Friend

[parker84797]

I have a friend that is 10 years old and he is like a brother to me. He is all awaits asking me stuff about girlfriends and stuff like that. Today, he asked me about penises and hair and puberty. I don't know what I should do. I think he needs to know but I don't know when is the right time. He doesn't have a dad to tell him about this so I need to know when is the right time. I need to know soon. Thanks everyone

[johnsmith1]

Just be open with him. Take time out to sit down and talk with him. Think of your own experience and what you would like to have known at that age. You don't have to go in to too much detail, but don't be dismissive either. Even use some of the desciptions on the main thread to help you. I was an early developer, so wish that someone had givem me a talk - so just be there for him.

[SmartTee]

Just talk to him and tell him all you know about that. :)

[itsthat0n3kid]

just sit him down and give him "the talk"
but take it slow, dont rush it.

[Iam_1]

Just explain the basics to him. I wouldnt tell him about sex yet though.

[irishguy123]

i dont know if you are the right person to give him this information at 10 years old. this is kinda a job for a parent to give their 10 year old child in my opinion and his family may be angry with you if they find out that you told him and at that age

[justinglives]

If hes asking, just tell him. He obviously trusts you enuf to ask.
If he doesnt get the information from you, he WILL get ot somewhere else and may get bad info from friends etc.

Like:
You cant get a girl pregnant the first time.
She cant get pregnant if you pull out b4 u cum.
You can start without a condom...just put it on b4 u cum inside her.
Experimenting w a guy makes you gay.

*** shall i continue? Its kinda like ure responsibility to answe him honestly....

[Gogeta]

Yeah man I reckon give him all the info he wants haha :))

[Toomanygigawatts]

It depends how the situation is.... If he has other friends around his age that you know for a fact that will give him the right info, then let them do it, but if not, go ahead with the fact that he's only ten in mind.

[irishguy123]

If hes asking, just tell him. He obviously trusts you enuf to ask.
If he doesnt get the information from you, he WILL get ot somewhere else and may get bad info from friends etc.

Like:
You cant get a girl pregnant the first time.
She cant get pregnant if you pull out b4 u cum.
You can start without a condom...just put it on b4 u cum inside her.
Experimenting w a guy makes you gay.

*** shall i continue? Its kinda like ure responsibility to answe him honestly....

Yes but i dont think he would get that kind of info from fellow 10 year olds in fairness!

[sartbimpson55]

You should show him the site! Or use it as reference to answer his questions

[DerBear]

This isn't exactly a puberty question. However I can see why you've posted it here but it would fit in better in family and friends.

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Family and Friends.

[dontfiguremeout]

Hmm, I would just do very basic talk. He should learn this in school either this year or next year. But just be pretty basic with him and say you'll learn more in school and then if he wants to he can ask more questions.

[xmojox]

He asked so it's time. Just be sure to only answer what he asks, and give him 100% factual and honest answers.

[Second Chance]

I agree with the others that you should be completely honest with the kid and tell him what he wants to know. If you have money, then it would be good if you can pick up a book about puberty for your friend which would make sure he has the right information. The fact that the kid is asking about penises, hair, etc. means he is not clueless, and just answer his questions as they come up and let him know you will be a resource person.

I am not sure what your relationship is with his mum, but if she is reasonable, then it is always good to have her be a part of the process especially since she's the one responsible for telling the kid about stuff from a girl's point of view and letting him know what she as a parent expects of him.