best friend moving away

[RunnerRunner]

ive had normal friends move away. but never my best friend and now he is. how can i deal with this sorrow, im feeling down and depressed. and whats making me feel even more down is that in sonetimes a douche to him in lacrosse. how did u guys react and respond to the fact that ur best friend was moving? and can i get some help on mine thank you all :)

[Danny Phantom]

I'm sorry your bestfriend is moving away from you. It's tough.
I moved away from one of my bestfriends after living on her block for 3 years. I was pretty damn upset when I found out I was moving. We still talk via facebook and I visit her sometimes. You'll be able to keep the friendship going on if you decide you want to and put the effort into it.

If you feel like you've been a douche to him, apologize to him, it'll make you feel better.
Hope I helped :)

[Axw_JD]

You should start by talking to him. Let him know how much he means to you, he probably is just as sad about it as you are.

[xxPerryPlatypusxx]

aw I am so sorry that he is leaving you
I have had this happen myself and it wasn't easy
basically all you can do to fill the hurt is try and keep in contact with him and write him letters and what not etc. and perhaps try and get close with one of your others buddies and try ad build with them what you lost with your other best friend
is usually works. i've done it :)
good luck and sorry about your loss

[CaliforniaMatt]

I'm really sorry to hear it

This is coming for a fellow lax bro: make sure you get everything you need to off your chest before he leaves. Get some sort of contact plan in order, maybe you guys can visit still?

[RunnerRunner]

Thanks guys :) i can see if we will visit sice his town he is moving to is 30 mins away from mine. he doesnt use facebook but has an account. his phone got stolen and his other phone is deactivated. i pretty much only have contact with him through his moms phone, but who knows when he is using her or not.

[Wanderer_]

Totally don't part ways with anything unsaid and make sure he has all your contact details

You guys don't have Facebook or something like that?
Set him up a VT profile?

[RunnerRunner]

dont you think the vt profile be a bit awkward? il try tomorrow or thursday. thursdays his last day :(

[brandon1995]

dont you think the vt profile be a bit awkward? il try tomorrow or thursday. thursdays his last day :(

Your right not to put him on VT if you don't want him to read what you've posted here.

[RunnerRunner]

thats true i havent thought of it that way. i thought of it just asking him to do a vt account would be wierd enough. then if he did make an account he would read my messages and will totally be a jerk to me and never talk to me again. thank you brandon1995 :)

[Ajmichael]

I've been on the other side of that. I moved away to live in Singapore a few years ago, but I'm back now. With the advances in social networking, Skype, Facebook and the like. It'll be almost like he hasn't left, and you will get used to it. I promise you will still be friends, and think of the advantages to him, and the fact that he is not only losing you, but all of his friends. Hope you feel better about it and feel free to email me if you want to talk about it.

[RunnerRunner]

yea but he doesnt use facebook or any of that. i only have contact with his mom which is good.

[CaliforniaMatt]

Thanks guys :) i can see if we will visit sice his town he is moving to is 30 mins away from mine. he doesnt use facebook but has an account. his phone got stolen and his other phone is deactivated. i pretty much only have contact with him through his moms phone, but who knows when he is using her or not.

30 mins is NOTHING! I drive an hour and a half a couple times a week to see some friends!

[RunnerRunner]

apparently i still dont have a car and i dont have a lisence. ans my parents arnt gonna drive me there.

[JoeHillsTSD]

I'm really sorry to hear it

This is coming for a fellow lax bro: make sure you get everything you need to off your chest before he leaves. Get some sort of contact plan in order, maybe you guys can visit still?

Lax bros for life!!! Haha!

Like what Matt said, let him know everything. It sucks to not have told him something that may have been important, and it will bug you after he leaves if you don't let him know.

Also, hang out with him [u]as much as possible[/b] before he leaves! I made the mistake of missing key opportunities to be with one of the greatest friends I had before she moved away.

[RunnerRunner]

Thanks JoehillsTSD for the advice. im going to hang with him as much as possible.

[crepesuzette]

my friend moved during my freshman year of high school. He was the first friend i made when i first moved here. He's been gone for almost three years. I missed him dearly. I felt like nature was being unfair. It's like my best friend, my first best friend, and you had to take him away from me. Wow!

[crepesuzette]

after a while you'll forget all about your friends just like i did. i hate to say this but it's true. i have moved on since then. there will always be people in your life, dude. when you get to college, you'll realize that most of your high school friends will have changed. they become beyond recognition. it's like dude we used to be so close to each other and now you're acting so different. i can't believe i spent all those years for nothing. i heard people who are in college right now tell me that. i'm also worried that my current friends will turn out to be rotten apples as well. i hate when that happens. all my life i have not had one good friend that i could trust. it's like after all these years at least give me a chance to make some good friends.

[RunnerRunner]

i see dude and that is probably going to happen but atleast for now i want my best friend to stay my best friend. im hoping in 3 weeks i can go to his house since his place is 30 miles away from mine. but i also had this friend, he is still my friend and used to be my best friend but things never really worked out between us being best friends. he really never talked to me and i just told him its better not to be best friends. so i got a new one and now he is moving. im going to try to continue a long distance friendship.

[NickTheBest]

i know how u fill the love of my life moved away

[RunnerRunner]

Thanks NickTheBest, haha funny thing is that my friends name is Nick and so is yours haha.

[CoolKid97]

I definitely know how you feel. I left all my friends and family when we moved. I havent seen any of them since. Your best bet is too keep connected like texting and Facebook. That's really helped me. Print out photos of you and your friend and frame it? I have a collage of me and my friends that hangs next to my bed. Nice to wake up to them! If he isn't moving too far then why not meet half way and visit. Go get a meal and chat. If you need someone to talk to I'm here! Hope I helped.

[crepesuzette]

well you're not the only one who's ever had to abandon your friends. i used to live in this neighborhood where most of the time i got punked on. but i had some friends who always were on my side. but i never really got to know them. when i left, it was a blessing in disguise because at first i thought that i would never be able to see my best friends, but then again, these guys were never my friends in the first place because they never stuck up for me, so no. everybody seemed to have someone to lean on in their time of need, but not me. i was either alone in the corner or tried to talk to strangers.

[OFD-Lt.Mark]

I had a similar experience. The way I delt with it was by realizing that for my friend it was best for him, and to realize that even though we wont physically wont be together we can always keep up and still be best friends. Sometimes it can be better for him and you need to be self-less and put him before yourself, as best friends should do.

[RunnerRunner]

Well the only problem is that he doesnt have a phone so i have to contact him through his moms phone and she isnt always around. and he doesnt even use facebook now. last time he went on was to accept my request.