Orgasm boys Girls differences

[Cynthia]

Only for Girls this thread no boys
Sry first for my bad english :) and its a little to long . Recently i read this post on this site http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=164285 . So I talk to my bf about his / the male orgasm and the differences to the female orgasm. First I must say he love to have sex with me and make me happy , I have 3 -5 multiple ones :) .My littles O's last between 5 -10sec the Big O's 20-30 sec thereafter I am totally exhausted :yawn:. His usually last 1-4 sec very rare they last ah few secs more. Sometimes there is no orgasm only ejaculation without pleasure or very rarly a paingasm he told ejaculation no pleasure. When did this happen? When men orgasm to fast or masturbating/have sex to long. A Second orgasm after a while not day seems very short 1-2 sec to less sperm he said.The orgasm starts and ends with ejaculation each more or less the semen so strong the orgasm is.
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Here a short description I found from a Transwoman (male to female) how describe the orgasm as a Man :D
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Once she begins experiencing arousals and engaging in sexual activities, one major thing becomes immediately obvious. Orgasm feels really different as a woman. It may not be quite as easy to achieve and may take longer to achieve, but it can be a much more powerful sensation than any she ever experienced before as a boy.
Following SRS, the perfunctory feeling of male ejaculation during orgasm is gone forever. Instead, you can build up your sexual arousal to a much higher level without ejaculation bringing things to a halt. It may take more time to reach it, but you can now experience a more powerful orgasm - with the old male ejaculation feeling now replaced by an intense neural discharge and spasm throughout the entire genital area during orgasm. It feels kind of like you are being gently stimulated with electricity inside and throughout your entire genital region. The experience can vary a lot from orgasm to orgasm in the way in which the "neural halo and spasmodic colors" of the orgasm develop, spread, and feel. It seems almost as if most men so easily and quickly reach ejaculation that they never manage to get "high enough" sexually to trigger this more powerful form of orgasm.

However, when the release of orgasm occurs, it is usually much more perfunctory than for a woman, being accompanied by a few spurts of semen and a few grunts and that's it. The ejaculation is then followed by quite a sudden letdown and loss of any interest in sexual activity.
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Here a funny Page I found (works only IE Explorer) lol :lol:
http://www.funnigurl.com/images2/orgasm.html

If you have the choice to be a boy or girl waht would it be?
My answer is clear Being a girl is to awesome. Sry Boys it seems the reason for your orgasm is to make babys as often as you could ours to get the real pleasure :yeah:

[Juana]

30 - 40 seconds, sometimes longer.

When you look for it on intenet, you can find that our orgasms last longer and we can start much quicker again after an orgasm and we can have several orgasms in a row (multiple orgasms).

In fact our clitoris is much stronger than a penis because it's much more sensitive and we can going on and on.

:yeah:

[Cynthia]

It is fascinating to see what boys do to get their little OH UH ARGH done :D . Here an article from banned link sry .

Is she having all the fun?
Orgasms are just so unfair, says Jonathan Margolis. Compared with a woman’s physical fireworks, a man’s big moment is a bit of a damp squib male multiples truth or myth?
What is going on here? By far the most likely explanation for men’s reticence is that, frankly, the male orgasm is rubbish. Nature gave us the desire to ejaculate with tedious regularity, yet she also ensured that the experience, though addictive, would be a bit piffling — a cunning method to get us to have sex and spread our seed as frequently as possible. But however transitory and unsatisfying the male orgasm is, we get to see women go through the 5, 10, 30 seconds of face-contorted, white-knuckle yes, yessss ... then bliss. Sometimes, we feel the aftershocks in their vagina for even longer. We hear them purr contentedly in the afterglow. And, while we might feel rather smug for having played our part, real or imagined, we also somehow sense that we were at a different party.
For those of you who don’t know, let me explain what the male orgasm is like. It starts with an irritable sensation in our testicles and the end of our penis. WH Auden memorably called this “the intolerable neural itch”. Try to analyse the “itch” and it soon becomes apparent that it consists of little more than a large body of semen hollering to get out and go swimming as fast as possible. The mechanism by which this cargo of gunge will be released is as crudely sensitive as it is simple. It is so eager to go that, often, especially when we are young and eager, it will happen before we have even got our trousers off. But whether our sperm makes its exit in that undignified manner, or as a result of well done sex, or badly done sex, or, indeed, in the course of a good solo session, the sensation is identical. There is a slight, sweet/sour twitch from the prostate gland; a rather pleasant muscular gurgle from the testicles, followed within nanoseconds by a reasonably satisfying liquid rush the length of the old John Thomas; then, a further fraction of a second later, a moderately agreeable liquid awareness around the tip. And that, other than a few moments in a lifetime when there may be an extra fusillade within the same orgasm (typically, when we have avoided ejaculation for a lengthy period), is it. There follows a brief spell when we feel content and sleepy, and our prostate (if we are aware of its existence, which most of us aren’t, until it starts to go wrong in our forties) aches in quite a nice way.That level of after-sales service tends to last no more than a few minutes or hours before the urge builds up again. The lasting thing, the satisfying thing, for men is not so much the scratching of that neural itch, but the (admittedly vain) feeling of having impressed, amazed, delighted, whatever, a woman you like and want to please. I am almost sorry to admit this, but more than 30 years of sex have convinced me that the male orgasm in itself is not much more satisfying than a desperately needed wee. It is my strongly held conviction, having been doing this stuff since the mullet haircut was unironically fashionable, that, because of the disappointing nature of their orgasms, it is men who crave the romantic garnish of the slow build-up, the wistful gazing, the expression of undying love around their sexual meat and two veg. Women, however, blessed with a vastly more satisfying orgasmic mechanism, are able to be more pragmatic about enjoying sex for sex’s sake.
If, and admittedly it is a big if, a woman is with a man who knows what he is doing, she will get enough physical payback from the deal to keep her happy for days afterwards and won’t be bothered by the lack of romance, let alone love. Heterosexual men are increasingly less into sex and more into love; women, more into sex and less into love. This is entirely to do with the vastly better quality of the female orgasm compared with the male version. I have talked to men about having sex with prostitutes, which many women mistakenly believe is the male ideal. Most men find it far less enjoyable than they believe it will be. Emotionally uninvolved sex is a letdown for men. [an error occurred while processing this directive]
I was discussing these matters with a female friend the other day. I thought she might be the one to undermine my theory. She is a fairly traditional, monogamous, moral, quite religious girl, who, while deeply involved with her career, will admit she is also actively husband-hunting. I put my view to her that sex without a backdrop of, at least, deep affection and, at best, love, is a waste of time and we would all be better off doing it for ourselves. She couldn’t have agreed less. “I’m totally faithful to my boyfriends,” she said, “and I will practise and demand complete loyalty from my husband. In my experience, though, there’s absolutely nothing to beat a night of good, old-fashioned sex with a guy who’s really good and makes me come lots, but who leaves when he’s told — and doesn’t start phoning and e-mailing the next day and becoming a nuisance.” Vive, as they say, la différence.

Jonathan Margolis is the author of O: The Intimate History of the Orgasm

[KellyNC]

Mine usually last 30-45 seconds, and sound a good deal more intense than what guys experience (though relatively normal compared to other girls). So because of that and the fact that i'm perfectly happy, i'll take 2 X chromosomes. Though I wouldn't mind trying it once from other side of the coin, just to see how it feels.

[Cynthia]

Right nobody can really compare.But I think MTF surgery is good to describe to feeling of a male orgasm and a plastic clitoris is not the same as a real one, here a article I found about the real one : )

''The clitoris contains twice to three times the nerve endings than circumcised penis and more amazing is that the the entire organ is bigger than the penis because majority of the clitoris are internal, inside the pelvis with two tails wrap along sides of the vulva; the volume of the blood engorged in a average clitoris during arousal is greater than the volume of an average penis! Amazing! The network of clitoral nervous system are highly complex, they extend outward to the upper thighs, along the knees and all the way down to the toes.''

You're right the brain is the largest sex organ in the body.Thats a good theme I found here a few articles about it.

''The brain switches off
It's folk wisdom that people can't think straight when they have sex on their minds, but when women have an orgasm most of their brains switch off.
A brain scanning study showed that many areas of women's brains were deactivated during orgasm, including those involved in emotion. The effect was less striking in men, but that may be because male orgasms are so short they are hard to detect in a brain scan.''

http://www.oprah.com/health/The-Female-Brain

Here a short video:
http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2012/09/how-orgasms-shut-down-our-brains/262568/

http://www.science20.com/science_amp_supermodels/would_female_orgasms_kill_men

[Evaboo]

Right nobody can really compare.But I think MTF surgery is good to describe to feeling of a male orgasm and a plastic clitoris is not the same as a real one, here a article I found about the real one : )

''The clitoris contains twice to three times the nerve endings than circumcised penis and more amazing is that the the entire organ is bigger than the penis because majority of the clitoris are internal, inside the pelvis with two tails wrap along sides of the vulva; the volume of the blood engorged in a average clitoris during arousal is greater than the volume of an average penis! Amazing! The network of clitoral nervous system are highly complex, they extend outward to the upper thighs, along the knees and all the way down to the toes.''

You're right the brain is the largest sex organ in the body.Thats a good theme I found here a few articles about it.

''The brain switches off
It's folk wisdom that people can't think straight when they have sex on their minds, but when women have an orgasm most of their brains switch off.
A brain scanning study showed that many areas of women's brains were deactivated during orgasm, including those involved in emotion. The effect was less striking in men, but that may be because male orgasms are so short they are hard to detect in a brain scan.''

http://www.oprah.com/health/The-Female-Brain

Here a short video:
http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2012/09/how-orgasms-shut-down-our-brains/262568/

http://www.science20.com/science_amp_supermodels/would_female_orgasms_kill_men
Agree

[Cali Girl]

Right nobody can really compare.But I think MTF surgery is good to describe to feeling of a male orgasm and a plastic clitoris is not the same as a real one, here a article I found about the real one : )

''The clitoris contains twice to three times the nerve endings than circumcised penis and more amazing is that the the entire organ is bigger than the penis because majority of the clitoris are internal, inside the pelvis with two tails wrap along sides of the vulva; the volume of the blood engorged in a average clitoris during arousal is greater than the volume of an average penis! Amazing! The network of clitoral nervous system are highly complex, they extend outward to the upper thighs, along the knees and all the way down to the toes.''

You're right the brain is the largest sex organ in the body.Thats a good theme I found here a few articles about it.

''The brain switches off
It's folk wisdom that people can't think straight when they have sex on their minds, but when women have an orgasm most of their brains switch off.
A brain scanning study showed that many areas of women's brains were deactivated during orgasm, including those involved in emotion. The effect was less striking in men, but that may be because male orgasms are so short they are hard to detect in a brain scan.''

http://www.oprah.com/health/The-Female-Brain

Here a short video:
http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2012/09/how-orgasms-shut-down-our-brains/262568/

http://www.science20.com/science_amp_supermodels/would_female_orgasms_kill_men

Agreed.

[rakster]

All I know is it feels really, really, really, really, really, really good however I get it to happen.

[Cynthia]

I have still found something on the theme that I find very interresting.
Here a post from another forum.
A boy describe his orgasm before and after his first ejaculation.
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I was an early experimenter. I accidentally discovered the wonders of masturbation & dry orgasms when I was 5, while exploring my body after my bath. My first orgasm was extremely intense. My whole body shook so violently, I nearly fell out of bed. I nearly passed out. Of course, I had no idea what had just happened to me, but I knew that it was the most intense & wonderful feeling I had ever experienced. I also knew that I wanted to feel it again right away! So touched myself again & experienced my second super-intense orgasm a few seconds later. I gave myself the 'special feeling' 10 times that day! I was very, very happy to learn that it wasn't a one-time thing, and was amazed that I could give myself such wonderfully-intense feelings whenever I wished.
I soon discovered that if I kept going, I always experienced 3 or 4 super-intense dry orgasms within a couple of minutes. Sometimes, it felt like one continuous 2-minute orgasm! I also discovered that if I kept going even longer, I could often repeat the entire experience a few times within 10-15 minutes. I once had 20 dry orgasms in one day, and I often could experience 9-12 dry orgasms within 15 minutes.
Shortly after my first ejaculation, I lost my multi-orgasmic ability for the most part. As if that wasn’t bad enough – I found that my ejaculatory orgasms were much less intense & they only lasted half as long. I had no idea why this was happening to me, and I was completely unprepared for it! I was very frustrated kid back then. I eventually got over it, but many years would pass before I learned why it happened. I'm very glad that I was able to experience the wonders of multiples and nearly continuous orgasms for as long as I did.
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Funny when you consider that many boys just waiting anxiously for their first ejaculation. :lol:

[ellawood]

I talk to one of my boy friends and he said his are seconds and even he admits ours sound better!

[Cynthia]

Here an article I found in cosmopolitan from Emma Markezic

Kingdom Come

Comedian Emma Markezic on which sex has the better
deal in bed...
Orgasms. I always wanted to start a column with that word.
Look at that big curly O! It’s a delight, so round and sensual. I
use it now, because over pizza last week a friend said to me,
“You women don’t know how good you have it. I’d give
anything to have a female orgasm.” At which point I stopped
mid-arancini ball and said, “Are you kidding? I could blow on
your pizza right now and you’d climax. I, on the other hand,
would need
a battery-operated calzone and about 20 minutes... How
exactly do we have a better deal?” And thus a column was
born. But what I thought would be a printed version of I-toldyou-
so turned into quite the opposite...
Firstly, did you know that the biggest difference between the sexes, orgasmically speaking, is that
the male orgasm is essential for human reproduction while the female orgasm exists purely for
pleasure? I sure never thought about it that way... But since we’re on the subject, we win
chronologically, too – a male eruption lasts a couple of seconds while we can go upwards of a
minute.
A minute! Men also need half an hour to recharge the batteries, while we can climb Mount
Orgasmos again straight away. Multiple times over. It’s still a case of quick and accessible versus
slow and elusive, but I’m going to put it out there – maybe we are the Queens of Kingdom Come.
There are some common reactions (for example, both men and women experience muscular
contractions at 0.8 second intervals), but biology appears to have allowed certain concessions for
our hard-to-come-by climax. My theory: because Mother Nature spazzily put the clitoris in entirely
the wrong place for a few thrusts to get the job done, she made the ecstasy we get from clitoral
stimulation the crème de la crème of sexual summits. As if making amends for her physical
oversight. Not a bad trade-off, really. My pizza-eating mate concurs – he’d happily swap his disco
stick for our multifarious hot pocket.
There are some other similarities – both sexes experience the four phases of sexual response,
which are arousal, plateau, orgasm and resolution. (Also known as: getting turned on, getting
turned on some more, blowing your load and falling asleep.) But even if they do differ – and even
if men and women don’t need each other to get one – it sure is nicer when getting over the line is
a team effort. Just like in the Sydney to Hobart Yacht Race... in that they both involve a lot of
seamen. Sorry – synergy.
We all experience the occasional frustration because things seem so much easier for him in the
earth-shaking department. In fact, back in the day my girlfriends and I would talk about little else.
What was this explosion people spoke of? And how did you know if you’d had one? Of course,
then I had one and realised that if you were asking the question, you hadn’t had one. But next
time you get your knickers in a bunch, remember this: if they were movies, the male orgasm
would be an ex-rental copy of Waterworld and the female orgasm would be the limited-edition,
director’s cut of Titanic, with bonus deleted scenes and gold-plated Leonardo DiCaprio action
figure. Which one would you rather?

[Juana]

Hi Cynthia, you seemed to be obsessed by the difference between female and male orgasms; i don't mean it wrong and maybe we can get friends?! I'll send you a message!!!!

:D

[Cynthia]

Hi Cynthia, you seemed to be obsessed by the difference between female and male orgasms; i don't mean it wrong and maybe we can get friends?! I'll send you a message!!!!

:D


Yes I think I'm obsessed about this :lol: .
Since my Byfd said to me ,,enviable'' :P

[Juana]

Yes, my sister´s husband said to her; she told me, that he´s still very often surprised and somehow jealous about the capacity of women and their clits to have more orgasms in a row and that they don´t have to recover like a man´s cock.

:P

[Cynthia]

I found this quote in this thread. http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=164285 ,,I totally agree it's under a min and being able have several in a row makes it so much better than anything my bf has told me about guy orgasms. he said once he has it it's like a switch turns off and he loses intrest in sex for awhile. that must suck ''
It really is that your boys forget any interest in sex after they came?
I can imagine this is not even there I can not get enough usually :D

[abbie]

think about 20 secs usually

[Cynthia]

I find it very unfortunate that few spend their opinion only yesterday I learned from a friend that she was one year together with a guy who has not satisfied her

[sambeans]

mine last 30 to 40 seconds. usually 30. Never timed my Boyfriends.

[abbie]

wish it lasted longer, do u?

[NotShortButFunsized]

I think we have stronger orgasms just because they feel better longer and like someone else said, we seem to have alot more fun doing it.
However...
A couple weeks ago my psychology teacher was discussing gender differences in sexuality, and he brought up the same question. Below is a piece of an article he gave us to read from Psychology Today.
If you don't want to read the whole thing, let me save you some time and summarize it like this. medically speaking, girls and boys have basically the exact same orgasm.
The point was to force the class to look at this subject outside our own experience and perspective to realize that we aren't actually any different, but somehow we still seem to experience it differently.

I don't mean to cause argument or anything, but if scientists have proven orgasms aren't actually different at all, why is it that ours supposedly feel so much better, other than the fact that its the one we feel?
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http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/body-sense/201004/male-and-female-orgasm-not-so-different

The actual orgasm, for both men and women, is very similar. This is the case both for the timing and duration of pelvic muscle contractions during orgasm as well as the body sense - the felt experience - of orgasm.
This is not exactly new information. The research on this goes back to the late 1960's. I want to review these findings to make a few points about the erotic dimensions of body sense, points that lead to important implications about enjoying and improving one's sex life by cultivating your body sense.

Two studies done at the University of Minnesota Medical School and published in the early 1980's measured the intensity, frequency, and durations of pelvic muscle contractions (measured with a pressure sensitive anal probe) of males and females during masturbation. There was basically no difference in the pattern of these contractions between males and females.

Orgasm begins as a series of 6 - 15 regular contractions of high intensity occurring over about 20-30 seconds. There are individual differences (but no gender differences) in what occurs after this series of regular contractions. For some men and women, these regular contractions are the primary orgasmic experience. These Type I orgasms are the most frequent. Other men and women, however, may continue to experience irregular contractions (shown in the diagram) for another 30 - 90 seconds, so called Type II orgasms. A relatively few people have mixed patterns of regular and irregular contractions.

Two things are important about these data. One is that the individual differences were reliable: people who had Type I orgasms on one occasion were more likely to have Type I orgasms on subsequent occasions, and similarly for Type II. The other important conclusion is that not only were there no gender differences, but the same types of individual differences occurred in males and females. Some women and some men are Type I climaxers and some are Type II.

So, while there may be very different needs, expectations, and behaviors in males and females leading up to orgasm (Mars and Venus), the orgasmic experience is almost identical in both sexes. Orgasm is also likely to be similar in transgender and intersex individuals.

A couple of other studies confirm the male-female orgasmic similarity. A study done in London in 1969 found no significant gender differences in observed increases in heart rate, blood pressure, and hyperventilation during orgasm. A more recent study, from Stanford in 1994, replicated both the Minnesota and London studies. The Stanford study, in addition, found similar levels of increased oxytocin in males and females during orgasm. Oxytocin is the hormone that induces feelings of affiliation and love. Other research, done in 1977 at Reed College in Oregon found no differences in the types of words used by male and female college students to describe their experiences of orgasm (removing, of course, words for the specific genitalia).
Why might males and females have this similar orgasmic response? One reason is basically physiological. The neuromotor pathways for orgasmic contractions are similar in males and females in all mammals. Nature likes economy, so why use different pathways for the same function? Another is that during the first trimester of fetal development, in all mammals, there are no gender differences in the genitalia (another example of natural economy). We are all genitally female at this early age. In the third prenatal month in humans, male fetuses begin to produce more testosterone, which signals their genes to begin creating the structures for male genitals.

[nicole97]

That's actually really interesting. I always felt mine were stronger than my ex-BF's (the only person guy I have orgasm experience with) but I think part of it may just be placebo. It's always seemed to me that we tend to treat an orgasm as "the big moment", especially during sex, while guys see it as the end of a session. My ex-BF seemed very content to give me an orgasm during sex then let me finish him another way rather than the other way around, and honestly I felt the same. There's was just something more satisfying from an orgasm with him inside of me than from his tongue or fingers, while I think he had less of preference. Also sex/masturbation is usually seen as being a" necessity" for guys, and just a pleasurable experience for us. So maybe that extra value placed on the orgasm itself

[Twizzler]

That's actually really interesting. I always felt mine were stronger than my ex-BF's (the only person guy I have orgasm experience with) but I think part of it may just be placebo. It's always seemed to me that we tend to treat an orgasm as "the big moment", especially during sex, while guys see it as the end of a session. My ex-BF seemed very content to give me an orgasm during sex then let me finish him another way rather than the other way around, and honestly I felt the same. There's was just something more satisfying from an orgasm with him inside of me than from his tongue or fingers, while I think he had less of preference. Also sex/masturbation is usually seen as being a" necessity" for guys, and just a pleasurable experience for us. So maybe that extra value placed on the orgasm itself

that makes sense, since some girls have more trouble having an orgasm we get more opportunity to focus on and appreciate the pleasure more. Guys do seem to think of it more as a 'session' instead of an 'experience' like we do, since for us pleasure is something extra, not just a mechanism of reproduction like for boys. If boys learned to value the orgasm like you said, do you think their experience would be more like ours?

[Cynthia]

that makes sense, since some girls have more trouble having an orgasm we get more opportunity to focus on and appreciate the pleasure more. Guys do seem to think of it more as a 'session' instead of an 'experience' like we do, since for us pleasure is something extra, not just a mechanism of reproduction like for boys. If boys learned to value the orgasm like you said, do you think their experience would be more like ours?

I think you're right, I have found something, it is a little feminist and spiritual truth, but seems to be a spark at it.
,,
Taoists realize that for a man vast amount of energy is lost each time he ejaculates. By learning to control orgasm he can retain rather than lose energy. Orgasm for a man is not to be synonymous with ejaculation and the Taoists developed many techniques to have multiple orgasms without ejaculating.

Women however do not loose sexual energy during orgasm. They can experience multiple orgasms and actually feel energized. Taoists say that men’s sexual energy is limited, while women’s sexual energy is unlimited. During menstruation, however, women do loose sexual energy. Men are compared to fire while women are like water. Water takes a long time to heat but once boiling it keeps warm for a long time.

''

[Juana]

I know you also have tantra excercises for men and women to control their orgasms.

[ForrestGump]

I know guys aren't supposed to comment but just to help you guys out.... male orgasms are a lot worse then female orgasms