My dad...

[Paige Elizabeth]

Let me just say this before I tell you exactly whats going on, don't tell me to stop my whining. K? K.


So my dad is a Navy SEAL and is always so angry and serious. Doesn't sound that bad, right? He's hardly ever around and he's a pain to be around. He can't take a single joke. He's super strict and hardly allows me to have my own opinion. He and I can't have a simple conversation without one of us saying something to make the other mad. We agree on literally nothing. I'm always the one in the wrong in his eyes when I'm just putting my opinion out there. It's like he's always right and I'm always wrong.

I honestly don't know what to do. :/ Help me please...

[PinkFloyd]

I'm not sure. I think you should approach your dad and tell him what's up. Tell him you want to have a strong bond. Maybe he will understand. I'm sorry if that didn't help. I'm trying my best.

[Harley Quinn]

He's in the Navy, he has to be strict. He's stuck in work mode and maybe he doesn't actually realise he's doing it. The best thing to do is try and talk to him, if you literally cannot talk, try writing him a letter or something. I mean, you could always try and agree to disagree if it cannot be fixed through communication.

[Paige Elizabeth]

I'm scared to talk to him in all honesty. He's 6'4 and picks on me intentionally. If I try to talk to him, he starts yelling. I;m considering moving in with my sister.

[Fanta_Lover44]

Hmm sorry things have not worked, just an idea have you thought of getting someone else to talk to him? Maybe someone at work or your sister?

[Second Chance]

I agree with the advice above that chances are your father is still in work mode when he comes home. Military guys are used to giving orders and being obeyed, and I am sure it must through him off balance to have a teenager at home who does her own thing unlike soldiers who do what he says.

Your best bet is to avoid getting into fights with your father and just to do things he wants so that there are not fights. For example, if you are responsible for some chores around the house, then do them before he asks you so that he has nothing to complain about. If your father doesn't have a sense of humor, then there is no sense in trying to joke around with him, and you just have to be serious around him. I guess what I'm saying is you have to work with the father you have as opposed to making your father into who you want him to be. It is going to be uncomfortable dealing with him at times, but as long as you do what you're supposed to do like schoolwork and stay out of trouble, then maybe he'll leave you alone.

If nothing works and he is being really aggressive, then you might want to see if your sister will let you crash with her for a while.

[Paige Elizabeth]

He's been out for almost 10 years now but he's still working with a few of the Navy stuff. There's never been a conversation we've had in the last 6 years that hasn't ended with a fight. This morning he chewed me out for sitting in "his" seat at the table when he didn't even sit down at all before he left for work; then he got mad because I didn't change the dead light bulb... Sorry, I'm too short to reach it. -_-

The problem I have with crashing with my sister is she's a bitch. She has a 2 year old daughter and will have a new born son in about 5 days. He husband is gone for a month at a time and he's a Navy SEAL as well. I'm considering moving in with my cousin but she's in another state. :/

[xmojox]

He's been out for almost 10 years now but he's still working with a few of the Navy stuff. There's never been a conversation we've had in the last 6 years that hasn't ended with a fight. This morning he chewed me out for sitting in "his" seat at the table when he didn't even sit down at all before he left for work; then he got mad because I didn't change the dead light bulb... Sorry, I'm too short to reach it. -_-

The problem I have with crashing with my sister is she's a bitch. She has a 2 year old daughter and will have a new born son in about 5 days. He husband is gone for a month at a time and he's a Navy SEAL as well. I'm considering moving in with my cousin but she's in another state. :/

Sorry if I'm asking an awkward question. Where's your mom?

[Paige Elizabeth]

Sorry if I'm asking an awkward question. Where's your mom?

She's here. I tell her everything my brothers and I are feeling and she's feeling a lot of the same. But we're a Christian family and she's trying to get help but it just doesn't seem like it's working.

[xmojox]

First, I'm sorry you guys are going through this. SEALs are...different. If you are, as it sounds to me, feeling unsafe in your own home, then you need to do whatever you feel is necessary so that you can feel safe again. Has your mom talked to any of his friends from the teams? Maybe that would be a thing to explore if she hasn't. Those guys are tight-knit and tend to look after one another including the other guys families. But in the meantime, maybe spending some time with your cousin out of state would be a good thing. I'm sorry I couldn't help more, and I sincerely wish you and your family the best. Stay strong. Where there's life there's hope.

[Jinxxy]

Your dad is only the way he is because out there, on that ship of his and wherever else he has to go to, he's probably seen more death and destruction and lives being torn apart than you could ever imagine - he's been trained to be tough and serious in order to not break down.
Unfortunately, he just hasn't learnt how to take his guard down alongside being tough and serious. He's probably in a lot of pain and doesn't know how to effectively let it out without hurting the people around him.

Sit him down, alone and talk to him - because at the end of the day, you're his little girl and he loves you. It's not his fault his job has turned him into a strict man.
Where he works, it's either be the strongest or die.

He probably needs somebody to talk to about what he's going through and you can be his help :)

I hope I've helped x

[Paige Elizabeth]

He's never been to war. The only thing he did is go to other countries where there isn't war but the US Navy is stationed and he worked on those ships fixing the computer stuff. There is no reason for him to be how he is besides the fact his dad was like him. My dad told me he'd never be like his dad was, but he's just like how he was. I'm scared to sit down with him because it will just end in a fight and in my family, I'm not the one who likes to fight. I'm always the peace kid. I'm completely the odd ball out in my family. ._.

[Synyster Shadows]

He's in the Navy, he has to be strict. He's stuck in work mode and maybe he doesn't actually realise he's doing it. The best thing to do is try and talk to him, if you literally cannot talk, try writing him a letter or something. I mean, you could always try and agree to disagree if it cannot be fixed through communication.

I couldn't have said it better than this. If it gets really bad, go live with that cousin. I wish you the best.

[xmojox]

A lot of times SEALs go places and do things that they can't talk about because it's classified...

[SamanthaMaciel]

my dad is the same way... exceot he has nithing to do with the military... I get so stressed out when he is around... its like walkin on fuckin egg shells around... what I do is just listen to music on the couch... only advice I can give... sorri