Best friend's gf

[JKING3]

First of all idk if this goes in this section or the friend section but anyway, by best friend's gf told me yesterday that she has feelings for me. She went on to say that she would do it with me when she hasn't even done it with him. they've been going out for like 3 months now and they've told each other that they love each other, but she's been really confused by her feelings. Now I'm really attracted to her cuz she's beautiful and idk what to do. She said that she would try to see if she could convince her bf to take a break and then we could do stuff after that, and that seems ok to me. I haven't made up my mind yet of what I'm gonna do because it obviously seems really wrong but if they're on a break and me and her make sure that no one would ever find out then is it really wrong? I guess I'm just looking for what u guys would do in this situation and if u want me to clarify anything just ask. thanks

[brisk]

You are attracted to your best friend's girlfriend? She is attracted to you ... and they've been dating for three months? Ouch. You're stuck between a rock and a hard place.

I'd wait a while; see if you two genuinely have feelings for each other, or if it's just "puppy love." If you still like each other, there's nothing more to be said. You might ruin your friendship, but if you're willing to do so to be with this girl, go for it. I wouldn't make the relationship public immediately. Imagine what would run through your friend's head if you started dating his girlfriend seriously while they're just "taking a break." This is not a position I'd like to be in.

Whatever you're going to do, I'd take it slowly. There's nothing worse than "taking a break" with your girlfriend--until she starts dating your best friend immediately after.

Best of luck.

[peaceNlove]

Okay, I say don't do anything with her. If i was in your situation i wouldn't because he's your best friend and even though they would take a break, he still may have feelings for her if they tell each other that they love each other. Trust me, this could end in a fight between you and your best friend and I would guess you wouldn't want that. And since they're taking a break, I'm guessing that they probably will get back together? Altogether this just doesn't seem like a good idea. Try to find a different girl. I don't fully know your feelings for her but i recommend pushing them aside for a different girl that hasn't dated your best friend. Sorry if this wasn't the answer you wanted to hear, but i think that it will save a ton of drama that nobody needs. Oh and also, doing secretly is worse because what if your best friend were to find out? I really hope this helped:)

[unnamed94]

he's your best friend. does that actually mean anything to you? you would be the biggest douche if you actually did do anything with her. its obvious that its still wrong even if no one ever found out you did stuff when they were on a break. i would just move on and forget about her in that way.

[JoeHillsTSD]

Put yourself in his shoes. You told this girl you love her after 3 months of invested time. You turn around to find your girlfriend "taking a break" (remember this is someone who you love). That, in itself, is hard for you. Then, after a few weeks, you catch your bestfriend holding hands with your girlfriend, or kissing her, or having sex with her. Wouldnt you be angry? Or at the very least upset?

If my bestfriend did this to me, I'd cut all ties with him (when I found out that a few of my good friends suddenly found an interest in my girlfriend after we started dating, I was really upset, and stopped talking with them for awhile).

A bestfriend shouldn't harm a relationship. If anything, they should be supportive. In my honest opinion you need to do 1 of these 2 things
1) Tell this girl you guys can't be together, and that she needs to keep her mouth shut about what you guys talked about or
2) Go to your bestfriend, tell him everything that happened and everything that was said between you and his girlfriend.

If you value your friendship, you won't bother with this girl, at least until she has broken up with him on her own accord without any influence from you. And even then, make sure your friend is fine with you two dating.

[crazy_teen]

If it was you, can you really say it's fine if your friend and gf do it while you two are on break. Can you accept it if your friend would say that you guys are on break anyway so it's okay to have a go with her.

If she said she loves your bestfriend but is confused now because she met this other guy (I meant you) so she wants to take a break blah blah blah, can you really throw away your friendship for this kind of girl? Well if you can, then that only shows how much of a friend you are.

[Eth_94123]

You could end up losing your best friend if he ever finds out, it's abit risky don't you think? Unless you want it to get complicated I would stay away from her!

[Kjcj]

Honestly I don't think any girl/guy is worth a friendship... I only have 1 true friend and it is like I tolerate everyone else.... I wouldn't screw up my friendship with him for his gf I would find me someone else!

[SamanthaMaciel]

I would forget about it... u dont want to lose ur best friend...

[Wanderer_]

Is your friends name Jesse?

[giofighter]

Damn,haven't seen a situation like this for a while.I had the exact problem you have,totally the same.If you are lucky and your best friend look alike at least a bit like my best friend then you can go for it.My best forgive about 3-4 weeks later he found out i was making out with his girlfriend.(also,they were taking a break too)

[MaguireUk]

I think if they have a break and anything happens your friend wouldnt have to know, if then you two get together and are happy keep it secret from him. He doesnt have to know if your worried, but id be truthful id tell him she fell for you and you fell for her it happens! He should be happy and move on.