Yep, another girl thread. Input appreciated!

[Faux]

Great site first of all, glad I could join it. ^_^

So I know everyone has heard these threads hundreds of times, but here goes:

I like this girl at my school. I've known her since Pre K I believe, and now we are both in 8th grade. This year we ended up on different wings so we have less time to catch up on things, although she is in my elective class.

During fifth period, my elective, which is student government, we have lots of free time. I pretty much have the freedom to go anywhere I want, and talk to anybody during the class(the teacher is pretty cool.) Now, so far, things sound good, but let me get to the rest.

Now in the class there are about 5 guys, and 17 or so girls, most of whom are very good looking if you catch my drift. I have a friend in the class who can be very annoying at times. Now when I say annoying, I mean I'm pretty sure he has ADHD or some variation. We are pretty good friends, who hang out occasionally, but not the biggest friends in the world. Now I wouldn't bring this up at all if not for a reason, which luckily I have.

In the class, my friend is constantly following me around the entire time while I'm trying to talk to girls, and especially the girl I like. I have tried numerous times to get him to go somewhere else or to stop following me, with no avail. I'd simply tell him to get lost, but I don't want to hurt his feelings. Plus, I feel awkward talking to girls enough, doesn't help with a friend over your shoulder commenting about guy stuff the whole time.

Anyways, onto the girl I like...

Since I've known her awhile, it is slightly strange to talk to her again, as we lost contact from about 4th - 6th grade when she went to a private school. We started talking back in seventh grade where we got to know each other a little bit. Something between that and now happened where she stopped talking to me from some reason, but, I really didn't let it get to me, and wouldn't you know, things sorted themselves out for once. I'm pretty sure she doesn't have a boyfriend, but I don't look at this as a HUGE obstacle, as Jr. High relationships don't go too far anyways.

Now once again, in my elective class, I have a tough time talking to her, due to my friends, or work to do. I get very nervous around her, often called "butterflies" if you will, and get that stage fright sorta feeling. I've tried several things, such as "thinking of her as a guy", or "concentrate on her downsides", but only to make me feel 2x as nervous. Also, just popped into my head, one of her friends asked, "why you two don't go out" and her reply was that "we've known each other for too long." I like that because, she didn't say I was ugly or a variation of the like. Either way I would love to be a closer friend, if anything.

Summary: Like a girl, friend gets in the way, freeze up during conversations, need advice on all of this or my head will explode.

Thanks for reading (if you did), I feel like I wrote a book,

-Faux

[Kate111]

you'll never know what the answer will be until you tell her how you feel, so when you get the chance take it! Just say I like you a lot and want to be more than friends, but if you don't feel the same way then it's cool and I hope we can still be friends. Or something along those lines. Once you're going out things will probably become less awkward. You don't want to spend your life wondering what if.

[Never_Forget]

Just tell her (by MSN/AIM ect if you're ultra nervous) that you like her and you won't be hurt if she doesn't feel the same way but you'd like to be more than a friend.

[[[chickaroo92]]]

Just tell her (by MSN/AIM ect if you're ultra nervous) that you like her and you won't be hurt if she doesn't feel the same way but you'd like to be more than a friend.
Don't tell her using a messenger/and or the phone. If you want to tell her how you feel, you really should tell her in person, and be like, "hey, what's up,....etc." and then be like, do you want to see a movie or something? If things work out, then tell her how you feel, and if not, try, try, and try again! Also, probably the reason why you freeze up, or get nervous is because you emotions are getting the better of you. My advice, if you have a sister, or a teddy bear, anything that is the opposite of you, practice on it, and imagine its the girl you like. If all of that doesn't work, then I must be really bad at giving advice.

Anyhow, just give it a go, you'll feel a lot better afterwards :-)

[byee]

First, welcome to VT! I'm glad you found us, too. You're very bright and articulate, it's like you're in the room here!

Okay. With your guy friend/tag along, it sounds like he likes you but lacks the social skills to know how to back off when you need it. Sometimes, people are more aware of their own needs than the needs of others, so they miss the social cues. I like that you don't want to be harsh with him (it fits your being a nice guy). What you want to do is explain simply and directly that you need some time alone (tell him how much), AND (this is the big part), that you'll meet up with him later (name the location and time and be sure to be there!). This will work.

Now onto the lucky girl. If you think about how much you like her/want her, if you keep getting caught up in your own excitement, you'll overwhelm yourself and freak, as you are now. Forget that, just focus on the looooooong time you've known her, how familiar she is, how well you know her. That should be reassuring. You want to think reassuring thoughts, not those exciting, exotic ones.

Now, using all that time and experience you have with her, start easy by just chatting with her. This should be easy, it's easy talking with someone you've known forever. Your difficulty might be that you're swinging for the fences too soon, trying to come up with a way to ask her out. Start by talking with her about something comfortable. Do this for a while, until you're comfortable and used to it, then take the next step. Look at this as a work in progress, that it will take time to get to the point of comfortably suggesting some out of school activity. Don't rush it. She already likes you, you just both might need some time getting used to the idea of it being something more.