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[Lonely teen]

Hello um recently it's been very hard for me to find love and I know most girls have issues on dating big guys so basically I'm asking you guys do you do you or have you seen this happening? Oh p.s I'm straight

[BebeFleur.]

Hello um recently it's been very hard for me to find love and I know most girls have issues on dating big guys so basically I'm asking you guys do you do you or have you seen this happening? Oh p.s I'm straight

"girls have issues on dating big guys"

I'm a girl and not too familiar with that one...what are these 'issues'


You shouldn't rush love. It is something that occurs over time, emotionally, and not just physically.

[Lonely teen]

I mean like they ignore me when ever I make a conversation or they just walk away.... Oh and I forgot to mention that I'm 14 if that makes a difference

[BebeFleur.]

Well, if you're only 14 it's not the end of the world! You're a Freshman, you still have plenty more time! :)

What do you mean by "big guys"?

[Lonely teen]

Well thanks lol by big I mean fat

[Origami]

In high school in particular people can be very judgmental of people by their weight. But that's okay. It will help you from attracting the wrong girls to begin with and attracting the right type of girl is foremost in creating a solid relationship. But as was said above, don't bother rushing it, you're young. Enjoy a bit more time with your friends, being tied down to a relationship can often interfere with your friendships. Just enjoy your youth and really focus on it later. Eventually, without meaning to, you'll attract a girl who doesn't care about your weight, if that is in fact what is making them "ignore" you.

[BebeFleur.]

Often there are biased people who are against who are not set to the world's 'new standard' which is apparently stick thin and unhealthy.

You shouldn't be worried about your weight. Media has put so much pressure on everyone and it's really hurting people.

Trust me, there are a lot of girls out there who don't care about looks. What matter is what's inside. Feel confident in yourself and I'm sure you will find plenty of girls :)

[Lonely teen]

Thx guys :)

[DerBear]

Generally you'll find a lot of people to be quite judgmental in high school. However it isn't like that all the time or like that for the world outside of high School. I guess if people want to judge you on the outside then I guess they aren't worth the time or anything you've got to offer.

I wouldn't let your weight worry you when finding companionship. Not everyone is like this and you will find someone special.