2 of my friends slept with each other!!!!!!!!!

[conner74]

A new girl started in my school who I became good friends with. She was great but she was a bit of a slag. She had a different boy friend every day. But it never really bothered me. But when every1 else in my school found out rumores started to spread. But they didn't bother me.
Any way about a month later she wanted a portfolio doing. And I'm a bit of a photographer, so I helped her out. (Nothing wired was happening…try telling your peers that) anyway yesterday she met up with a mate of mine, now he is basically the boy version of her. I never really like him because he can be a bit of a d***. Now my new friend said that she never do anything to him. She showed me the messages (FYI i never seen or read something that Disgusting in all my life, yes seen there where pics) they where sending and she send she was just going along with it.
But yesterday when we went to youth she met up with him and left me. So later on I messaged her and she told what happened… (yah they slept with each other), now I not going to lie, I always had a soft spot for her and when she told she said that she did it out of pity which I'm just sat here thinking bull that's 100% bull. Because I know what's he's like and he lies a lot. That's why I don't like him. Okay so he might have 1 or 2 issues but still.
Anyway now I don't know what to do!!!!! She rather likes him or she doesn't I don't know. I Definately don't trust him. But I still trust her because shes one of my best friends. But after she told I kinda told her to stuff it because i was angry and jealous (yah I'm still a virgin)
But I don't what I should do. I go back to school on Monday so I'm really scared. Should I talk to them or just Ignore them. I want to spread it because they both spread stuff about me of which I get way to much stick for.
Also I kinda put a emotional thing on Facebook last night which every1 is going to take the piss out me for so that's another thing I'm scared about.
So if you could give me some advice that would be helpful and ill be thankful. :) sorry about the length and the mistakes thanks. If you read this write potato in the comments :) just to brighten the mood up a bit. Thank you

[Rayquaza]

Potato. :)

Listen, I think that was a really dick move what he did. And the only thing now you can do is let them do whatever. You've acknowledged that she's a bit of a player, and now you'll have to remind yourself. A girl that does that doesn't understand the true value of love and you do. Don't waste it on her. And you know that friend of yours? Well, he's pretty weak minded if this girl pretty much manipulated him. Yes, I will use that word, no matter how bad it sounds. If he's all of a sudden become like her and has stooped that level, he has been manipulated. Ignore this girl, she may seem innocent but she seems like a cold-hearted user, actually. You have so much to give, don't waste your time on her, let them do whatever. The fact that they slept together is just ridiculous. It's their problem, they're going to be the ones with the relationship issues, and your friend will probably see that too and run back to you. Trust me, I've seen this before in real life happen. And always remember, there's no shame in being a virgin :D

[Gandalf]

This seems to me to boil down to two things:

She had a different boy friend every day. But it never really bothered me

Why would this be any different, if you knew her attitude towards guys was like that why would this be a shock?

People often mislead others because it's hard for them to explain the truth. Did she really do this to hurt you? Probably not. It's not for me to judge their actions, as I wasn't there and wouldn't be able to judge the actual intentions, people will be sexual towards others, whether it's right or wrong and it's their problem to deal with. I think you should step back and ask yourself whether you could accept her actions and continue being friends or not, although:

both spread stuff about me of which I get way to much stick for.

Were they trying to be mean? Or were they just saying something which got taken out of context/twisted?
Whether or not you remain friends, you need to explain face to face the issue this has caused you and get everything out in the open in a mature manner.


Facebook:
It's out there now and that can't be changed, you just need to work out how to deal with any hassle you get. i.e what is your response going to be?

Stick to the same thing if asked multiple times. And while it's not good to hide your feelings, if anybody is hassling you, don't let them see that they've succeeded. Try and remain calm, and use the broke record method "oh not this again, I'm getting bored of it". -A teacher taught that to me a few years ago when I was facing some bad bullying it should work a treat if people won't stop bugging you :)

~Spud. ;)

[conner74]

Potato. :)

Listen, I think that was a really dick move what he did. And the only thing now you can do is let them do whatever. You've acknowledged that she's a bit of a player, and now you'll have to remind yourself. A girl that does that doesn't understand the true value of love and you do. Don't waste it on her. And you know that friend of yours? Well, he's pretty weak minded if this girl pretty much manipulated him. Yes, I will use that word, no matter how bad it sounds. If he's all of a sudden become like her and has stooped that level, he has been manipulated. Ignore this girl, she may seem innocent but she seems like a cold-hearted user, actually. You have so much to give, don't waste your time on her, let them do whatever. The fact that they slept together is just ridiculous. It's their problem, they're going to be the ones with the relationship issues, and your friend will probably see that too and run back to you. Trust me, I've seen this before in real life happen. And always remember, there's no shame in being a virgin :D
Thanks man i hope this craziness ends soons. Its only her I like. The boy is giant d*** and thats only what he thinks with. But i don't get what hes got, every girl he goes out with is his b***h and i asked a couple of girl who i know what they thought and they hated which of course didn't surprise me.

This seems to me to boil down to two things:



Why would this be any different, if you knew her attitude towards guys was like that why would this be a shock?

People often mislead others because it's hard for them to explain the truth. Did she really do this to hurt you? Probably not. It's not for me to judge their actions, as I wasn't there and wouldn't be able to judge the actual intentions, people will be sexual towards others, whether it's right or wrong and it's their problem to deal with. I think you should step back and ask yourself whether you could accept her actions and continue being friends or not, although:



Were they trying to be mean? Or were they just saying something which got taken out of context/twisted?
Whether or not you remain friends, you need to explain face to face the issue this has caused you and get everything out in the open in a mature manner.


Facebook:
It's out there now and that can't be changed, you just need to work out how to deal with any hassle you get. i.e what is your response going to be?

Stick to the same thing if asked multiple times. And while it's not good to hide your feelings, if anybody is hassling you, don't let them see that they've succeeded. Try and remain calm, and use the broke record method "oh not this again, I'm getting bored of it". -A teacher taught that to me a few years ago when I was facing some bad bullying it should work a treat if people won't stop bugging you :)

~Spud. ;)

Cheers mate i'll just see whats happens hopefully it blows over before monday. Can i ask what you got bullies for.

[Gandalf]

I don't know, I got bullied by many different people because I was different. I didn't fit in socially and didn't know how to change that. People got the wrong impresison of me and never gave me a chance to show that I'm a good person.

I got called names and was physically pushed around. As well as excluded from everything that would have helped me fit in better.
In the long run I'm a better person for it, it taught me a whole lot about myself and life.

[conner74]

I don't know, I got bullied by many different people because I was different. I didn't fit in socially and didn't know how to change that. People got the wrong impresison of me and never gave me a chance to show that I'm a good person.

I got called names and was physically pushed around. As well as excluded from everything that would have helped me fit in better.
In the long run I'm a better person for it, it taught me a whole lot about myself and life.

Well it's great to see that things worked for u

[xmojox]

Tater.

Sounds to me like you are better off. She goes from one boy to the next and he's a dick. Forget them and use your time and energy to cultivate real solid friendships.

The facebook thing is exactly why I don't use it. Be careful and think before you post on there, man.

[nice]

Honestly if she goes from guy to guy she's a relationship whore. One of my best friends did something similar to this if I were you I'd just call her out on it.