Do guys put a lot of emotion in what they say?

[Cicero]

So my voice isn't as high as it once was (shocker I know), but I noticed that I sounded a little gay when I talked. I was at my friends house and he was recording which I didn't know and my voice came on and I sounded gay, so when I left his house I probably spent an hour recording my voice saying different phrases, sentences, conversations, etc.

What I had noticed, is that when I don't put any emotion into what I say (happiness, sadness, etc.) I sound like any other guy, but when I do put emotion in, I sound gay. For me, it was like I was just talking to say what I want, and not talking sounding happy or disgusted or sad or what not.

So do guys typically just talk with no emotion? I do not want to sound gay, feminine or anything. When I heard that recording of myself, I felt so sick afterwards and I felt really depressed. When I do talk with no emotion, I sound kinda monotone. When I say I talked gay or feminine, I don't mean I lisp or anything, but just that general stereotypical way of talking.

This is something I never noticed or anything, when I was younger I would hear my voice to see if it sounded to high, but when I heard my voiced sounded feminine/gay, it was a true shock because for me, I always thought the problem was with my supposed high voice. My friends never even told me or never even made me feel like I had the voice I do, and even the kids at school didnt make me feel like that (and when they asked if I was gay, I always thought it was cause I had a high voice).

[Allain1996]

Just because your voice has a certain tone to it, doesn't mean your gay.
There are plenty if gay guys that don't has even a hint of a "gay voice", and there are A LOT of straight guys that have high-pitched "gay voices", but are actually straight as an arrow.
Saying someone has a "gay voice" is not just offensive to them, but it's also an extremely generalized statement, as I have explained that many guys have high-pitched voices and are perfectly straight!

[Horatio Nelson]

Just because your voice has a certain tone to it, doesn't mean your gay.
There are plenty if gay guys that don't has even a hint of a "gay voice", and there are A LOT of straight guys that have high-pitched "gay voices", but are actually straight as an arrow.
Saying someone has a "gay voice" is not just offensive to them, but it's also an extremely generalized statement, as I have explained that many guys have high-pitched voices and are perfectly straight!

I thought I was the only one who used the phrase "straight as an arrow" lol, but I agree. I personally have a deeper voice, but everyone is different.

[Cicero]

Just because your voice has a certain tone to it, doesn't mean your gay.
There are plenty if gay guys that don't has even a hint of a "gay voice", and there are A LOT of straight guys that have high-pitched "gay voices", but are actually straight as an arrow.
Saying someone has a "gay voice" is not just offensive to them, but it's also an extremely generalized statement, as I have explained that many guys have high-pitched voices and are perfectly straight!

I thought I was the only one who used the phrase "straight as an arrow" lol, but I agree. I personally have a deeper voice, but everyone is different.

Can you pwety pwease give me an answer, I don't like lectures :(

[Horatio Nelson]

Well what do you wan't to hear? No need to get your panties in knot over something so minute.

[Cicero]

Well what do you wan't to hear? No need to get your panties in knot over something so minute.

Well I wanted my question answered, I didn't want a lecture saying how its wrong to generalize all gays (even tho I specifically said the stereotypical gay voice) and I didn't want one of those crappy "accept yourself for you" or "who cares what other think"

[Horatio Nelson]

There's nothing you can do to change your voice naturally, simple as that.

[Cicero]

There's nothing you can do to change your voice naturally, simple as that.

Holy fuck it seems as if no one reads what I say.

I said how I say it. Not how deep or high it is. Let me rephrase it

So when I put emotion into how I talk (so if I sound happy sad, etc) I noticed I sound gay, yet if I put no emotion into how I talk. I sound like any other guy. So when you casually talk, do you put any emotion into how you sound?

[Horatio Nelson]

I always speak with emotion, I don't want be a zombie. lol

[StoneColdNicky]

The trouble is, you need to force yourself to leave emotion out of your voice. You can try it all you want, but if you end up getting excited, it will slip back in and you'll sound like you did in that tape. The advice to try not to sweat it was the best. You'll make yourself crazy otherwise. I've thought about this too, when I sometimes surprise myself by slipping into the same 'gay voice' and I'm always surprised to hear it coming from me. You can try to stop it, but it ends up being more difficult than it is worth.

[Rayquaza]

It's just how you talk, and maybe you sound 'gay' (why would you even need to put a sexuality on voice?) when you express your emotions. I know people that express emotion in what they say and their voice doesn't change, it just stays the same. Since everyone is different you'll just have to live with how yours is, as this does not affect everyone.

[Abyssal Echo]

I always speak with emotion, I don't want be a zombie. lol


I'm Bi-Polar and on meds so understand the whole Zombie thing. my voice is really deep but speak with no emotion to it at all

[Cicero]

It's just how you talk, and maybe you sound 'gay' (why would you even need to put a sexuality on voice?) when you express your emotions. I know people that express emotion in what they say and their voice doesn't change, it just stays the same. Since everyone is different you'll just have to live with how yours is, as this does not affect everyone.

I didnt put a sexuality on it, I said the stereotypical.

[Ryhanna]

Depends on the person. Some people are just natural monotone, others voices are full of emotion.

[Pure Innocent Nun]

Some guys don't put a lot of emotion into what they say, it depends on what's happening and how the person is.

But I have to say, you didn't need to be so rude in your responses. I would suggest worrying about your attitude instead of your voice.

[Cicero]

Some guys don't put a lot of emotion into what they say, it depends on what's happening and how the person is.

But I have to say, you didn't need to be so rude in your responses. I would suggest worrying about your attitude instead of your voice.

I wasn't rude. I just didnt request a lecture. I wanted my question answered, not an answer that was completely off topic and an answer that was made to lecture me. Thanks for this lecture too.

[Pure Innocent Nun]

I wasn't rude. I just didnt request a lecture. I wanted my question answered, not an answer that was completely off topic and an answer that was made to lecture me. Thanks for this lecture too.

I wouldn't exactly call that a lecture, just stating my opinion on what you should do. But you're welcome either way. <3 c:

[StoppingTime]

I wasn't rude. I just didnt request a lecture. I wanted my question answered, not an answer that was completely off topic and an answer that was made to lecture me. Thanks for this lecture too.

You're not in charge of what or how people reply to you. They're free to post whatever they want as long as it's within our rules - not your rules. So if they want to tell you not to describe your voice as "gay" (or stereotypically gay or whatever you want to say), then so be it; they can do that.


And the reason everyone's saying "be yourself" is because that's all you can do. You shouldn't try and change everything about you and conform to the social "norm" just because it's the norm. Be who you are, and don't judge yourself too harshly. I'm sure you sound fine, and nobody's ever gonna say, "Yea, I really him [you], but his voice is to high, so I can't be friends with him." People (well the good ones) don't think like that.

[JDubs]

Well, i know what your saying, cuz i sound kinda gay when I talk in a happier tone. And me being BI has absolutely nothing to do with it. But ya, when I talk with a boring non emotional voice, it sounds like just a stereo typical dude voice. But try talking with different emotions in your voice, and swing it in different ways (almost like how a Scottish accent has a different swing than as English accent). So maybe talk tougher (that's anoying) or sarcastic, or like you are a narcissist.

[brodyk15]

It is natural for anyone, boys especially, to hate their voices. I hate mine but am great at speaking in public.

[Allain1996]

You didn't give me an answer, you just gave me a lecture about not using the term "gay voices" and I originally said, the stereotypical gay voice. All you basically said was "Be comfortable with you!" And that's not what I asked for. I didnt ask for that "Be you!" Crap.

I get tired of hearing that same thing of "Be you!" Or "who cares what others think, as long as you're happy and comfortable with yourself!".

Well than what the fuck do you want to hear???
I see no question in any of the bullshit that you keep posting!
All you're doing here is bullying people like me that are trying to help your sorry ass around!
StoppingTime is the only one making sense here! This isn't your damn forum buddy, and we are free to reply to your "question" any way we want to!
Get over yourself, and have a little respect for people like myself that took the time to try and help you!

[Cicero]

Well than what the fuck do you want to hear???
I see no question in any of the bullshit that you keep posting!
All you're doing here is bullying people like me that are trying to help your sorry ass around!
StoppingTime is the only one making sense here! This isn't your damn forum buddy, and we are free to reply to your "question" any way we want to!
Get over yourself, and have a little respect for people like myself that took the time to try and help you!
What do I want to hear? A helpful answer.
You didn't give an answer. You gave a lecture saying "Don't use the term gay voice!" That's not help. You're not helpful. :lol:

[boringkid]

What do u want to hear? A helpful answer.
You didn't give an answer. You gave a lecture saying "Don't use the term gay voice!" That's not help. You're not helpful.

Maybe if u asked nicely some1 might have an answer

[Cicero]

Maybe if u asked nicely some might have an answer
I did ask nicely. My OP was very kind, but he decided to provide a useless, unhelpful lecture.

[boringkid]

I did ask nicely. My OP was very kind, but he decided to provide a useless, unhelpful lecture.

Ur replies didnt sound very nice

[Cicero]

Ur replies didnt sound very nice

That's because he didnt provide an answer, he provided a lecture :)

[PinkFloyd]

I have actually just learned that I have a very deep voice -- like one of the deepest in my class. I was shocked to hear this. I learned that if I'm helling, then my voice jumps an octave and I sound feminine. When I'm talking weather happy or sad, I have a low voice. Kinda weird shit to learn about myself 15 years and 3 months into my life....

[boringkid]

Thanks for the smilynface, to answer Ur question I think, I used to have the same problem when I was younger, after I realized it I started to speak with no emotion. Did that answer your questiion

[Cicero]

I have actually just learned that I have a very deep voice -- like one of the deepest in my class. I was shocked to hear this. I learned that if I'm helling, then my voice jumps an octave and I sound feminine. When I'm talking weather happy or sad, I have a low voice. Kinda weird shit to learn about myself 15 years and 3 months into my life....

You have a fucking deep voice lol

One of the deepest I've heard, especially for 15!

[Allain1996]

What do I want to hear? A helpful answer.
You didn't give an answer. You gave a lecture saying "Don't use the term gay voice!" That's not help. You're not helpful. :lol:

If you want an answer, then ask a damn question!!
All you did was babble about crap like how your voice "sounds gay when I use emotion" and that you've "recorded it".
THAT my friend, is what really isn't helpful!
Also, as the guy just above me said, maybe if you actually tried being POLITE you'd get an answer. I don't give a fuck if you were polite in your OP because you also didn't ask a question there.
So if you want some real helpful advice from me, try asking a question and being polite in the SAME POST!!

[PinkFloyd]

You have a fucking deep voice lol

One of the deepest I've heard, especially for 15!

I was shocked to learn this! So shocked that I went to a bunch of people and asked them... How do you know what my voice sounds like? :P

[boringkid]

If you want an answer, then ask a damn question!!
All you did was talk about how your voice "sounds gay when I use emotion" and that you've "recorded it".
THAT my friend, is what really isn't helpful!
Also, as the guy just above me said, maybe if you actually tried being POLITE you'd get an answer. I don't give a fuck if you were polite in your OP because you also didn't ask a question there.
So if you want some real helpful advice from me, try asking a question and being polite in the SAME POST!!

I understand his question I think, I think he is trying to ask if guys normally speak with emotion

[Cicero]

Thanks for the smilynface, to answer Ur question I think, I used to have the same problem when I was younger, after I realized it I started to speak with no emotion. Did that answer your questiion
Yes it did:)
If you want an answer, then ask a damn question!!
All you did was talk about how your voice "sounds gay when I use emotion" and that you've "recorded it".
THAT my friend, is what really isn't helpful!
Also, as the guy just above me said, maybe if you actually tried being POLITE you'd get an answer. I don't give a fuck if you were polite in your OP because you also didn't ask a question there.
So if you want some real helpful advice from me, try asking a question and being polite in the SAME POST!!

"So my voice isn't as high as it once was (shocker I know), but I noticed that I sounded a little gay when I talked. I was at my friends house and he was recording which I didn't know and my voice came on and I sounded gay, so when I left his house I probably spent an hour recording my voice saying different phrases, sentences, conversations, etc.

What I had noticed, is that when I don't put any emotion into what I say (happiness, sadness, etc.) I sound like any other guy, but when I do put emotion in, I sound gay. For me, it was like I was just talking to say what I want, and not talking sounding happy or disgusted or sad or what not.

So do guys typically just talk with no emotion? I do not want to sound gay, feminine or anything. When I heard that recording of myself, I felt so sick afterwards and I felt really depressed. When I do talk with no emotion, I sound kinda monotone. When I say I talked gay or feminine, I don't mean I lisp or anything, but just that general stereotypical way of talking.

This is something I never noticed or anything, when I was younger I would hear my voice to see if it sounded to high, but when I heard my voiced sounded feminine/gay, it was a true shock because for me, I always thought the problem was with my supposed high voice. My friends never even told me or never even made me feel like I had the voice I do, and even the kids at school didnt make me feel like that (and when they asked if I was gay, I always thought it was cause I had a high voice)."


Ok Ryan:) ill make sure I'm nicer, Ryan :) but I in fact, did ask the same question twice, Ryan:) I asked my question in the title and in the description, Ryan:) typically, you leave details in the details section, and you leave your question in the title, Ryan:):):):):)



I was shocked to learn this! So shocked that I went to a bunch of people and asked them... How do you know what my voice sounds like?
Huh? Im confused lol

But yeah, I'm jealous of how deep yours is. Like when you out up at video on accents, I noticed you didn't use much emotion (not a bad thing) and I noticed how deep it was, so that got me thinking about this question, actually lol

[boringkid]

Every in my grade said my voice got deeper but it still sounds a little high and wierd

[Apollo.]

Fucking hell! This is why I'm terrified of P101, you ask a question then get a bunch of horny kids bashing you! What the fuck just because decent people don't like the post bumping replies of "Ur normal don't say gay voice" or whatever doesn't mean you should bash them. We'll I'm scared of that and the 13 year olds with 13 foot dicks.

[boringkid]

Fucking hell! This is why I'm terrified of P101, you ask a question then get a bunch of horny kids bashing you! What the fuck just because decent people don't like the post bumping replies of "Ur normal don't say Gau voice" or whatever doesn't mean you should bash them. We'll I'm scared of that and the 13 year olds with 13 foot dicks.

Mine aint that long lol :)

[Allain1996]

"So my voice isn't as high as it once was (shocker I know), but I noticed that I sounded a little gay when I talked. I was at my friends house and he was recording which I didn't know and my voice came on and I sounded gay, so when I left his house I probably spent an hour recording my voice saying different phrases, sentences, conversations, etc.

What I had noticed, is that when I don't put any emotion into what I say (happiness, sadness, etc.) I sound like any other guy, but when I do put emotion in, I sound gay. For me, it was like I was just talking to say what I want, and not talking sounding happy or disgusted or sad or what not.

So do guys typically just talk with no emotion? I do not want to sound gay, feminine or anything. When I heard that recording of myself, I felt so sick afterwards and I felt really depressed. When I do talk with no emotion, I sound kinda monotone. When I say I talked gay or feminine, I don't mean I lisp or anything, but just that general stereotypical way of talking.

This is something I never noticed or anything, when I was younger I would hear my voice to see if it sounded to high, but when I heard my voiced sounded feminine/gay, it was a true shock because for me, I always thought the problem was with my supposed high voice. My friends never even told me or never even made me feel like I had the voice I do, and even the kids at school didnt make me feel like that (and when they asked if I was gay, I always thought it was cause I had a high voice)."


Ok Ryan:) ill make sure I'm nicer, Ryan :) but I in fact, did ask the same question twice, Ryan:) I asked my question in the title and in the description, Ryan:)

Wow, you can actually kind of be polite! I'm truly impressed!
Now to answer your "question". No, I always use emotion when talking because it doesn't make my voice sound "gay" or really different at all!
I hope this answer pleases you more, as I would hate to set off another hissy fit from you! Lol

[PinkFloyd]

Huh? Im confused lol

But yeah, I'm jealous of how deep yours is. Like when you out up at video on accents, I noticed you didn't use much emotion (not a bad thing) and I noticed how deep it was, so that got me thinking about this question, actually lol[/QUOTE]
Ohhhh, yeah. Sorry, I forgot all about that video! But, thanks! :D

[Cicero]

Fucking hell! This is why I'm terrified of P101, you ask a question then get a bunch of horny kids bashing you! What the fuck just because decent people don't like the post bumping replies of "Ur normal don't say gay voice" or whatever doesn't mean you should bash them. We'll I'm scared of that and the 13 year olds with 13 foot dicks.

Yours is only 13? Pshhh mines 15 and you know you can believe me cause this is the Internet and I'm trying to impress people I'll never even meet ;) :P Yeah, I hate when people say "Yeah, I'm that rare person with the 9 inch dick" when apparently 10 other people have that same size :rolleyes:


Wow, you can actually kind of be polite! I'm truly impressed!
Now to answer your "question". No, I always use emotion when talking because it doesn't make my voice sound "gay" or really different at all!
I hope this answer pleases you more, as I would hate to set off another hissy fit from you! Lol

I can actually be nice. But I get sick of hearing the same thing over and over "Accept you for you", because that never answers questions. I can be very nice., actually.

[boringkid]

Cicero I would have to hearur voice to tell if you sound "gay" but anyways I hear if u drink room temp water it won't sound gay

[Allain1996]

I can actually be nice. But I get sick of hearing the same thing over and over "Accept you for you", because that never answers questions. I can be very nice., actually.

I understand your frustration, I really do.
Maybe being a little more polite to people instead of just blasting them with hate would help you get more people to give answers to your satisfaction though! ;)

[Alec0987]

I dont usually pay that much attention but i get what you mean

[cpkid09]

haha. so i grew up around all girls and one boy and you know girls...emotion all up in their voice haha. so basically it is my language. i mean i dont sound flamboyantly gay, but here and there my friends will be like wow that was a very feminine way to say fill in the blank haha