Is it rude to ask someone if they're gay on facebook?

[Wonder.]

I am a homosexual male myself and I wouldn't mind if someone did, but I'm also really weird and never really offended by anything so I'm curious about other people's thoughts.

Also, please state your sexuality when you answer. Thanks.


EDITING TO ADD: I do mean over a private conversation. Not publicly.

[Harley Quinn]

I ask people on a daily basis if they're gay, not on facebook though but, it's no big deal for me personally if I was to do that. If someone gets offended, I do apologise and whatever. I'm a lesbian myself so I don't mind it visa versa either.

[Atonement]

First of all, asking someone's sexuality isn't, and shouldn't be, offensive. However, doing so in a public way is probably a bad idea. If you want, you can message them, but I would never post on their wall, photos, or anything that is public inquiring about their sexuality.

Good luck?

Oh, I'm gay.

[xmojox]

I don't think it's ever rude to ask, but, as it's a private thing, do ask privately. You don't wanna put someone on the spot. My sexuality is unlabeled so far.

[AJJ1]

i feel bad actually asking, not knowin wat they will respond and hw they will feel bout it towards me!!!!but i still do it cuz im a curious guy!!!

[teen.jpg]

Don't do that. Just avoid the risk.

[Harry Smith]

If you have a hunch that someone's gay or something then ask but don't simply message people asking them if there are gay, i mean a lot of people in my school would take that the wrong way, but my school is a shit hole

[Cicero]

If they aren't gay, it could make them feel offended. Whereas if they are, then it wouldn't be as big of a deal.

[steellord321]

It would help if they know ur gay first, cause if a str8 person asked that i would assume the worst and would never give them the satisfaction to say yes.

[ImCoolBeans]

The reason why it offends somebody is either:
A) The person is not gay and his or her ego is too hurt by any questioning of their sexuality.
or
B) The person is very uncomfortable with his or her sexuality and they are worried that it's obvious that he or she is not heterosexual.

I personally wouldn't really be offended by it at this point. I'm comfortable enough with myself to answer the question truthfully and be fine with it. I don't think it should be an offensive thing either -- as long as it's done so respectfully -- it's more so paranoia and the offense taken is more of a defense mechanism to cope with their hurt egos.

[Danny Phantom]

The reason why it offends somebody is either:
A) The person is not gay and his or her ego is too hurt by any questioning of their sexuality.
or
B) The person is very uncomfortable with his or her sexuality and they are worried that it's obvious that he or she is not heterosexual.

I personally wouldn't really be offended by it at this point. I'm comfortable enough with myself to answer the question truthfully and be fine with it. I don't think it should be an offensive thing either -- as long as it's done so respectfully -- it's more so paranoia and the offense taken is more of a defense mechanism to cope with their hurt egos.

I completely agree^
It is not malicious in itself to ask, that is perfectly fine, but you don't know how the person is feeling inside about themselves or how they are going to react. Facebook may not be the best place to ask, somewhere private is better.

[Durakito]

I have ask people if they are on FB xD and im Staight/Curious IDK

[Zach_014]

Well depending on who it was and how close we are would determine whether or not I would tell them but I would much rather not tell someone over Facebook. Also I've told my closest friends so anyone else that I asked no probably not.

Oh and I'm gay.