Friend is moving to a foster home

[The Awkward Artist]

So lately, there's been a lot of... drama with where my best friend is going to live.

When I first met Kya in the beginning sixth grade, she was living with her mom, who is abusive, an alcoholic, and a drug addict. She moved with her grandparents over the winter of seventh grade, and a lot of the spring, but she ended up moving back in with her mom again. Kya lived there until this summer, when due to a bust for having the ingredients to make meth, she lived with her dad for a few months, then moved back with Ronda. Kya lived with Ronda this time, until DHS intervened and moved her back to Steve and Nancy's. There was another trial a week ago, and I just learned today that Kya is moving to a foster home, two houses down from her mother.

She'll still go to my school, but I'm really angry over it, because Kya is safest and happiest where she is currently (grandparents). How should I go about dealing with this, because I know that I have to be strong for Kya, but I'm really hung up on it?

****Note: Kya has a quoted from the angel herself, "Upper Extremety Limb Deficiency," a.k.a., she has no arms. While living with Ronda, she often had to take care of her two younger brothers, both of which got extremely angry very easily. Kya is still very capable, but she can't do that. And even though she's gone through so much, she's easily the sweetest person I know (she randomly stopped by my house yesterday to give me a little present.)

[xmojox]

So lately, there's been a lot of... drama with where my best friend is going to live.

When I first met Kya in the beginning sixth grade, she was living with her mom, who is abusive, an alcoholic, and a drug addict. She moved with her grandparents over the winter of seventh grade, and a lot of the spring, but she ended up moving back in with her mom again. Kya lived there until this summer, when due to a bust for having the ingredients to make meth, she lived with her dad for a few months, then moved back with Ronda. Kya lived with Ronda this time, until DHS intervened and moved her back to Steve and Nancy's. There was another trial a week ago, and I just learned today that Kya is moving to a foster home, two houses down from her mother.

She'll still go to my school, but I'm really angry over it, because Kya is safest and happiest where she is currently (grandparents). How should I go about dealing with this, because I know that I have to be strong for Kya, but I'm really hung up on it?

****Note: Kya has a quoted from the angel herself, "Upper Extremety Limb Deficiency," a.k.a., she has no arms. While living with Ronda, she often had to take care of her two younger brothers, both of which got extremely angry very easily. Kya is still very capable, but she can't do that. And even though she's gone through so much, she's easily the sweetest person I know (she randomly stopped by my house yesterday to give me a little present.)

All you really can do is be her friend. If the court decided where she's going to live there's nothing else you can do. It pisses me off when parents are so selfish they wind up hurting their kids!

[Second Chance]

I agree with the poster above that when the court system/legal system gets involved in a situation, then there is nothing you can do. At this point only the adults and lawyers can figure things out.

What you can do, like mentioned above, is be a good friend and be there for your friend especially during this time when she is being moved around. If your friend is allowed to do so, then having a sleepover with her or doing something together to take her mind off of her problems would be a good idea. More than anything, just be a regular friend to her doing what anyone your age does to give your friend a sense of normalcy. At least your friend is not transferring schools, and what you and your other friends can do is provide a support structure for this friend who is in foster care right now.