What is this? I don't even know.

[Smeagol]

So I'm posting kinda in shock from my best friend's house. We were watching a movie with her dad and he was running his hand up and down my inner thigh. I guess this isn't abuse. I know. People might do that subconsciously? But still. It freaked me out. I just don't understand. I tried to stop him and he wouldn't stop. He didnt touch me any closer than five inches to my crotch. I just don't know what the hell he was doing and it makes me rather scared. I know this guy, I don't think he is likely to sexually assault me but it gives me this creepy, unclean feeling and what should I do??? I don't want to tell an adult because they'll blow this way out of proprortion and he'll get arrested and he's a nice guy and I don't know what to do. It now I have to sleep in their house tonight. I know I'm just being silly but what do I do???

[DJPon3]

If it doesn't continue then it's fine, maybe just a subconscious thing. No need to get any action done, but if he pulls something similar then I'd suggest seeing an adult to get it sorted out. He has no right to touch you and make sure he full well knows that.

[SamanthaMaciel]

dont sleep... cus he could be touvhinh u when ur asleep... u never know.... and if u do tell someone they WILL BE OVER THE TOP ABOUT IT... I would honostly never sleep over there... let ur friend sleep at ur house... avoid him and never be alone with him!!!

[Smeagol]

Well here I am in the morning. I'm fine. I guess I overreacted.

Update after lunch.

He keeps patting me on the back and touching me... Not as inappropriately but I'm still scared.

Update after I leave their house:

He gave me a kiss on the cheek goodbye I'm super scared. Somebody tell me what to do/ how to get over this and stop freaking out?

[Erasmus]

Well here I am in the morning. I'm fine. I guess I overreacted.

Update after lunch.

He keeps patting me on the back and touching me... Not as inappropriately but I'm still scared.

Update after I leave their house:

He gave me a kiss on the cheek goodbye I'm super scared. Somebody tell me what to do/ how to get over this and stop freaking out?

Maeve, this seems pretty serious. I would tell an aldult if I were you,

[Smeagol]

Yes, I'm going to tell an adult. I'm still really uncomfortable, and it's a whole day after. At least nothing worse happened.

[JonasBe]

A pat on the back now and then and a goodbye kiss on the cheek, those are things I wouldn't normally worry about.
These gestures are considered friendly.

When (if) I'm a father and my son or daughter has a good friend over which I also know quite well I think a goodbye kiss is a innocent gesture.
I could see myself doing that because there's just no foul intention, in Europe a kiss on the cheek is in many ways an accepted greetings and goodbye ritual.

A pat on the back is also harmless in my eyes.

But the touching on the thigh, that is disturbing...
No parent should ever touch a friend of his own children or even any child/teen in that way. So yes, those touchings are abuse, especially if you let him know he had to stop and didn't.

Maybe he means no harm, but still, it should be looked into, it's no normal behaviour. If only a pat on the back or a harmless goodbye kiss on the cheek I wouldn't worry about, but the way he's touching your legs is not harmless at all...

I hope it turns out okay!

[candabear17]

This isn't something that you're just feeling silly about. This is a grown man touching you in an inappropriate way. This guy appears to be grooming you (starting an inappropriate relationship through minor hints and gestures). I suggest telling your parents immediately and staying away from him. Don't let it escalate to something you'll regret. You may also want to talk to your friend because it's likely he's doing this to her too.

[Kuurachan]

ATTACK FULL FORCE. NOBODY MESSES WITH GIRLS. ( ehem) sort it out with a trusted adult and if something like this ever happens again, it's ok to defend yourself with a good punch to the face or a kick to the crotch( ouch)

[CharlieHorse]

ATTACK FULL FORCE. NOBODY MESSES WITH GIRLS. ( ehem) sort it out with a trusted adult and if something like this ever happens again, it's ok to defend yourself with a good punch to the face or a kick to the crotch( ouch)

I agree. Talk to a trusted adult.

In general, if a dbag you don't know touches you in a bad way, you are completely justified to kick him as hard as you can in his crotch. If he never can have children because of it, then that's a good thing.

I can't stand it when I hear about ass holes touching girls like this. :mad:
It's just so wrong.

[Pure Innocent Nun]

I would talk to an adult or at least confront him with that what he does makes you feel uncomfortable.

[MediaJordan]

He is probably trying to show that he is interested, but that isn't really acceptable so i would tell someone you trust and maybe talk it out with him and them calmly?