I need some advice

[Giannaras]

Hi,guys I am John 15 years old 1st grade of high school or 10th grade (I dont know how you call it in america)I am from greece and I would like some advice about....
First of all,I like a girl same age,same school but I dont know how to approach her I have heard she has a boyfriend but I am not totally sure the source is valid.
Anyways I dont know how to talk to her I dont even know her at the least all I want is to be friends with her but I dont know how to start a conversation since no common class or activity etc....

[Dirtychevrolet]

Do you pass each other alot between classes? Just be friendly say hi with a good smile as you pass each other. Then if you get the chance and are headed in the same direction ask her how her day is and be prepared to answer the same question keep it simple for a while and don't be pushy about it just casual. And whatever you do do not i repeat DO NOT LIE to her just be you if she does not like you for you then she isn't for you. Hope this helps good luck bro

Ps sometimes there is no understanding girls there is no manual. But they say the same thing about us

[SAR151]

And whatever you do do not i repeat DO NOT LIE to her just be you if she does not like you for you then she isn't for you.

This!
I've lied to my fair share of women (because I'm not interesting nor have I lived an exciting life) just to impress them and afterwards the lies just keep going and going, definitely not worth it to lie just to make an impression and like you said, if a woman doesn't like you for you then she isn't right for you.

[crazy_teen]

Yeah, they're right. Say hi when you see her or give her a smile when your eyes meet. And when you're confident to strike up a conversation, then do so. Keep it short and casual at first and observe her reactions.

[Giannaras]

Your advice are very helpful but there is still a problem,how I will say hi to her I doubt if she knows i exist:confused: and I think I can do that smile you said but its to hard I feel something in my stomach then in my heart and thats the reason i cant say hi if i havent spoke once with her at least

[Dirtychevrolet]

If you can't say hi then try hey lol jk. And I think your kinda Thinkin about it to much it's not a practiced fake cheesy smile just a natural smile. And sooner or later you look at pretty much everyone passing in the halls,unless your staring at the floor,but if you can get the word hey, or hi or something of the sort while passing just do the head knod thing if that makes sense.

[Giannaras]

Your advice is pretty good but if she dont smile back then I will feel like an idiot.

[AquilaVolanti]

Understand your problem, I have it the same way. I guess we both will just have to try. If she doesn't smile back, just try again ;)

[SAR151]

Your advice is pretty good but if she dont smile back then I will feel like an idiot.

It's easier said then done to not feel like an idiot when that happens, I used to be the same way, then once I realized that if she doesn't smile or say hi back it won't kill me. No need to put yourself down or feel like a said "idiot" when it happens, its gonna happen once in a while but don't let that discourage from you doing it, if you let that fear prevent you from possibly befriending the one that'll make you happy you'll definitely regret it. Trust me. Like I said I know its harder said than done but remember be confident in yourself, don't lie, dont force things with someone and if it just so happens to not work out in your favor then just think to yourself "hey no biggie, next time". This advice comes to you from someone who had a serious problem with being afraid of rejection or being embarrassed by someone but in the end all that matter is how you feel about yourself and being confident of who you are. So work on that (tell yourself you can do it) and good luck.

[SAR151]

Oh and another thing, a quick summary of my experience...I had a mad crush on a girl I work with but I was too nervous to approach her and once I did and befriended her I couldnt work up the courage to tell her how I felt, a year went by and she eventually found out that I had a thing for her and she had told me that if I had just told her how I felt I would've had a shot with her because at the time she had feelings for me too, well now she's married and happy...there's more to it than that but the moral of the story is don't let your doubts determine the outcome of your life.

[Giannaras]

Well,as you might suspected I never have even kissed a girl but thats not the point,the point is that when I see her I feel like something in my stomach and then I have to turn around because I want to smile or even laugh in a stupid way:D she is so beautiful.......

[Smeagol]

Well, smile at her. I doubt your smile looks stupid. You're smiling because she makes you happy. Don't try to change it, it's your natural reaction. Good luck!

[SAR151]

Well,as you might suspected I never have even kissed a girl but thats not the point,the point is that when I see her I feel like something in my stomach and then I have to turn around because I want to smile or even laugh in a stupid way:D she is so beautiful.......

That's alright man, I've only kissed one girl that I had a relationship with, 3 total. Like the poster above me said...do it :) I'm sure she'll appreciate it, believe it or not some and sometimes most women depending where you live appreciate a good smile from a good guy...from my few experiences women appreciate when their beauty is admired not just being "checked" out cause they have a sexy body. Just be you and do what you think is best. With that being said though don't over do it because it is possible to go too far.

[Dirtychevrolet]

I agree with that don't treat her like an object because she isn't and as long as your just bein friendly then she should appreciate it :)

[SAR151]

I agree with that don't treat her like an object because she isn't and as long as your just bein friendly then she should appreciate it :)

Agreed.
It's better for him for her to know he's there to make a friendship while being interested in her and possibly becoming more than friends
than just straight out "hitting" on her (for the lack of a better saying).




Well,as you might suspected I never have even kissed a girl but thats not the point,the point is that when I see her I feel like something in my stomach and then I have to turn around because I want to smile or even laugh in a stupid way:D she is so beautiful.......

And the feeling you get is normal, remember you want her to like you for you whether it be goofy, weird, awkward, etc rather than liking you for being someone you aren't so just go for it whether its a smile or a laugh. With that being said don't be creepy lol

[anyone50]

First thing is i would try to find out if she does actually have a bf this shouldn't be as hard as your making it out to be. If she is indeed available you can start by getting involved in the things she likes such as after school activities so you will have a chance of getting to know her better.

[crazy_teen]

Your advice is pretty good but if she dont smile back then I will feel like an idiot.

At first just try to smile at her without waiting for her to smile back. Like smile for a few seconds and then look away and act normally and continue with whatever you're doing. It would be creepy if she catches you looking at her and you stare longer just to wait for her to smile back.

Then next time you see her, smile again and look away again. A girl will get curious if you're really smiling at her and will try looking at you next time. Be a bit mysterious if you want to catch her attention.

Then next time, smile at her and wait if she'll smile back. I don't know if that will work for you. It may take a while but if you can't muster up the courage to say something to her just yet, then try something this simple smiling thingy. ;)