I'm not ready, and I'm getting old! Is it normal?

[Michard]

I mean...

I'm almost 17 years old and I'm sexually like a little kid, as, I can't see pornography, I can't masturbate me and be confortable, I feel really bad when i do it, I feel dirty, and obviosly, I can't imaginate me having sex!

I don't know why It happends to me!

Is it normal?

[anyone50]

I don't understand what your asking. Is it that watching porn dosen't do anything for you or your not allowed to watch it? As for feeling guilty about masturbating I'm sure your not the only one that has delt with this issue and proably has more to do with your childhood than anything else. There is no so called normal everyone is different. Do you feel having sex is gross or dirty? is that why you can't imagine yourself doing this? My guess is There is something in your past as a young child that has shaped your opinions about these things

[Michard]

Do you feel having sex is gross or dirty? is that why you can't imagine yourself doing this?

I feel that, and I feel incapable to do it too, for me is an adult-thing and I'm just a child.

I know that It's a natural thing and It's not dirty...but I can't feel this, I just can imagine that I can't do it.

Is it that watching porn dosen't do anything for you or your not allowed to watch it?

It does something to me, It makes me feel a strange feeling, It's like: "Oh God, what's that? :what: "...maybe It confuses me, I really don't know.


Thanks.

[xmojox]

I'd say talk with a therapist. I'm not saying you're crazy or anything, only that a good, qualified therapist can help you identify your issues and work through them with you. Good luck to you, I can imagine how horrible that must feel.

[anyone50]

I feel that, and I feel incapable to do it too, for me is an adult-thing and I'm just a child.

I know that It's a natural thing and It's not dirty...but I can't feel this, I just can imagine that I can't do it.



It does something to me, It makes me feel a strange feeling, It's like: "Oh God, what's that? :what: "...maybe It confuses me, I really don't know.


Thanks.

The way you describe this is as if you were 8 or 9 years old instead of 16. Does your feelings about things other than sex like wanting to date and drive a car and how you feel about girls feel normal feelings for your age or does this extend into these areas as well?

[Michard]

Does your feelings about things other than sex like wanting to date and drive a car and how you feel about girls feel normal feelings for your age or does this extend into these areas as well?


I don't know If I have understood the question, but I'll try to answer it:

I neither go out nor I have had boyfriend, I can't drive a car, It's to complicated for me.

...I haven't friends too...I never go out with people...but even this, I sometimes like other boys, I would like to have my first kiss too....

[Marcus_Stockley]

Prehaps see a therapist and talk to him/her about these problems. See if anyone can help you overcome these feelings. You can't be a kid forever, and that's a sad realization of life :P

[Michard]

Ehmmm...I don't want to speak about this 'offline', It's private!

I don't see It as It were a problem...I just see It strange...

Why must it be a problem?

[Charl1e]

I'd say talk with a therapist. I'm not saying you're crazy or anything, only that a good, qualified therapist can help you identify your issues and work through them with you. Good luck to you, I can imagine how horrible that must feel.

I agree with this. Give it a try.

[Michard]

What should I do if I don't have a therapist?

[Jinxxy]

What should I do if I don't have a therapist?

Hold on to your innocence, trust me! I lost my virginity at 15 and I so, so wish I had waited until I was a bit older...
Don't feel pushed to lose it just because all your friends have or that you have to lose it because you're 17.

Look at me, I'm 17 and I wish I could go back!

Enjoy your adolescence, don't throw it away x

[Michard]

I don't have any friend.

[xmojox]

What should I do if I don't have a therapist?

I don't know how those things work in Spain. Do you have a counselor at your school? If so, that might be a good place to start.

I don't have any friend.

It seems from the response to your post that there are several people here who care and are willing to help.

I do agree with Jinxxy (don't faint Jinxxy) that there's no rush for sexual things, and you certainly aren't getting old. If you don't see it as a problem, don't let me or anyone else convince you that it is. The most important thing is that you are happy.

[Michard]

Thank a lot :)

Sorry If I have sounded rude, I don't control very well my english expression.

I will see If I can do something.

[theUnprofessional]

Porn is bad to an extent, but there shouldn't be a problem about masturbating as it is pretty normal and you shouldn't get worried about doing it. Maybe you should do what the others suggested.
Good luck.
On another note CHARMANDER!!!

[Michard]

It has been six years since I started this thread...

Now I have two friends and I am in love with a guy :)

I left my parents when I became 18, they were abusive towards me. My poor emotional and sexual development was, probably, due to the physical, emotional sexual abuse I suffered through my childhood my both my parents. I am slowly recovering from it, my therapist diagnosed me with chronic PTSD and depression with psychotic features.

I haven't had my first kiss yet, but I sense it will happen soon

[Emilyfox]

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