Sexted him. Now he's threatening me.

[Strawberry_Essence]

A couple of moths ago a guy had asked me for nudes. I sent him one picture of me because at the time I was feeling really depressed and suicidal. My mindset at the time was to do whatever I could that would piss my family off because they happened to be the reason I was feeling that way in the first place. Anyways...

I'm not sure if it is exactly considered sexting but we exchanged pics. I made sure he's agree to delete my picture after viewing it, and I told him I was only going to send him one. He said his phone wasn't "working" and that he couldn't receive any pics. So he told me to keep sending him some more to see if it would work. So I did but he continued to say "it's wasn't working, Send more pics"

I started to feel really uncomfortable and told him I wasn't going to send any more pics. I started ignoring hi and ignored him for a while after. He would message me all the time afterwards. Then he started messaging me saying "give me more pics or i share your photos" I was freaking out but I ignored him again. Then he started spamming me with voice messages of him singing provocative things that made no sense. He started threatening me and said I had a "file" and it's being shared if I don't give him more.

He's really creeping me out and he won't stop. I'm scared he's going to send the pic to people. He's already said to my best guy friend details about my body and keeps mentioning a necklace that I wore and it's creepy.. I can't deal with him. I'm scared.

[CaliforniaMatt]

Report him to the school officials and the police.
This isn't a joke, because it could have SERIOUS repercussions. Please, get some sort of legal help against this.

[ReginaGeorge]

This is not okay, and whatever he says, it's not your fault. If he shares your photos he can get in huge trouble with the law, assuming you're underage, he's basically distributing child pornography and that is against the law, also just holding your photos is as well. Not to mention blackmail.

Keep everything he sends you, everything, print it out, get proof, and I know it may be embarrassing, but you need to tell someone. You can start with your parents of if that's too hard and you need someone on your side first, go to the school counselor so they can help you with the law and as your parents.

I hope everything turns out okay, but you need to do something.

[CharlieHorse]

Report that asshole to the police and he will be shut down.
Do it as soon as you can.

[CaliforniaMatt]

The sooner you get help, the sooner something is done. The sooner something is done, the sooner you'll be safe. Please, don't delay.

[corabrickdog]

Agreed with all the posts above.

[JoeHillsTSD]

That guy can get in a lot of trouble just for holding your pics, let alone distributing them. Let someone, an adult, know. This is a serious situation that can potentially have a huge effect on your life. Report him to a teacher you trust or a school couselor or even let an officer know.

[Grand Admiral Thrawn]

You need to let someone know. It's going to be uncomfortable and embarrassing, but you can't let him to that to you. It could have some serious consequences on your life, and you need to deal with it head on, as soon as possible.

If you feel like you can't talk to your parents about it, just talk to someone at your school, like the counselor or one of your teachers. Do it soon, so he doesn't get the chance to show those pictures to anyone else.

[SammyG17]

I agree with the people above. You need to let someone of an authoritative nature know.

[Strawberry_Essence]

Problem it with reporting it to the authorities or school staff, is that fact that he lives in a different state. ._.

[CaliforniaMatt]

Contact local PD, they'll sort it out

[workingatperfect]

I agree, report him to the police. If you know where he lives and his name and everything (or even a phone number) they can just transfer the case to his local police and they can sort it out. As someone else said, print out the conversations, as proof of blackmail and that he had them, in case he deletes them.

Whatever you do, don't send him any more. Chances are, he's bluffing and trying to scare you into sending more. He should know that it's illegal and that if he shares them, it can be easily traced back to him.

In case you find yourself in this predicament again, though hopefully you've learned your lesson, make sure your face or any other distinguishing features are not in the pictures.

[Blueeyes]

Don't wanna be the guy here posting in Girls' forum, but did you have you face in them?

[CaliforniaMatt]

Don't wanna be the guy here posting in Girls' forum, but did you have you face in them?

This is also pretty important. If you didn't show face, then that hurts his credibility.

[thatguywhosaysEH]

The bad thing here is that, while you should report him for what he is doing because it is illegal, you could also face legal troubles. Since you took the images and sent them in the first place you can also be charged with the production and distribution of child pornography

[Strawberry_Essence]

My face was not shown in the picture. Only sent one. He lives in Wisconsin and I live in California. Are the police actually able to do something about it that way?

I also have a feeling he's bluffing but you can never be sure.

[CaliforniaMatt]

Yes, they can do something. It's a big issue, and a federal agency may get involved since it's state-to-state, and there is a thread of blackmail.

[Wanderer_]

If your face or anything else identifying isn't in it deny deny deny!
Threaten to post a pic saying its him of a guy with a tiny penis if he does

[CaliforniaMatt]

If your face or anything else identifying isn't in it deny deny deny!
Threaten to post a pic saying its him of a guy with a tiny penis if he does


loooooool this x100
If you can't get legal help, then don't be afraid to take things into your own hands.

[EricaTaylor]

Problem it with reporting it to the authorities or school staff, is that fact that he lives in a different state. ._.

Well that's not going to change his phone number luckly if you can get in contact with the police and expain like you did here then I'm sure they'd be able to help you out.

[SamanthaMaciel]

did u show ur face? if u didnt than good... just be like idk that bitch haha jk... it wasnt me -_- ;)

[CaliforniaMatt]

The police are pretty lenient in these kinds of situations, actually. The guy harassing gets in trouble, but the victim almost never does.

[Strawberry_Essence]

I'm afraid to. I really don't want to report it to the police. The police will surely notify my parents. That's something I really want to avoid.

[SamanthaMaciel]

if ur face isnt in the pic then dont do anything... let him "send it ariund" just be like thats not me... cus if u do repirt it.. u have to face it and everyone knows.... catch my drift?

[stepht]

This is not okay, and whatever he says, it's not your fault. If he shares your photos he can get in huge trouble with the law, assuming you're underage, he's basically distributing child pornography and that is against the law, also just holding your photos is as well. Not to mention blackmail.

Keep everything he sends you, everything, print it out, get proof, and I know it may be embarrassing, but you need to tell someone. You can start with your parents of if that's too hard and you need someone on your side first, go to the school counselor so they can help you with the law and as your parents.

I hope everything turns out okay, but you need to do something.


Agree with this completely - couldn't have said it better...

[Jamesison]

Call the police or block the number...

[DerBear]

I know he isn't a family or friend after what he's done. However you will get more relevant answers by me moving this to Family and Friends.

[TheBassoonist]

You didn't show your face in the picture. That's good. If you still have the picture, which I highly doubt you do, you can do a reverse image search with something like tineye or google image to see if it's posted online somewhere. That's not perfect, but it's quick, easy, and anonymous.

If you think he's bluffing and just trying to scare you into giving him more, you could try bluffing him back and tell him that you're going to contact the police, just to see what he does. I don't guarantee that he'll fall for it, so you should probably only try that if you're actually prepared to contact the police. I don't know if the police would get in touch with your parents.

That being said, I don't think you could be in any legal trouble. If he sends it around, he will be in serious legal trouble, but you should be fine legally.

[JakePaiv]

Hate to break it to you, but this is a lose-lose situation. You don't tell and he'll share the pics if you don't send more. Tell and you'll get in trouble for distribution of child pornography and he'll get possession of child pornography. If he already sent this to other people, then he'd get a distribution penalty as well. Also, he sounds like a big prick.

[CoolKid97]

Keep everything he sends you. It helps your defense and shows his innapropriate behavior. Report him.

[Xpert]

First, never ever send out nude pics in this manner. Do you know him? How old is he? Nude pics to known friends also ends up with a stranger. Report him to the Police immediately and share this with your friends older than you.

What was that about suicidal issue? Yu must never feel that way as it destroys you slowly. Always seek help.

[sprouse530]

this is a legal issue and yes police can get involved, bc your a minor its concidered Position of child pornography, Distributing Child Pornography,( if he sends it to someone) and Talking to a minor for immoral purposes, possiablly Lude and Lisivious but nothing physical happened so probblly not, make sure you delete his pictures tho bc it could also be the same charges pressed on you keep that in mind good luck keep us posted please

[NickTheBest]

this is what i hate when a guy does this to a girl it makes me want to find that guy and beat him intill he cant remember any of those pictures BTW im a guy aswell

I will never let a guy Disrespect a women in anyway i saw this guy hit his Girlfriend one time i filped and kicked his ass

[patrickthesportnerd]

report him