Honestly? I'm terrified.

[kayleethegray]

I really don't know where to put this, but this seems like the best place.

I'm Kaylee, and I know in my heart that I am pansexual. I've read countless stories of coming out, and I feel so happy that so many of you can be who you are, and I honestly look up to all of you, but I think I've been broken by bigotry. Mainly the bigotry of my former best friend. She was guessing who my latest crush was, who happened to be one of the first friends I made in this state, who happened to be a girl. She kept guessing every boy, until she stopped, and looked at me with this look of disgust and horror and said "Oh God Kaylee, it's not a girl, is it?" and I nodded and she started yelling at me and I cried. I had never been emotionally and mentally destroyed like that, it was awful. She has never said another word to me about it since. The sweet irony is how fake friends she is with my gay friends.

I only have a few friends, I can't afford to lose them, I just can't! How am I supposed to trust they will not make me want to be, well anything but me? Can I please be normal?

[xxPerryPlatypusxx]

you need to make new friends who will openly accept you and not bring you down
you need better support systems. look for friends who share similar interests with you or who express the same sexual tendencies. there is nothing wrong with liking the same sex. i learned this after a while of hating myself. I eventually accepted myself and realized I liked woman and I dropped all of the people including family who bigoted me
basically be proud of who you are, don't be scared
be strong with a happy heart and you will go far.
this friend sounds homophobic although you said she hangs out with gay guys
well there is really no difference between lesbians and gay men
she needs to get herself straightened out
I think you should stop talking to her all together
she doesn't sound like a good support system for what you are going through :)

[Ryhanna]

To put it bluntly, any friend who doesn't accept you for who you are was never a true friend to begin with.

If your friends can't accept you, then they don't deserve you. That's the truth. You can always make new friends who will accept you. There's no point in suffering through fake friendships which make you feel as though you don't belong. Don't let them force you to feel that way.

[xxPerryPlatypusxx]

^this is totally true and what I already said lol
we both have a good point here
you need new friends

[kayleethegray]

But I seriously am running out of people to be friends with, not to mention how absolutely god-awful i am at making friends. I can't get rid of any friends that are bigots.

The "friend" in the story is no longer my friend, but she has a lot of friends that she has plucked right out from under me.

[xxPerryPlatypusxx]

well then those friends aren't any better either if they are listening to her
try joining a GSA (gay straight alliance) in your school if they have one or suggest one being formed with a school guidance counceller
I was apart of my old schools GSA
I was and still am a big part of the gay community :)

[gamerdudeW]

she will realize one day that she wasn't being nice in her response and will hopefully make it right..but at least u know how fake she can be to people and this will help protect yourself in the future. be true and real to yourself and you will attract other real ppl around you who appreciate that about you. head up, girl =)

[xmojox]

First, I'm sorry that you ever had to go through that. People can be so hateful and insensitive. Stay strong. Just be the awesome you that you seem to be and stay above the pettiness. I agree that a GSA group might help. Dr. Seuss nailed it when he said those who mind don't matter and those who matter won't mind. I'm sorry I couldn't offer more help. I wish you good luck and happiness.

[Jinxxy]

I really don't know where to put this, but this seems like the best place.

I'm Kaylee, and I know in my heart that I am pansexual. I've read countless stories of coming out, and I feel so happy that so many of you can be who you are, and I honestly look up to all of you, but I think I've been broken by bigotry. Mainly the bigotry of my former best friend. She was guessing who my latest crush was, who happened to be one of the first friends I made in this state, who happened to be a girl. She kept guessing every boy, until she stopped, and looked at me with this look of disgust and horror and said "Oh God Kaylee, it's not a girl, is it?" and I nodded and she started yelling at me and I cried. I had never been emotionally and mentally destroyed like that, it was awful. She has never said another word to me about it since. The sweet irony is how fake friends she is with my gay friends.

I only have a few friends, I can't afford to lose them, I just can't! How am I supposed to trust they will not make me want to be, well anything but me? Can I please be normal?


What your "best friend" did is what's disgusting about all this.
You may not necessarily need to make new friends, confide in your gay friends for their advice, as they are likely to be a lot more understanding!
You also NEED to tell these gay friends about what your "best friend" really thinks about them as being fake friends is not only dishonest but it could really harm their reputation and their school lives if she spreads around horrible things about them and their sexuality.

She sounds like the sort of person who can manipulate people into her way of thinking very easily and these type of people are dangerous.

Another good thing to do is confide in a teacher you like/get along with well as they may be able to help :) Do you have any openly gay/lesbian teachers at your school?

Your sexuality is NOTHING to be afraid of - you should never be forced back into the closet, especially by someone you call your friend! Be proud of who you are and those who are true friends will stick by you no matter what!

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You are normal. Just a pansexual normal.

[peaceNlove]

Wow that girl is awful. Seriously, there is nothing wrong with you, there is something wrong with her if she's able to treat a human being like that. That's horrible and I'm so sorry she did that to you. Just really try to make new friends. Join or make a GSA club like the others said because those help a lot(i know because I'm in one). Acce

[peaceNlove]

Wow that girl is awful. Seriously, there is nothing wrong with you, there is something wrong with her if she's able to treat a human being like that. That's horrible and I'm so sorry she did that to you. Just really try to make new friends. Join or make a GSA club like the others said because those help a lot(i know because I'm in one). Accept your sexuality and be proud of yourself. You're awesome and people will realize that.

[peaceNlove]

Sorry about the double message. I accidentally posted before i finished.

[chasec]

Have confidence in yourself. Realize that there are others out there like you. You'll find them. Be patient and be strong and know you're just as normal as everyone else. The only difference between you and those bigots is that they don't know themselves as well as you know yourself.

Stay beautiful.

[Silicate Wielder]

I really don't know where to put this, but this seems like the best place.

I'm Kaylee, and I know in my heart that I am pansexual. I've read countless stories of coming out, and I feel so happy that so many of you can be who you are, and I honestly look up to all of you, but I think I've been broken by bigotry. Mainly the bigotry of my former best friend. She was guessing who my latest crush was, who happened to be one of the first friends I made in this state, who happened to be a girl. She kept guessing every boy, until she stopped, and looked at me with this look of disgust and horror and said "Oh God Kaylee, it's not a girl, is it?" and I nodded and she started yelling at me and I cried. I had never been emotionally and mentally destroyed like that, it was awful. She has never said another word to me about it since. The sweet irony is how fake friends she is with my gay friends.

I only have a few friends, I can't afford to lose them, I just can't! How am I supposed to trust they will not make me want to be, well anything but me? Can I please be normal?

Its fine, You won't lose your friends. I came out about being pansexual a week ago and everything is going fine for me. If they try and make you something your not, or spread rumors (I hear girls do that alot?) then they aren't really your friends.

Good luck.

But I seriously am running out of people to be friends with, not to mention how absolutely god-awful i am at making friends. I can't get rid of any friends that are bigots.

The "friend" in the story is no longer my friend, but she has a lot of friends that she has plucked right out from under me.

Well, just see if theres anyone with the same interests as you, and then talk about a subject based on one of those interests, you could also try looking at different crowds.