"Friends" take advantage of me constantly...

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

All of my "friends" constantly enjoy tricking me, and taking advantage of me. I cant go one day without someone lying to me. And I trust them so much, that I immediatly believe them, and do embarrasing things, which really end up hurting me and others. I tell them to stop, but they dont. I am completely lost here. I only have one or two friends who dont do that, and they are slipping away from me... Any help?

[Sage]

This may be blunt and saddening, but here's what I think...

1. People who do that aren't your friends.
2. Do not trust more than 1 or 2 people, and not with giant things.
3. Your friends that don't do that are your real friends. Don't let them slip away.

: )

[BornActor]

I know it is hard to make new friends but I would try or get closer to the friends u already have that dont lie to u. Guys generally tend to do this. Idk y. Most of my average guy friends lie to me. I dont listen to a word most of them say unless they seem really sincere and its their own life they're talking about. not mine. However, most of my friends are girls :wub:. So it doesnt affect me too much if at all.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

Well, Fallstel, Its practically impossible to stop it, because their parents are strict Christians, and dont let them come to my house because I dont have as good "morals" as they do. I might corrupt their childrens minds... And all of my friends who dont trick me are either stupid, or annoying, or too busy to hang out : /

[dem.re.cmd.exe]

......Well, isn't that considered discrimination?

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

Yes, that is. Perhaps thats why I have such low views of older Christians...

[Serenity]

This may be blunt and saddening, but here's what I think...

1. People who do that aren't your friends.
2. Do not trust more than 1 or 2 people, and not with giant things.
3. Your friends that don't do that are your real friends. Don't let them slip away.

: )

Lol as much as I hate to say it, I completely agree with this post.

[Hyper]

Well I'd rather have no friends than have friends who deserve to kicked in the nuts

[Underground_Network]

I've learned throughout my life, that there are real friends and people you just hang out with because you like them, though they may not exactly truly like you back. A lot of my friends take advantage of me, and I take advantage of several of my friends (I got my one friend suspended indefinitely b/c he actually listened to me when I sarcastically asked him to bring in something that I will not name, but its obviously something worthy of an indefinite suspension).. But anyway, sometimes you just hang out with people, because you want to be noticed, you don't act like yourself, you do what they tell you, just to be on good terms with them.. I say you may want to keep them for now, but don't share any major secrets, and slowly leave them and find better friends. Thats what I did (I began straying away from my old friends and began hanging out with new friends, then eventually my old friends completely faded out of my life).

EDIT: Also, be aware, don't trust them if they tell you something truly absurd, and don't do something that you know is stupid, even if they ask you. Some times you just have lie back at them to get out of certain situations. I've done that a lot of times with my friends.. If they ask you to do something, make a joke out of it, or say its not worth it.. This will seriously work most of the time.

[kovert43]

im i grade 8 of course there always a kid who small havent balls drop actin tuff thinking he can fool u and make u do stuff id say he not so tuff trying to fool u but if u do that dont do it aint ur friends just ppl think ur a joke

[x__onyx]

Okay, forget them.
Seriously, the only reason they keep doing it is because then know you'll listen an you are easy to trick.

Ignore them.
Gradually stop talking to them.
They aren't really your friends. The ones who don't do that are your friends.

Trust me, I had this going on for the wholeee time I went to public school.


How old are you anyways?
This sounds very middle school/early highschool-ish.

[Camazotz]

People who take advantage of you are NOT your friend.
Get those 1 or 2 good friends back.
Obviously those bad friends wont stop, so just avoid them.

[[[chickaroo92]]]

All of my "friends" constantly enjoy tricking me, and taking advantage of me. I cant go one day without someone lying to me. And I trust them so much, that I immediately believe them, and do embarrassing things, which really end up hurting me and others. I tell them to stop, but they dont. I am completely lost here. I only have one or two friends who dont do that, and they are slipping away from me... Any help?

Okay, I see where you're going here..and I'm going to be truthful, these people are not your friends, wanna know why? Because friends don't do those types of things...even as a joke, its a major "no, no". I've experienced this before, on several occasions, and you know what? Just ignore them, if they're going to be assholes, then there's no point in being friends with them, and then having to deal with the stress they're putting you under.

Find someone who is going through the same things, someone you knew for a long time, and someone who cares, and won't treat you like a dog, because hun, in reality, its not fun to have to deal with these types of situations.

Goodluck though in whatever you decide to do, if you need to talk, or whatever. just PM me!

[byee]

Layne,

Yeah, those who hurt you or otherwise take advantage of you can't really be considered 'friends'. Fooling around is one thing, but their behavior sounds frankly like unvarnished hostility. Maybe they're acting out their parents hostility towards you based on their misperceptions of you and your family's 'morality'? If that's the case, there's probably nothing to do to get them to stop. What they're doing is based not so much on you, but rather what they've either been told or what they've heard from their folks. That's a tough thing to change.

It's good you have at least a couple of true friends. Maybe you should concentrate your efforts on them, and forget the others.