I'm don't know what to do and need help?

[Alexa818181]

(Im 14). So a couple days ago my 11 year old cousin (girl) was at my house. She started puberty a few months ago and she wears a sports bra, not sure how big her boobs are, not big though. So we were in my basement watching a movie and she asked me if we could talk about puberty a little bit. I said sure because I know her the best out of all my cousins and I didn't think it would be too aukward. So we talked a lot about normal puberty stuff (boobs, pubic hair, period) and then she asked me specific questions about herself. So last, she said that she knows it might sound a little bit weird but she was wondering if we could both take our clothes off and just compare ourselves to eachother. Now I'm 99% sure she didn't mean this in a sexual way and did just want to compare ourselves. I said that I would think about it and maybe we would next time I saw her. I know this sounds a little bit weird but I don't know what to do. Should I do it? If so how should I go about it and if not how should I go about it?

[Juana]

I understand you want to prevent something sexual, but it's from her side of course puberal curiosisty and ask her next time that you really want to know from her if it's only comparison. You're both very curious but it's up to you of course if you want to do it.

I can only say, don't do things you want to do, especially when it has to do with sex.

[LilKelli69]

aww, she's just young and curious. I would say do it, as it would be a great help to her. Did the same with my older sister when I was young and curious. Educate her. Nothing wrong with that.

[Taryn98]

This scenario sounds creepy to me. If you were changing to go swimming or something and she happened to ask at the time, maybe I'd say it's ok but the way you described I think is not.

[BebeFleur.]

I think she is just curious...I sure as heck can be ;)

If you are uncomfortable, you can tell her. Just make sure to be ready in case something happens :)

[Natalie]

I think sue is just curious and she needs to learn and experiment.
I would do it because it certainly help her to know her body ;)

[SammyG17]

Well put yourself into her shoes. Does she think of you as someone who is close to her, and would give her honest answers about things? If yes, move onto the next major question, if it were you, would you have liked someone to talk to/show/compare? If yes to that, move onto round 3, and ask yourself if this will strain the relationship, bring you closer, make it weird for later in life, or gain someone really close. If all of those are positives, ask for her reasoning. If it seems innocent *it does from what you've described* then maybe actually take her up on her offer to compare.

I had people close to me I could confide in, and I would never take any of that back. It helped me relax and understand what was going on. But...just because my experience was positive, not all of them can be, so you have to be careful how things proceed.

[Wanderer_]

I doubt she is going to les out on you and pounce - it took a lot of courage to ask that, if its not really uncomfortable about then you should

[Evaboo]

Go for it it's ok to try it!

[jhardy]

If you're really not comfortable with it, don't do it. But to me this sounds like she's young and trying to see if she's "normal." She went to someone she trusts with something this personal. I highly doubt there's anything more than curiosity and comparing. So, if you're comfortable with it, I don't see any harm at all.

[sophiaLockhart]

i agree with the people above, she's probably just insecure about what's going on and really needs some advice to hear that its normal, just help her out, but only do what you are comfortable with

[Lilly F 97]

I've done this with my friends earlier on comparing things which I found helpful as someone could be further through it than others. I honestly would do it and have with my cousin (14) she said it was beneficial. Go for it!