Sex

[HollowSoul]

:whoops::redface: Garsh this is embarrassing, but my friends have gotten into this sort of competition. They want to lose their virginity or already have. My friend, C, had sex with her long time boyfriend last year on her birthday. My friend, A, had sex over the weekend with her boyfriend. My friend, D, hasn't done it yet but she has given her romantic interest hand jobs and they've dry humped... with no clothes on... They get mad when I'm all they shouldn't have. We're all juniors in high school. They're 17 going on 18. I'm the youngest 16 going on 17. Have any of you done it and if so was it worth it?:what:

[Mirage]

:arrow: p101

[lyriclover]

Dont feel forsed to do anything youre not ready for.

[Wanderer_]

If it's a competition what's the winners prize

[Wanderer_]

Can you resell those on eBay ?

[anyone50]

People have sex for all kinds of reasons and most of them aren't the best thought out. Don't let what your friends do influence your decision when to have sex.

[Wanderer_]

People have sex for all kinds of reasons and most of them aren't the best thought out. Don't let what your friends do influence your decision when to have sex.

You're so right

[emily-candace]

Well lets put it this way. they probably arent going to marry the boy they had sex with. thats why you wait to have sex with the one you love and want to spend the rest of your life with.

[ajp1993]

Don't lose it for some competition. Do it when you're ready. It your own choice just as it was theres. If you respect their choice then I'd hope they'll respect yours.
Another thing, so many people get hung up over sex and virginity. You could have sex tonight and lose your virginity, but unless you (or him) goes telling other people who is really to know? Only you. Yes you shouldn't just lose it to a one night stand, yes you should be in a loving relationship, blah blah blah, but at the end of the day its also not essential. Like I've said, do it only when you're ready, when ever, where ever and with who ever that may be.

[HollowSoul]

If it's a competition what's the winners prize

It's not like a formal competition, there is no prize.

[Wanderer_]

Then it's pretty lame
Don't do it just to be like the rest

[Cassidy]

Not worth it, over a competition.

[Lilly F 97]

Not worth it, over a competition.

Agree

[HollowSoul]

Thanks for all your opinions. I personally don't want to do it right now. I have way too many things I want to do and become. I was just curious about other peoples' take. I definately don't want to get pregnant and or an STD. I don't agree with my friends' decisions but I'm also not going to let them ruin my friendships. I love them too much.

[Wanderer_]

I'm sure they are lovely people but they are being dumb lately that's all

[Evaboo]

Wait!

[Cali Girl]

Wait until your ready. Don't loose your virginity over a competition, so not worth it.

[BebeFleur.]

Wait until you're ready and w/ the right person.

[rakster]

People obsess a lot about this which is too bad. I wasn't the first of my friend group to have sex but when I did it was my decision to. I kinda wish I didn't sometimes, but other times I enjoy it so much I'm really glad I did. I was able to cum the first time I did it and now I can cum more than once if I get the right clit stimulation.

[Reanne]

Have any of your friends or you thought of the consequences? How will you feel towards the guy or how he will feel towards you.? Things always change after sex if your not in a committed relationship.

For the guy, it's like that was the prize, so there is no need to fight to win you over. If it wasn't good enough for him, then he'll look for someone else. For you if it wasn't want you hoped for maybe you could also want to move on to someone else.

It's not a game, it's your feelings and his feelings and a lot more to it than just sex.

[sarahb98]

when you put sex in anything like competitions it takes away from it. especially if you are not wanting to.. don't let friends force you.. friends always got your back, right as they're pushing you off the cliff first.. (usually they follow though, lol)

[nicole97]

Wait for your own time to come. Giving into pressure from friends isn't helping anyone.

[Lemieux]

I've done blowjobs and and jobs but never sex. I'm too young and not ready. If your not too then don't, it could all go wrong! Don't feel pressured by your friends, sex is a bit deal

[PandaLeah]

having sex for the first time no matter if it's your first time (loss of v card) or first time with your partner its all a big deal.. make sure you're ready.. and if you have any doubt just not. There were times I wish I would have waited.

[San1998]

wait for it. I think you should have sex when you are ready not for any competition. I already had and now I think it was to early

[ItsChelsea]

I've had sex and I don't regret it, and I pretty much knew I wouldn't be with my first forever. Not a big deal to me. But no way would I do it for a competition. That's just retarded in my opinion.

[NotShortButFunsized]

What does competition gain you? so say one of your friends rushes to 'beat' the other, and just ends up pregnant accidentally? would that be considered 'winning'? having sex for the first time shouldn't be something you take lightly, i've heard a lot of girls say they wish they'd waited longer. While sex can be a wonderful part of a relationship, if its just to prove a point or win a competition, STD's, statutory rape, and pregnancy are more than enough to ruin any personal sense of victory you get over winning.
while having sex at all can be life changing, getting unlucky and ending up with one of the consequences will completely ruin your life depending on age. wait till you're ready and with the right guy is my advice, don't let something like this get pushed around by peer pressure

[randomnessqueen]

i havent. but i know plenty people who have had sex already, and if something goes wrong in the relationship, youll only regret it in later relationships

[Kristin_97]

You shouldn't feel like u have to have sex just because some of your friends did. You only get one first time, so make sure it's with somebody you care about and not just something you do just to say that you've done it.

[emily-candace]

I'm 17 and hope to keep my virginity until my wedding night. We all know how to take care of a situation if we need to. HEhehe.

[GigglyAbby]

I agree that you need to follow your heart and if it's waiting until you find a guy who you feel safe and comfortable with or cave in and allow your friends or a guy pressure you -- it's your call. Waiting is great so you can lessen the risk of pregnancy -- STIs - HIV/AIDS.

It sounds like you have a problem with this competition and if this problem is affecting your friendships a lot then you may want to choose different friends.

[CassieWTF]

Virginity is such a bullshit concept. There is nothing magical about the first time, and you don't lose anything, except maybe a little peice of skin. You are the same person, no matter if you've fucked 1000 times or never did it at all.

Just as long as you are free to do it when you want, and ONLY when you want. It doesn't matter if you ever did it before.