Best way to tell a friend how you feel about them without making it awkward

[Mebenick]

I think my crush who I have now become friends with is into me but there's a chance he could be straight. Al of my friends keep telling me to just take a chance and tell him and that if he's a good friend, nothing would be different after if he actually is straight. What I'm worried about is making things awkward between us if he doesn't feel the same way. Has anyone gone through anything similar or can someone tell me what they would do in this situation? I'd rather find out now then keep on waiting and hoping for something to possibly happen but I have no idea how to even say it

[Faolan]

I'm stuck with the same dilemma right now too.

[Durakito]

At least im not the only one with that problem :D

[xmojox]

I think my crush who I have now become friends with is into me but there's a chance he could be straight. Al of my friends keep telling me to just take a chance and tell him and that if he's a good friend, nothing would be different after if he actually is straight. What I'm worried about is making things awkward between us if he doesn't feel the same way. Has anyone gone through anything similar or can someone tell me what they would do in this situation? I'd rather find out now then keep on waiting and hoping for something to possibly happen but I have no idea how to even say it

What does he do that leads you to think he's into you? Knowing that would make it easier to give you a good answer.

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Was in the same situation. Don't tell him. Not until you have 100% no suspicion. I did, and there is absolutely NO way to avoid that awkward feeling.

[Mebenick]

What does he do that leads you to think he's into you? Knowing that would make it easier to give you a good answer.

Well for one thing, he says a lot of flirty things to me which aren't exactly anything serious since that could just be how he is. But the other day when he was thanking me for helping him, he said "I seriously owe you, like a shot or a handjob" and then just smiled at me. That same day, after someone commented on his shoe size, he leaned into me and said "you know what that means" and raised his eyebrows up in a flirty kinda way. So there's a bunch of things like this that make me think he might. But I don't know his sexuality so it's hard to tell

[xmojox]

Well for one thing, he says a lot of flirty things to me which aren't exactly anything serious since that could just be how he is. But the other day when he was thanking me for helping him, he said "I seriously owe you, like a shot or a handjob" and then just smiled at me. That same day, after someone commented on his shoe size, he leaned into me and said "you know what that means" and raised his eyebrows up in a flirty kinda way. So there's a bunch of things like this that make me think he might. But I don't know his sexuality so it's hard to tell

Dude I'd say go for it. That sure sounds to me like he's into you!

[Mebenick]

Dude I'd say go for it. That sure sounds to me like he's into you!

It just makes me nervous because I don't know for sure and there's really no easy way to ask him if he's straight or gay lol. Most of all, I just don't want it to get awkward between us if he isn't interested or is straight. We were lab partners but now we've actually been switched so I don't have to worry about that anymore. I didn't want it to effect our work if he got uncomfortable after but everyone keeps telling me different things. I really want to tell him but I just have that fear that he might not accept the fact that I feel that way about him. I'm so confused and extremely nervous over this whole thing. But I really appreciate your advice and guidance!

[xmojox]

It just makes me nervous because I don't know for sure and there's really no easy way to ask him if he's straight or gay lol. Most of all, I just don't want it to get awkward between us if he isn't interested or is straight. We were lab partners but now we've actually been switched so I don't have to worry about that anymore. I didn't want it to effect our work if he got uncomfortable after but everyone keeps telling me different things. I really want to tell him but I just have that fear that he might not accept the fact that I feel that way about him. I'm so confused and extremely nervous over this whole thing. But I really appreciate your advice and guidance!

By all means don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with. Maybe have one of your friends feel him out? Maybe hang out more with him on a one to one basis. I do wish you luck, man. I hope it all works out for you!

[Swagamemmnon]

You won't get anywhere if you don't try. The worst he can do is say no. And if he chooses to end your friendship, then he wasn't a worthwhile friend in the first place.

[Mebenick]

By all means don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with. Maybe have one of your friends feel him out? Maybe hang out more with him on a one to one basis. I do wish you luck, man. I hope it all works out for you!

Thanks so much! I actually asked him to hang out this week while we're on Spring Break and we've never hung out outside of class and he said yes so hopefully I can learn some more about him and finally get an answer!

[Apollo.]

Thanks so much! I actually asked him to hang out this week while we're on Spring Break and we've never hung out outside of class and he said yes so hopefully I can learn some more about him and finally get an answer!

Good luck with it! I hope everything goes well!

[xmojox]

Thanks so much! I actually asked him to hang out this week while we're on Spring Break and we've never hung out outside of class and he said yes so hopefully I can learn some more about him and finally get an answer!

That's awesome!! Have fun man. I hope everything goes well for you :D

[cinderellagirl732]

Hang out with him, one-on-one, and bring it up casually. My friend found a picture of a pretty girl on the Internet and said to me "You could be straight as hell, but this girl is seriously HOT!" and we talked for a minute then she straight out asked me, "What ARE you, by the way? I don't have a problem with it, just curious." maybe you could do something similar to that, but with a picture of a guy. She was very casual about it though, and she didn't make me feel uncomfortable, so maybe you could approach it that way? Try asking him who he likes, also? I don't know if it works the same for guys, just thought I'd give you the option...hope it helps.(:

[Mebenick]

Thank you all! He unfortunately can't make it as he's been called into work but I said "well maybe some other time then" and he said "For sure! Hope you have fun " So I'm not sure if I should ask him some other day to hang out or if that might make me seem desperate. This week is basically the last time we have time to hang out until after mid May

[Steffanie2020]

I just recently told my crush that I have feelings for her even though I knew she wa straight. She told me we can only be friends and she had no problem with me likening her as long as I know she's straight. Everyone is diffrent though so I say go for it and good luck:)

[Mebenick]

I just recently told my crush that I have feelings for her even though I knew she wa straight. She told me we can only be friends and she had no problem with me likening her as long as I know she's straight. Everyone is diffrent though so I say go for it and good luck:)

Thank you! That's very encouraging to me! It's nice to hear that it doesn't have to ruin a friendship and that a straight friend could accept it so well!

[xmojox]

Thank you all! He unfortunately can't make it as he's been called into work but I said "well maybe some other time then" and he said "For sure! Hope you have fun " So I'm not sure if I should ask him some other day to hang out or if that might make me seem desperate. This week is basically the last time we have time to hang out until after mid May

Plead boredom later in the week and ask him. It'll be fine :)

[Mebenick]

Plead boredom later in the week and ask him. It'll be fine :)

Oh that's a good idea! I might just have to do that haha. Thanks!!

[xmojox]

Oh that's a good idea! I might just have to do that haha. Thanks!!

You're welcome. I want this to work out for you so much!! :D

[Steffanie2020]

Thank you! That's very encouraging to me! It's nice to hear that it doesn't have to ruin a friendship and that a straight friend could accept it so well!

Yeah, a lot of people at my school know I'm a lesbian so some girls know what their dealing with when they talk to me since Im a huge flirt. If he knows your sexuality then he shouldnt be weirded out about you telling him. Just go for it, life's to short. good luck;)

[Phoenix911]

okay heres my plan to you .. if he doesnt know that you are gay and the rest of your friends knows that you gay.. make it look like a prank..talk to your friends about it and have them back you up.. when you with him just go for it, be flirty with him or even lean to kiss him and if his straight and he refrain.. then thats where your friends come in. tell him that it was a prank and that you friends were on it too and that yall were only trying to find out how he would react to that.. and your friends would say yes that it was true but they wont be there when you do it.. but i just hope that you get the reply that you looking for.... all the best man and tell us how it goes..

[Mebenick]

You're welcome. I want this to work out for you so much!! :D

I really appreciate all the support and advice you've given me! It means a lot to me!

[BandedKlepto]

I was in a similar situation once. He gave so many mixed signals no one had a clue, and I mean NO ONE. He would flirt in that ominous vague way where you have no idea if he was joking, or serious. I would flirt back ofcourse, I had a crush on him so that was inevitable. But he seemed straight for the most part, I still wondered though. I even asked around, everyone that was a mutual friend of him and I- Most said he was completely straight. Some were confused as I was. Well, one day I went with my heart and I tossed the dice. I went up to him and out of completely nowhere told him I liked him, and asked him out- in front of everyone. He said yes, which not only shocked me, but eveyone else too. I ended up dumping him months later because he was a major douchebag- but thats a different story, basically what I am saying is you can never judge someone by who they are on the outside. They can be straight as a ruler but seem as flamboyant as a rainbow on crack (Or vice-versa). I am not saying take a risk and ask him out as I did- that would be ridiculous, take it slow, collect your knowledge and suspicions, and then when you are sure of it tell them how you feel and if he doesnt feel the same, shrug it off but play it cool. Good luck to you, and remember to keep it cool- should things get awkward. :3

[Mebenick]

I was in a similar situation once. He gave so many mixed signals no one had a clue, and I mean NO ONE. He would flirt in that ominous vague way where you have no idea if he was joking, or serious. I would flirt back ofcourse, I had a crush on him so that was inevitable. But he seemed straight for the most part, I still wondered though. I even asked around, everyone that was a mutual friend of him and I- Most said he was completely straight. Some were confused as I was. Well, one day I went with my heart and I tossed the dice. I went up to him and out of completely nowhere told him I liked him, and asked him out- in front of everyone. He said yes, which not only shocked me, but eveyone else too. I ended up dumping him months later because he was a major douchebag- but thats a different story, basically what I am saying is you can never judge someone by who they are on the outside. They can be straight as a ruler but seem as flamboyant as a rainbow on crack (Or vice-versa). I am not saying take a risk and ask him out as I did- that would be ridiculous, take it slow, collect your knowledge and suspicions, and then when you are sure of it tell them how you feel and if he doesnt feel the same, shrug it off but play it cool. Good luck to you, and remember to keep it cool- should things get awkward. :3

Thanks! I think I'm going to really get to know him more and than maybe just tell him how I feel. Be open about it and hope he's ok with it if he turns out to be straight.