I'm missing something

[green]

Lately I've been feeling like something is missing from my life. On the outside my life is great really, I'm 16, I have a good paying job, I have friends and a career to look forward to. But I'm not happy. I always find my self pining for romance. I want to find a girl that I can be happy with, not have everything based around sex, someone who I connect with.
I've been single for almost a year and up until this point, my relationships have been centred around sexual attraction. Whether it is started by me or the partner, time to ourselves generally ends up in making out and other sexual activities. I seem to be different from everyone else I know in that I want to keep sex for someone I am truly in love with, someone I would marry.
I can't seem to find what I want in terms of emotional maturity in a female partner. I think that maybe I've clouded my image of love with novels that depict being in love as time standing still when your with that person (novels like twilight for instance, which are my guilty pleasures).
I don't know how I can find the sort of emotional connection I pine for. Girls at my school seem so shallow, they all want to be popular and don't take pleasure in art or music. They want to party and have sex with their boyfriends while I just want to listen to music with my partner, enjoy nature, enjoy art and literature. Does anyone know how I can find what I want?

[Ryhanna]

The most important thing is that you know what you want. Other than that, it's great you're ready for a mature relationship. That's very rare among our age group. :)

Because you're aware of what you're looking for, you can make an active search for someone who can give you what you want. Do you know anyone who might be suitable for you? If not, you might want to try meeting new people. Attend music events, or find some place for you to connect with people who have common interests.

If you meet someone you like, take the relationship slowly, and make sure it's clear what you're looking for. Possibly the best way to keep a relationship from becoming based on sex is to not make sex the main bonding activity between the two of you. Which will be easy if you have common interests.

Good luck in finding someone who can give you what you want. It's hard to find others who are ready to be in mature relationships at our age - trust me. :P