All Over Again

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Hello all! If you are in any way familiar with my posts, you know I had a huge crush on a guy in my grade. If not, basically I told him I was crushing on him and he was a homophobic jackass about me and cut off all communication from me.

So now, about 2 months later, I'm back exactly where I was before. It's easy to say to myself that I need to get over him, but it's hard to do it. I thought by now my feelings were gone, but there back again.

He got me really upset in class today. We aren't the best of friends as of now, and his opinion means alot to me. I was trying to be nice and talk to him, but he pretty much ignored me and went to talk to someone else.

And he usually does this to me on a daily basis. I say something to him, and he tells me to "fuck off" and not to talk to him.

I was thinking about all of this, and I got really emotional. But then he starts asking me whats wrong and if I'm ok. Like he genuinely cared.

That's why my feelings are so screwed up. I'm not sure if were friends or not, and

[Second Chance]

I am really sorry that your friend treated you so badly especially since it took a lot of bravery on your part to open up to him. It is the worst feeling in the world to see someone you like a lot everyday only for them to ignore you and even treat you really badly.

In a nutshell, what all of us are going to tell you is that you have to move on from this guy which everyone knows is easier said than done. It is tough because you not only lost a friend but also someone you really cared about. If there was anything else you could do to make him like you again, then I guarantee that we would tell you a way. But, there isn't a way you are going to get him back as a friend at this point, and I think you need to give him space, and you need to hang out with your other friends and get involved with something to get your mind off this guy.

I'm not sure how close you are with your family, but if they know you're bi/gay, then it might help to let them know what's going on. If your parents are not open, then talk to a sibling, or I would talk to a school counselor. No question you need to talk with someone to get over your feelings about this guy.

If this helps you any, then know that whether it is straight or gay people everyone has had to deal with rejection, and there are plenty of us who have had friends we asked out only for them to freak out and turn on us. Trust me, this is something that happens to all sexualities, and you are not alone here. Obviously, it is much harder for gay guys when this happens, but remember that like anyone else you encounter the same problems when it comes to dating and finding someone who will respect positively.

If it means anything, assuming you're in junior high, then know that most junior high guys are immature and can be jerks. The issue is not with you but with your former friend. One thing I'll say is that you are the brave one for being honest and for putting yourself out there as opposed to keeping all your feelings inside. I guess in the future you will have to test the waters before coming out to someone, but in light of this guy being your friend I can understand why you told him. At least now you know he was not your real friend because he liked you for who he wanted you be rather than accepting you for who you are. If he can't accept your gayness, then he is not worth your time.

[justin 13]

Dude I'm in the closet i'm planning to remain there until college, for me is very difficult to come out since I go to an private catholic school and there all my friends are str8, or some are like me but never speak out or preferences Is hard to have a crush with an str8 boy. I have mine, private crush LOL. I'm trying to get some gay friends in this site or others teen sites to feel not alone. I guess u have to move on bro, that guy could hurt your feelings.

[AJJ1]

Im sorry for you, but i think u should move on, u cant live the rest of ur life studyin him,,it will take long and hard to do but u have to eventually....add me so we can chat

[steellord321]

Im sure it sucks big time but u won't have a crush forever. He's not giving u any respect and to me that's a huge turnoff. Will happen faster if u can find a guy (or girl) that feels the same way about u. Then you'll forget this guy in no time

As far as remaining friends, this just my opinion but to act that way, even if he's sorry and stops he has a level of cruelty i wouldnt want to be around. It takes courage to tell him what u did and he's just throwing it in your face. So sorry your going thru this...

[xmojox]

I'm sorry that happened to you, but it's always a chance you take when you tell a friend that you like them, no matter if it's a boy or a girl. He has been mean and disrespectful, and knowing what you know now, is he still the person you thought he was? I bet you never in a million years thought he'd treat you the way he has or you never would've opened up and told him. Everyone says move on and I'd hafta agree, even though that can be so hard to do. Feel free to send a PM if talkin would help.

[steellord321]

Yeah and hey, i hope it wont discourage u from asking a guy out in the future. You did nothin wrong and dont deserve that at all.