What if Dad doesn't Approve?

[Free_Music_Bird]

What do you think should happen if your father doesn't approve of a guy he's never met, never talked to, barely taken a glimpse at, but he treats you like you're the world, like your his heart beating in his chest, that is your sisters and her boyfriends bestfriend. They know everything about him, and I know almost everything. I'm 17 turning 18 in September, he's 19 turning 20 in November. He trusts me with his life, and he would do anything for me but my Dad won't even give him a chance to prove he's changed his ways from the past and just wants to make me happy. He even said that he was going to go to my house to talk to him while I was out shopping but I begged him not to for fear it would be bad...So,
1-Is this fair?
2-Is it "illegal"?
3-What should we do?
4-How can I convince my Dad?
5-Help/ advice PLEASE!

[chillaxman]

You shouldn't have begged him not to. If your boyfriend really is the guy you make him out to be, then there shouldn't be any trouble at all.

1. No, it isn't fair.
2. It's legal.
3, 4, & 5. Organize a sit down with your dad and your boyfriend. You can't prove your boyfriend has changed. Only your boyfriend can.

[Free_Music_Bird]

Sad part about the whole thing is the kid isn't even my boyfriend! We've only been talking, and I don't see whats wrong with this..

[chillaxman]

Sad part about the whole thing is the kid isn't even my boyfriend! We've only been talking, and I don't see whats wrong with this..

So he's a friend you want to be your boyfriend? I'm lost here.

[Danny Phantom]

1.) Its pretty damn unfair to me.
2.) Its legal
3/4/5.) Actions speak louder than words. Yes you can speak to your dad about it, but this guy has to SHOW that he has changed. If your dad sees that he treats you well, maybe his opinion will change.

[crazy_teen]

Your dad doesn't approve of this new guy? Is it because because you just broke up with this other guy that your dad approved of?

Just give him time. And if you're going to be in another relationship just let your dad know, he can't always dictate the person you should be dating.

[Hyper]

What is this ''changed his ways'' related to

[ajp1993]

Whats he done to have to prove he's "changed his ways"? And whats that you mentioned out of nowhere about a kid?
There's obviously a lot more to this than you've told us so far...

[unnamed94]

i dont get it, he is best friends with your sister and her boyfriend? why does your dad have a bad impression of him from before? do you both like each other? how can you be sure he has changed? i dont know what advice to give if you dont tell us more. btw it seems to me it is unfair and it is not illegal.

[Free_Music_Bird]

he had a past with drugs, and screwing up. But now he has a job, is saving for a car, quit all of the drugs and alcohol, only smokes a cigarette a day and is constantly making me feel like a person instead of a piece of useless material.. Everything he believes in me in (which is everything I do) makes me feel better, he praises me for everything, and he brightens my days. He supports me in everything

[xxPerryPlatypusxx]

given the benefit of the doubt it seems to me as if your dad has some trust issues that you guys need to figure out. you and him need to sit down with this friend and have a long chat. he sounds like he is being way to over protective
you need to convince your dad that you guys are only friends and he doesn't need to worry about anything happening and leave it at that