Log in

View Full Version : I'm worried my friends question showed my sexuality, did it?


Cicero
April 4th, 2013, 11:49 PM
So my friend, whos a girl. We're making dirty jokes and such. And so she said "Ya know, I don't really understand what it means to be circumcised and not. What does it mean?" So I tried to act like I didn't know and I said "I wondered the same thing when I was younger, on this site I went to, that had no picture, but intense drawings it showed the difference. And like with uncircumcised, there's extra skin and, like, the penis has more skin. I'm not sure if I'm exact, but I think like the tip has skin. Ughh, I'm not really sure." I know it sounded scrambled up, and that's how it was.

I didnt want her to think anything weird, I didn't want her to think I knew exactly what it looks like. By how that sounded, did it seem like I knew a lot bout how it looked or the difference? Like whenever I'm around her, I say oh she's hot, or I'll be suggestive about something that someone straight would be.

I'll be honest, in reality (not here on vt), I try to act as opposite as anything homosexual as I possibly can. I know its bad. But for me, I try to protect myself, like if anyone asks What do you think of homosexuality? I'll say I don't agree with it and I dislike it. When in reality, I'm trying to make it so that people won't think I'm gay (when they get to know me).

I've talked to others on here, straight, gay, bi. And they have told me they understand where I'm coming from and that they themselves have done it before.

So based off of what I said, did it sound like it gave any hints at my sexuality? Say you always "knew" I was straight, would you think "Is he gay?" Based off of my explanation on the subject? Did it sound like I didn't know exactly what it looked like and the difference, as if I've actually seen it?


Edit:
After that awkward conversation, I said "tbh, I've always been jealous you've had so many boyfriends, yet I've never had a girlfriend" and then we talked about that.

I know people are gonna be like "You should represent LGBT how dare you!" But I'm gonna put my relationship with my family before anyone/anything else. If I were to say, I'm bi, I know it wouldn't be good at all. So basically. I'd never come out, and I'd always be seen as straight (by family and friends). I couldn't fatham what my family would do.

Sugaree
April 5th, 2013, 12:04 AM
It depends, what do you consider yourself?

Horatio Nelson
April 5th, 2013, 12:06 AM
What? Your explnation sounded to me more like you've never seen a penis.....

PinkFloyd
April 5th, 2013, 12:11 AM
I don't think you were suggesting anything to her. She asked someone that she thought should know (obviously a guy because he has one..). I totally agree with you. In fact, I do the same type of thing. If the gay or bi topic comes up, I usually say I disagree with it when in reality, I support it while not being gay or bi myself. I just fear someone will label me something I'm not. I also tend to call stuff I don't like "gay." It's really been bugging me lately...

Cicero
April 5th, 2013, 12:42 AM
It depends, what do you consider yourself?

Well, I've been considering myself bi.

Sugaree
April 5th, 2013, 12:46 AM
Well, I've been considering myself bi.

If that's how you really feel, that's how you feel. It might be a phase, it might not. Just don't jump to conclusions. And no, I don't think you were really suggesting anything in the conversation with your friend. However, if you ever plan to talk to your family about this, I suggest waiting until you're old enough to move out or be sufficiently independent.

Kahn
April 5th, 2013, 12:48 AM
You have nothing to worry about. Unless she's one of those people who analyzes everything you say, she'll probably brush it off as simple conversation. And even if she did and approached you, you can always deny that you're bi, even if you truly are (I know I don't have to tell you that, but if confronted, you may feel obligated to say "yes I am bi").

The less you worry the less stress. That's a good thing.

Ryhanna
April 5th, 2013, 06:24 AM
Knowing the difference between a circumcised and uncircumcised penis hardly gives any indication that you may or may not be straight.

Why would you think that knowing the difference might make her think that you're not straight? It's just general knowledge, really. It's not something that people only learn by staring at dicks. :) It's fine.

Emerald Dream
April 5th, 2013, 07:40 AM
Moving this from TWPR :arrow: Teen Sexuality. More suited there.

workingatperfect
April 5th, 2013, 08:10 AM
Uh, no. I'm pretty sure like every guy knows the difference. It's pretty common knowledge especially for someone who has a penis. How could that have any indication that you're not straight?

Captain Who
April 5th, 2013, 09:46 AM
Nope, I dont think that you hinted anything about you being gay/bi. The question was probably asked to you because your a guy and she didn't know and she efelt you would know more? Perhaps!

xmojox
April 5th, 2013, 12:51 PM
I wouldn't worry. Knowing the difference just means that you have a penis.

kye.
April 5th, 2013, 05:45 PM
So my friend, whos a girl. We're making dirty jokes and such. And so she said "Ya know, I don't really understand what it means to be circumcised and not. What does it mean?" So I tried to act like I didn't know and I said "I wondered the same thing when I was younger, on this site I went to, that had no picture, but intense drawings it showed the difference. And like with uncircumcised, there's extra skin and, like, the penis has more skin. I'm not sure if I'm exact, but I think like the tip has skin. Ughh, I'm not really sure." I know it sounded scrambled up, and that's how it was.

I didnt want her to think anything weird, I didn't want her to think I knew exactly what it looks like. By how that sounded, did it seem like I knew a lot bout how it looked or the difference? Like whenever I'm around her, I say oh she's hot, or I'll be suggestive about something that someone straight would be.

I'll be honest, in reality (not here on vt), I try to act as opposite as anything homosexual as I possibly can. I know its bad. But for me, I try to protect myself, like if anyone asks What do you think of homosexuality? I'll say I don't agree with it and I dislike it. When in reality, I'm trying to make it so that people won't think I'm gay (when they get to know me).

I've talked to others on here, straight, gay, bi. And they have told me they understand where I'm coming from and that they themselves have done it before.

So based off of what I said, did it sound like it gave any hints at my sexuality? Say you always "knew" I was straight, would you think "Is he gay?" Based off of my explanation on the subject? Did it sound like I didn't know exactly what it looked like and the difference, as if I've actually seen it?


Edit:
After that awkward conversation, I said "tbh, I've always been jealous you've had so many boyfriends, yet I've never had a girlfriend" and then we talked about that.

I know people are gonna be like "You should represent LGBT how dare you!" But I'm gonna put my relationship with my family before anyone/anything else. If I were to say, I'm bi, I know it wouldn't be good at all. So basically. I'd never come out, and I'd always be seen as straight (by family and friends). I couldn't fatham what my family would do.

I don't think you gave it away :P it's normal for a guy to know what circumcised and uncircumcised mean.