I don't like my dad?

[Cage]

My dad left my mother before I was born, he ended up moving a few states away. When I was around 12/13, he decided to come back (he'd come back from where he moved to for a week or so). I was still mad at him for leaving in the first place and making my mom struggle with raising me by herself. Anyways, this was around the time I was beginning to do typical teenager stuff like hanging out with friends and stuff like that. When he came back, he started acting like it's my obligation to go and do stuff with him and drop all of my plans with friends because he wanted me to go to do something, needless to say this didn't help with my dislike for him. Anyways, I'm 15 now and still don't want to forgive because even at this point my mom's still struggling raising me and he's not doing anything to try and help even though he has plenty of money so I'm sure a few bucks here and there wouldn't hurt.

Anyways, am I in the wrong here for being angry at him for practically leaving my mom to raise me on her own and not even trying to help her out?

Edit: Also, it's like he's trying to become my dad (if that makes sense) but I feel as though I'm at a point where the need for a father figure is kinda shot because I'm more or less developed as a person by this point and I don't feel like I need one because I've made it this far in life without one.

[CoolKid97]

I see your point. I think you have every right to be mad at him for a few reasons. Leaving you and your mom at an early age to fend for yourselves. While that's bad the even worse part is he doesn't send support? When he decides to come back around he try's to act like he's been there your whole life? But those are my thoughts.

[xxPerryPlatypusxx]

yes I can totally understand why you would be mad
I was mad for 9 months at my dad
he disowned me. left my mom for another woman and married her
had 2 kids with her... and then I was practically nothing to him
He handed me over to childrens aid or whatever its called when I was 14.
WE only just started talking again a week or so again lol. everything is cool now
it will take time for you to forgive him but I am sure good things will come in time and everything will be alright.
hope this was somewhat helpful?

[Erasmus]

No, you're definitely not in the wrong for feeling the way you do. He shouldn't have left you and your mom for no good reason. However, it seems like he's realized that he was wrong, and he's trying to connect with you. Although it may seem like he's forcing you to do stuff with him, it may be that he just wants to spend time with you, and make up for lost time. I think you should at least give him a chance, and see if he's really sorry for what he did.

[crepesuzette]

your anger is reasonable, dude. if my dad left me under some lame pretense, I would never have forgiven him. but now that he's back, the least he can do is be more caring.
i agree with you that if he's got all the money in the world, it would not hurt for him to spare a few paltry dollars. these are just my thoughts.