There's this guy....[yeh, it sucks]

[[[chickaroo92]]]

I like this guy, he obviously likes me 'nuff said...

Wrong!

Well, about the "obviously" part, anyway. He's in grade 11, and I'm in grade 10. He has a girlfriend, and I'm single.

To cut to the chase, I told him how I felt, he just laughed it off, and was like, " I have a girlfriend, y'know?" I know he's dating, I just don't want him dating that person. She's like three years younger then him, is really clingy, like as in "This is my boyfriend, don't you dare!", she kisses him almost every second of the school day, in front of an audience, never in private, and to make manners worst, it's making me crazy, and jealous all at the same time.

I love, as a friend, like he's the older brother I never had, and in general. I can't make up my mind. He's really funny, sometimes out-going, and sometimes just makes a complete ass out of himself. I also try talking to him, telling him that his girlfriend is only doing it to make me feel like crap. That he needs to date someone who is mature, and doesn't do "mushy" stuff just to impress the dude. What should I do?

[Gumleaf]

this may sound a little harsh but i honestly think you should mind your own business. i say that because i had a similar experience with my cousin. we are the same age and get along great, anyway a few months back she started going out with a guy i considered to be way below her and i didn't like him much at all. i tried to talk her out of it and generally interfere for weeks and in the end she told me where to go basically. i was pissed off at first because i only did it because i love her (as a cousin that is) and care about her, but then i realised that its her life and she should do what she wants. so i suggest that you maybe try and keep out of it. you never know, they may break up down the track anyway and you might get your chance. good luck.

[byee]

I understand your problem here. Seeing others you care for make mistakes is hard to watch. Especially when you point it out and they ignore you.

Such is life, however. He's going to make mistakes (in your eyes) and hopefully he will learn from them. The best you can do is be his friend without judging him or his choices. For whatever reason, he can't really hear you, he needs to go thru this himself.

The good news is that yours is an enduring friendship that is special. And, by it's very nature, might very well be more important to him than these temporary ones. And, whatever growth he gains from his experiences will benefit you when he's ready.

[[[chickaroo92]]]

Thanks to you both, I will take your advice, even though it will be hard at first. I'll get used to it.