where she will say yes.
PS- ive never been in a relationship so i dont wanna mess anything up:)

[Synyster Shadows]

I have this problem too, but then again, the girl I like doesn't like me. If you're sure that you you like her, just be calm and start with small topics, then gradually get to asking her casually, something small.

[xmojox]

Dude the next time she asks you who your crush is tell her.

[Volleyballboy98]

Ask her ask her

[udhaav_98]

Thanks to everyone who's replied. I think that I'm going to tell her I love her and then after a few days ask her out.

[thatguywhosaysEH]

I think that I'm going to tell her I love her and then after a few days ask her out.

Do not, I repeat do not use the word "love" it will scare her away. You're not even dating yet.