What is this considered?

[Fallen Angels]

So, my friend told me about how when she was younger her uncle would try to talk her into having sex. At first, she didn't know any better. And, it stopped for a few years. When she was around 12 I think, her uncle started to again. But, she said she didn't want to this time. He continued to try and talk her into it, he got depressed, and she felt bad and felt like she had to say yes. So, they would do some things. She said they never fully had sex because she would start hurting. She tried to avoid it, but he never let it go. Kept bugging her, and touching her. She turned into a lesbian... I think because of those experiences. :/ He continued to pressure her though. It's not like he raped her... just got really sad and drank a lot, pressured her, said mean things to her and she blamed herself. She said she felt like she didn't have any other choice but to give in. They still never fully had sex, but it made her so uncomfortable and she hated it. She tried to say she didn't want to, but he would continue the pressure. She was young, and blamed herself. She hates men now. Pushes away any "straight" thoughts because she doesn't trust guys now. She already had a rough childhood, and this guy raises her alone. Is this considered molestation or?...

She feels dirty, violated, like it's her fault. She still cares about him though. She hates and loves him at the same time...

[Sephtyan]

Yes, this is certainly considered molestation, and if his penis had anything to do with her body, then it can be considered rape as well. Rape doesn't have to fill of requirement of "not willing" if she was underage at the time. It also doesn't have to involve his penis; if he's made her feel violated, then that can be considered rape, and that's grounds for arrest.

As her friend, you should do what you can to help her realize that none of it was her fault, and urge her to consider whether or not she wants to notify the police. Another idea, if she doesn't want to part with her uncle for other reasons, give her the idea that she could confront him and tell him that if he doesn't stop, she will call the police. I know someone who was affected in this way, and I know how messed up people can get given enough time to themselves. You should make sure that she is emotionally healthy, and that she understands that none of it is her fault, and that she's just in an unfortunate situation.

Good luck, Godspeed, and notify her that not all guys are bad, alright? Cheers!

[candabear17]

This is definitely molestation. Possibly rape too. You said that she never had sex with him because she would start to hurt, but if he made any kind of penetration, it's rape. Seeing as she was so young when it started, anything he did to her is his fault and his alone. Even as a 12 year old, it's not her fault. She had gotten used to it as such a young age that it seemed like there was nothing wrong with it. You need to talk to the police immediately. Depending on the statute of limitations in your state, it may be too late, but hopefully not. It's usually at least 3 years. Don't let her wait too long because if she never reports it, she may very well regret it.

[rocketsheep]

ffff

[Rayquaza]

That is most definitely grooming followed with molestation, and it absolutely appalling and disgraceful that that happened. Keep reminding her that you're glad that she opened up to you, and that nothing that happened was her fault. The man should have known better and known not to only molest a child, but even verging towards incest on that matter. Tell her that she needs to tell an adult, because calling the police would be stressful and make the situation worse. She has probably by now formed an abnormal attachment with her uncle and that is why she still hates/loves him.

I know it's easy for us to say not all guys are bad, but with her experiences it will take a lot of time. The only thing you can do is to stand by her side re-assuring. You're a good friend for caring about her rather than going straight to the cops, remember that.

[TheKing6]

Molestation and you could argue statutory rape