Why am I so weak?

[Jman437]

My life is worthless and boring: I only have my parents and one friend I can talk to, I have no self-esteem, and have powerful anxiety attacks, I'm the only guy in my class who is depressed with something, I can't do anything right, I can't deal with my problems alone, I always need help from other people to do things, everyone is happy but me. It just freaking infuriates me: why can't I be happy, strong and independent like other people? Why am I such a worthless piece of crap?
I have nothing or little to live for, I'm a disaster, I'm just a waste of space. Why was I born if my only purpose is to be here suffering until I die of old age, alone, depressed and forgotten? I bet my parents are regretful of conceiving me...

[centropede]

Trust me, that is only their outside, acctually many of them are depressed too!

Well i dont even have best friend to talk... :/

Think something what could you do! Tell your parents that u wana try new hobbies,.. or something like that :)

[Jman437]

Trust me, that is only their outside, acctually many of them are depressed too!

Well i dont even have best friend to talk... :/

Think something what could you do! Tell your parents that u wana try new hobbies,.. or something like that :)

But they're always so happy and full of life, they are always laughing, and they mock me for being so depressed.
I don't have money for new hobbies, so I can't have new hobbies...

[centropede]

But they're always so happy and full of life, they are always laughing, and they mock me for being so depressed.
I don't have money for new hobbies, so I can't have new hobbies...

U dont need so much mney for hobbies... get ball! Play football! Something like that, just ask parents! Maby they will think somethin!!!
There is many kind of peoples ... well at school sometimes i am verry happy, sometimes i am pretty quiet... sometimes depresed and then i put happy mask.

[Jman437]

U dont need so much mney for hobbies... get ball! Play football! Something like that, just ask parents! Maby they will think somethin!!!
There is many kind of peoples ... well at school sometimes i am verry happy, sometimes i am pretty quiet... sometimes depresed and then i put happy mask.

I know, but the reason I'm sad is because they tease me for being this way, that's what really grinds my gears... I mean, they have problems too and I don't tease them, why do they tease me?!

[muffin with a knife]

teenagers can be mean... I know it will sound cliche but you just have to ignore them. about hobbies you could try something creative. to get out your emotions.

[Helena]

My life is worthless and boring: I only have my parents and one friend I can talk to, I have no self-esteem, and have powerful anxiety attacks, I'm the only guy in my class who is depressed with something, I can't do anything right, I can't deal with my problems alone, I always need help from other people to do things, everyone is happy but me. It just freaking infuriates me: why can't I be happy, strong and independent like other people? Why am I such a worthless piece of crap?
I have nothing or little to live for, I'm a disaster, I'm just a waste of space. Why was I born if my only purpose is to be here suffering until I die of old age, alone, depressed and forgotten? I bet my parents are regretful of conceiving me...

Everyone has problems. Some are just better at acting. They smile, and they laugh, and they tell themselves it's ok. They put their problems to the back of their mind. They're scared or lonely or sad but they find it in themselves to at least pretend that they are strong. Everybody is scared and sad and lonely sometimes. Courage comes from fear. Courage is the ability to continue even in the face of fear. Everybody is afraid. They eventually learn to find it in themselves to continue on. You can do that too. Be brave.

[paulw]

If you are constantly thinking that your worth less than the people around you (and it sounds a bit like it from the way you talk) there is a chance it could be depression (im not a doctor obv).

Dont forget that depression isnt just "feeling sad", its an actual scientific medical thing just the same as assma or migraines or whatever. The only difference is that those things make you feel your health is bad, where as depression makes you feel like life is bad.

It's ok to have it, and its a real thing, and if you have it, its not something you did, or something you have to try to fix magicaly by "cheering up". There can be different cauases but it can be as simple as the chemistry inside your brain not being in proper balance.

The weird thing is if that happens, u dont feel ill or whatever, you just think somehow life is incredibly ****, but youre not really sure why you feel like that, and then you look at everyone else and think "why am I not happy like them" and it wont make sense no matter how much u try to "talk urself out of it" or "cheer up".

Also dont forget if people are saying to you "oh cheer up" its probably cos they dont even know what depression (the medical sort) actually is, so they wouldnt even realise.

If its been going on a while and u really cant figure out why u feel bad, maybe u shld mention you have been feeling "unwell" recently, and then go see a medical profesional, they should be able to help u check out if it is depression rellated.

Of course, sometimes life just IS ****, but usually if thats the reason, you can figure out why you feel that way!

[Jman437]

If you are constantly thinking that your worth less than the people around you (and it sounds a bit like it from the way you talk) there is a chance it could be depression (im not a doctor obv).

Dont forget that depression isnt just "feeling sad", its an actual scientific medical thing just the same as assma or migraines or whatever. The only difference is that those things make you feel your health is bad, where as depression makes you feel like life is bad.

It's ok to have it, and its a real thing, and if you have it, its not something you did, or something you have to try to fix magicaly by "cheering up". There can be different cauases but it can be as simple as the chemistry inside your brain not being in proper balance.

The weird thing is if that happens, u dont feel ill or whatever, you just think somehow life is incredibly ****, but youre not really sure why you feel like that, and then you look at everyone else and think "why am I not happy like them" and it wont make sense no matter how much u try to "talk urself out of it" or "cheer up".

Also dont forget if people are saying to you "oh cheer up" its probably cos they dont even know what depression (the medical sort) actually is, so they wouldnt even realise.

If its been going on a while and u really cant figure out why u feel bad, maybe u shld mention you have been feeling "unwell" recently, and then go see a medical profesional, they should be able to help u check out if it is depression rellated.

Of course, sometimes life just IS ****, but usually if thats the reason, you can figure out why you feel that way!

I don't have a depression, I have anxiety issues. They kick in whenever I can't solve a math problem(math anxiety), when I think about: not accomplishing my goals, not being able to get a decent job, that beautiful girl I will never get because she's waaay outta my league. I seriously need to get a grip on them.

[paulw]

I don't have a depression, I have anxiety issues. They kick in whenever I can't solve a math problem(math anxiety), when I think about: not accomplishing my goals, not being able to get a decent job, that beautiful girl I will never get because she's waaay outta my league. I seriously need to get a grip on them.

They very often go together. Have u had medical advice? Defnitely get some if not.

Have a look in the other thread u posted, cos I wrote u another long reply there too and that one was more anxiety related, cos the syptoms u said there sounded more like the anxiety part not the depression part.

[Jman437]

They very often go together. Have u had medical advice? Defnitely get some if not.

Have a look in the other thread u posted, cos I wrote u another long reply there too and that one was more anxiety related, cos the syptoms u said there sounded more like the anxiety part not the depression part.

My problem is anxiety. You see, my father is an anxious being just like me, although his anxiety attacks aren't as intense as mine, not by a long shot xD. So it's genetic, but the environment also played a big role in my anxiety issue. I've been psychological bullied in elementary, every single one of my classmates bullied me, even girls, it was like a Monster Study(search "Monster Study" on google). Thanks to my former classmates, my anxiety issue got worse and worse. I may need some help from a shrink or a psychologist, but most probably, I may have a generalized anxiety disorder.

[norcaldude18]

Trust me, everybody has their own issues they are struggling with. The other people who you think are happy have decided that they are not going to let their problems bring them down, at least not let it show on the outside. Most people do not want to hang around debbie downers since they suck all the positivity out of the room. Even though its hard when your depressed, try smiling and giving people compliments and laughing at jokes. I bet people will stop mocking you for being depressed then. And no, your parents do not regret having you, they love you very much and you should talk to them about how your feeling. They can't help you until you go to them for help.

[Jman437]

Trust me, everybody has their own issues they are struggling with. The other people who you think are happy have decided that they are not going to let their problems bring them down, at least not let it show on the outside. Most people do not want to hang around debbie downers since they suck all the positivity out of the room. Even though its hard when your depressed, try smiling and giving people compliments and laughing at jokes. I bet people will stop mocking you for being depressed then. And no, your parents do not regret having you, they love you very much and you should talk to them about how your feeling. They can't help you until you go to them for help.

I need help fast, but why do i need help? WHY?! I mean, it's my freaking obligation to cope with this extreme neuroticism myself, I'm 17 for Christ's sake!!! I'm almost 18, I should behave a man! I should be a man!! Most teens deal with this stuff when they're 14 or 15, why the hell do I have to deal with this now and not then? My parents say what I'm feeling is completely normal, but it's not, I know it's not, they were my age but i bet they weren't this neurotic. Actually, no one is! NO ONE!

And I bet that my future will be as I most feared: watching my colleagues and ''friends'' surpass me in every way imaginable, while I aimlessly live, with nothing accomplished, no one to make happy, my parents trying to convince to "carry on and continue fighting" and not kill myself, when it makes no sense to live with no purpose, because we ALL have a purpose, right? The truth is that not all of us have a purpose if not suffer until we die... That's the harsh truth, my friends! People have been lying to you since you came out of your mother's womb! Wake up for reality!!!

[dking023]

You need to find something that you like to do and that takes your mind off of your everyday problems. Running is a good way to burn energy and to focus your body's energy on something, listen to music while you do it to further occupy your mind.

SET GOALS for yourself. Today I'll accomplish this. Tomorrow I'll accomplish that. And so on...so eventually you'll get to a place that will make you happy, and you will be happy with every positive step in that direction.

Everyone has issues, not everyone shows it. Everyone has the potential to be great, not everyone reaches it. Each individual gets to determine if they will be great or not.

Be great!

[Jman437]

You need to find something that you like to do and that takes your mind off of your everyday problems. Running is a good way to burn energy and to focus your body's energy on something, listen to music while you do it to further occupy your mind.

SET GOALS for yourself. Today I'll accomplish this. Tomorrow I'll accomplish that. And so on...so eventually you'll get to a place that will make you happy, and you will be happy with every positive step in that direction.

Everyone has issues, not everyone shows it. Everyone has the potential to be great, not everyone reaches it. Each individual gets to determine if they will be great or not.

Be great!

That's the freaking problem! I never set goals because I don't have what it takes to accomplish them, I'm too small for the goals I set, I'm a fly and my goals are an elephant. I want to make some personality changes but I just don't have what it takes to change! I'm worthless, I can't do anything! How can I make goals if I'm too small to accomplish them? How can I change my personality when I can't do anything right? How can I get a girlfriend when I can't even change myself?

How can I be great when I don't have what it takes to be it?

[ThatCanadianGuy]

That's the freaking problem! I never set goals because I don't have what it takes to accomplish them, I'm too small for the goals I set, I'm a fly and my goals are an elephant. I want to make some personality changes but I just don't have what it takes to change! I'm worthless, I can't do anything! How can I make goals if I'm too small to accomplish them? How can I change my personality when I can't do anything right? How can I get a girlfriend when I can't even change myself?

How can I be great when I don't have what it takes to be it?

You can fully realize the great things in store for your future, when you realize that pretty much every sentence quoted there is a lie. All I see there is a big list of untrue statements about yourself, holding you back when they do not need to do so.

"I don't have what it takes to change..."
"I can't do anything!..."
"I'm too small to accomplish my goals!.."

These are the recurring thoughts in your head, they are what is standing in the way of your progress; and they do NOT deserve to be there. Issues of anxiety and low self-esteem can be so frustrating because the longer they hold sway in a person's life, the more apt they are to believe these inaccurate judgements about themselves; they MAKE them true only by believing in them strongly enough.

I wish that I could just project my confidence and self-assurance INTO people who feel this way about themselves, just so they could know what it's like to climb out of that hole of despair; it was something I had to do myself a few years ago. But that task is a personal one; the most powerful and lasting changes for the better are going to come from within you. I can't do it for you, no one else can but YOU. Lots of young people in my generation and the ones immediately following me are suffering from existential crises; the world seems so big and meaningless and our part to play seems so inconsequential that we wonder why any of it matters at all. But it does matter. It matters because this is your life to live; you just don't realize yet how totally, radically FREE you are to choose how you want to make this life count.

Bear with me here, some might find this a tad corny, but I truly live and stand by the ideas presented here in this little snippet from one of my favourite films. I draw inspiration from these thoughts daily, and may be you will also:

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[Jman437]

You can fully realize the great things in store for your future, when you realize that pretty much every sentence quoted there is a lie. All I see there is a big list of untrue statements about yourself, holding you back when they do not need to do so.

"I don't have what it takes to change..."
"I can't do anything!..."
"I'm too small to accomplish my goals!.."

These are the recurring thoughts in your head, they are what is standing in the way of your progress; and they do NOT deserve to be there. Issues of anxiety and low self-esteem can be so frustrating because the longer they hold sway in a person's life, the more apt they are to believe these inaccurate judgements about themselves; they MAKE them true only by believing in them strongly enough.

I wish that I could just project my confidence and self-assurance INTO people who feel this way about themselves, just so they could know what it's like to climb out of that hole of despair; it was something I had to do myself a few years ago. But that task is a personal one; the most powerful and lasting changes for the better are going to come from within you. I can't do it for you, no one else can but YOU. Lots of young people in my generation and the ones immediately following me are suffering from existential crises; the world seems so big and meaningless and our part to play seems so inconsequential that we wonder why any of it matters at all. But it does matter. It matters because this is your life to live; you just don't realize yet how totally, radically FREE you are to choose how you want to make this life count.

Bear with me here, some might find this a tad corny, but I truly live and stand by the ideas presented here in this little snippet from one of my favourite films. I draw inspiration from these thoughts daily, and may be you will also:

aS1esgRV4Rc

Look, I'm too weak to do anything, and here's why: my life is in the dumps right now, I want to go to college but I don't have grades for it, the girl I like doesn't seem to like me at all, all the stuff I do never goes my way, I can't do anything right, I scare off every girl that talks to me... The only place I feel good at is when I play the piano, I feel like I belong somewhere when I play it, but I don't always have the time to do it...

[endorfin]

If you've had to do more in your life to reach the same point as another person then you are actually the stronger person. The weakest kids usually become the strongest adults because they grow up a lot quicker.

You may be envious of the bodies of others but 1) you can never have their body and 2) if you did you'd get sick of it as quickly as the last.

[Jman437]

If you've had to do more in your life to reach the same point as another person then you are actually the stronger person. The weakest kids usually become the strongest adults because they grow up a lot quicker.

You may be envious of the bodies of others but 1) you can never have their body and 2) if you did you'd get sick of it as quickly as the last.

I know that, but why does everyone else seem better than me? All of the other people are getting good grades, girlfriends and every good thing a human can get, while I'm here, all anxious and neurotic and helpless... And worst of all, I don't know what to do to make myself feel better! I don't want to be this anxious, neurotic-ass freak no more!!!

[Matt_2012]

Ive felt like this for so long. I always felt like i was the only one with these types of problems that was such a failure and co dependent.

I know how you feel man and your not alone :)

[Jman437]

Ive felt like this for so long. I always felt like i was the only one with these types of problems that was such a failure and co dependent.

I know how you feel man and your not alone :)

I know that feel bro :)