Is my bestfriend gay?

[bulls]

So i am wondering if my bestfriend is gay. There are some situations that show that he is gay. Like he got mad at me after i asked my girlfriend to the prom. He even got more mad when she said Yes. During prom he was glaring at me while i was dancing with my girlfriend. In every group picture he would put his arms around my shoulders. He keeps on asking me if i am gay and i would say no then he suddenly gets mad at me

So. If he was really gay, what should i do? Should i stop being friends with him? And, how can i ask him if he really is gay? Last, What if he has feelings for me but he doesnt want to tell me because he doesnt want to ruin our friendship?

[Atonement]

If he was really gay, what should i do?

Support him and be his friend.

Should i stop being friends with him?

Are you that homophobic?

And, how can i ask him if he really is gay?

If you're in high school, I'd advise against it. You don't want him to flip out potentially. However, if you made it clear that you're supportive of gay people, which it seems the contrary, he might feel comfortable to come out. However, given you apparently opposition to your friend being gay, why would he tell you?

Last, What if he has feelings for me but he doesnt want to tell me because he doesnt want to ruin our friendship?

Then he has feelings. Make it clear that you're straight and aren't interested. It's simple. You can be friends with gay people without them crushing on you. If he has a crush, just make your intentions clear. If he wants to end the friendship because he can't be around you without crushing, that's his decision. But being a friend isn't ending a friendship over sexuality.

[Pierce]

Maybe he just has a seeious guy crush on you or serious bromance feelings, or he might just be gay. I would advice straight up asking him if he is gay, that can put him in a bad position if he is closeted or still questioning his sexuality. I don't know why you would consider stop being friends with him. If he is gay be a true friend and support him. Make it very clear that you are willing to support him but you bave absolutely no sexual feelings for him. Again, don't pressure him into coming out but if he does, be there for him. Best of luck!

[steellord321]

if u end the friendship he may never get over it. whatever else u do don't do this.

[zerosix22]

Maybe he just has a seeious guy crush on you or serious bromance feelings, or he might just be gay. I would advice straight up asking him if he is gay, that can put him in a bad position if he is closeted or still questioning his sexuality. I don't know why you would consider stop being friends with him. If he is gay be a true friend and support him. Make it very clear that you are willing to support him but you bave absolutely no sexual feelings for him. Again, don't pressure him into coming out but if he does, be there for him. Best of luck!




Agree. If you are really his friend,be there for him. Goodluck. :)

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If he wants to end the friendship because he can't be around you without crushing, that's his decision.[/B]

And that is a really hard decision to make. I would know ...

[Second Chance]

Assuming he was not into the girl you took to prom and judging by all that your friend has done there is a chance he could be attracted to you. I think the direct approach is the way to go with your friend and to ask him if he is gay since he has asked you. If he is gay, then continue to be his friend while letting him know that you both can't be more than that. I am sure your friend is probably hurting right now because he probably wants to be more than your friend, but he also knows you're straight. If your his friend and support him, then hopefully you guys will stay close while he respects your sexuality like you would hopefully accept his. It's tough being gay, and I am sure your friend is having a hard enough time accepting his feelings let alone seeing someone he likes going out with someone else. Especially with this guy being your best friend it would be shady if you stopped being his friend just because he's gay. If you stop hanging out with him just because he's gay, then you were never really his friend. Just let him know that you'll be his friend but he just shouldn't hit on you because you're into girls.

[xmojox]

So i am wondering if my bestfriend is gay. There are some situations that show that he is gay. Like he got mad at me after i asked my girlfriend to the prom. He even got more mad when she said Yes. During prom he was glaring at me while i was dancing with my girlfriend. In every group picture he would put his arms around my shoulders. He keeps on asking me if i am gay and i would say no then he suddenly gets mad at me

So. If he was really gay, what should i do? Should i stop being friends with him? And, how can i ask him if he really is gay? Last, What if he has feelings for me but he doesnt want to tell me because he doesnt want to ruin our friendship?

If he keeps on asking if you're gay, next time he does, ask if he is. But if you stop being his friend because he's gay, you're not a very good person. Of course, that's just my opinion. I love and support my friend's regardless of what their situation might be or what they may be going through. That's kinda the definition of friend, isn't it?

[Danny Phantom]

Ask him if he is gay. You guys are very good friends, so I mean, it shouldn't be a problem. If he is gay, just say "I don't swing that way" but that you'll support him, because that is what friends do. The worst possible thing you can do is back off from him or stop being his friend, that will hurt him.

[Durakito]

You should ask him if hes gay

[crepesuzette]

maybe he's just infatuated with you.
be his friend.
are you uncomfortable with his arms around you?
I think it would be great if a guy did that.

[ChrisA1998]

So i am wondering if my bestfriend is gay. There are some situations that show that he is gay. Like he got mad at me after i asked my girlfriend to the prom. He even got more mad when she said Yes. During prom he was glaring at me while i was dancing with my girlfriend. In every group picture he would put his arms around my shoulders. He keeps on asking me if i am gay and i would say no then he suddenly gets mad at me

So. If he was really gay, what should i do? Should i stop being friends with him? And, how can i ask him if he really is gay? Last, What if he has feelings for me but he doesnt want to tell me because he doesnt want to ruin our friendship?

tell him exactly what you wrote in this post ;-)

if he is your friend (and just friend), then he must be happy for you to have a girlfriend, and understand that you want to spend some time with her, and not just him.

if he is in fact gay and interested by you, he must understand and respect the fact you have a girlfriend.

otherwise, thats not really your friend ;)