Should I make an attempt to contact my cousin

[kashiee]

Hi :) I'm 16 years old and 2-3ish years ago me & my cousin used to be best friends, we were always laughing and spending weekends together, that changed not long after my grandma died and we fell out over something stupid, if I remember it correctly I got mad because she was riding my bike and then I ignored her a week later on MSN, but that was 3 years ago and I've grown up a little since then.. lol. I hate being ignored though I'm afraid she won't talk to me if i chat her up on facebook (she readded me about 3ish months ago) and she just moved a 5 min walk away from my house. I'm also afraid of what her friends from my school say about me, I only have 1-2 friends at school and people call me a loner, I'm afraid she'll want nothing to do with me if she knows if im somewhat of a loner and she's really pretty and I'm really ugly so she might not want to talk to me or hang out because I'd make her look bad. But according to my Dad she asks about me and even said she wanted to work with me at my work, so I don't know.. is it a good idea? She's been through a lot of stuff (she got kicked out of her moms house and tried to kill herself 2 times but from what I see on facebook she seems happy now and she has very low self-esteem..) Is it a good idea? I miss her lots but I'm afraid she doesn't miss me

[Gandalf]

YES! I'd apologise for past mistakes and rebuild the friendship. It's good to be friends with your cousin, (I'm friends with mine as annoying as he is sometimes :P )

If she can accept the past and move on then great. (Heck, she probably forgot all about it) I'm sure after all your cousin has been through, she'd appreciate having a friend too.

I'd recommend just being honest and open with her and it will probably work out fine :D

With regard to being perceived as a loner: There is no shame at all in only having a couple of friends and because your cousin was friends with you before so you probably have nothing to worry about in terms of perception.

If anybody makes a nasty comment on it, well it's their problem. They are probably jealous...
And I doubt your cousin would discriminate against you for being a loner. Again, you were friends before and it wasn't a problem.

Good luck :)

EDIT:

[DerBear]

Yes of course you should contact her. Like you said, It was something in the past and you've forgotten most of it and probably she has too. I''d recommend asking to meet up, send her a message on facebook and then you can talk face to face and see how things go.

In this case, I wouldn't worry about the "What ifs" as if you don't try you'll never know. Plus its never nice when cousins fallout or any family for that matter.

[Haydenn3]

Yeah i think you should just say sorry and talk to her about how you have grown up and missed her like loads :)

[xmojox]

Yeah, talk to her and reform your friendship. Don't do it on facebook though. Take the 5 minute walk to where she lives and do it in person.

[NickTheBest]

Yeah i think you should

[FergusDunn]

well you can only try - or regret not trying.

[Wanderer_]

What have u got to lose?