My little brother is a complete douchebag

[JustinPCGamer]

He's 13, I'm 16. There isn't a huge age difference, but he can be mature. When I was 13, I was polite, nice, kind, happy, and cared about others. I respected my teachers, family, and friends. I had trouble in middle school adjusting and all, but that didn't affect my attitude. Every time I would see relatives I would hug and kiss them. I was and still am very well mannered. He is the opposite of all that. He is having a hard time adjusting to middle school. He thinks he knows everything, he thinks hes better than everyone, and doesn't want to be bothered. When we have family gatherings he doesn't talk to anyone and often stays by himself playing his PS3. My uncle, aunt, and cousin came over two months ago. He stayed downstairs playing GTA IV on his PS3 the whole time. He didn't come up stairs to even greet the family. I spoke to him about respect and being polite and he said he doesn't care. He said to me, "You're all about maturity and respect. I don't care, you're an idiot. Stop talking to me." He would start mimicking me. Lately, he has been talking to himself. I would ask him to stop and he would reply by going "I didn't say anything." I've told my parents, and they are too busy to do anything. He said "People don't like it when you're correct a lot. They don't always like it when you're straight to the point."

I've tried to teach him about respect, but he just doesn't listen. All he wants to do is play video games all day and not care about anyone else. He also manipulates my mother. He makes her get him drinks, food, and get his clothes. I tell him that's wrong, and he says I am retarded. He always wants to argue everything with me like an idiot and gets joy out of that. I feel like I have tried everything to help correct this about him. He just doesn't listen. I feel like the next step would be to beat him up, but my father would go crazy if I even touched him. I don't know what to do at this point, and my parents are very bad at disciplining. He just never stops with his attitude and it pisses me off. He thinks he is entitled to everything and knows everything.

One last thing. Last Tuesday it was my mother's birthday. The whole family went except for him. He wanted to stay home and play stupid PS3. My mother told me at the restaurant that she was really hurt that he didn't come with everyone else. I told her, "You're the mother, you can discipline him. He's your son, not mine. My children will be respectful unlike him. Every trait he has, will be the opposite. If I have children of course." So, now what do I do?

[dontfiguremeout]

He needs to learn how to be respectful! What he is doing is not okay! He needs a kick in the butt really! Well I have two ideas that you guys can do. First is talk with your parents and see if they can play along and act like him. Act like you guys don't care at all, just sit and watch tv, be disrespectful till he finally gets it, and understand it's extremely annoying and childish. But it will take dedication to do this. Another thing is put him in an army simulation or some type of thing like that. He will be so scared to talk back to the sergeant that, he will indeed learn his lesson. My mom said that my cousins cousin was so bratty and extremely disrespectful that they did this thing where these people took her out of her house and took her to the mountains for the year and made her do so many chores, get up so early, did everything to discipline her, with no communication to friends and family, and when she came home, she was a completely different girl. She now respect everyone and is never rude.

[Horatio Nelson]

Tan his hide! But, no seriously. I have a little brother as well, he's only 7 I'm 15. I'm going to do everything in my power to make sure he doesn't end up with that kind of behavior. I'm also extremly respectful to adults. (unless they are immature retards, which adults can be) I hope your brother learns his lesson. Ask your parents to revoke his gaming privileges, make him do extra chores and the like.

[JustinPCGamer]

Thank you both. I think the first method is more realistic and will work best in this situation.

[Second Chance]

Your brother sounds difficult and basically a typical junior high school boy. I think because the age difference between you and your brother is so small is why he is just not going to listen to you. At this point, your parents have to talk with your brother and make him understand what respect is. For example, for your Mum's birthday there is no way a parent should have let a junior high school kid stay home for such an important event, and by letting him stay home your parents enabled your brother to act badly. If your parents don't create consequences for his bad behaviour, then your brother is just going to get worse.

I respect the fact that you are trying to be a good brother by showing your brother how to act. However, your parents should take the lead here, and you should distance yourself from your brother to show him that if he acts like a douche, then no one will want to be around him.

[Fanta_Lover44]

Jesus, im 14 and i would never ever even dream of acting that way! I think that you're mum might need to toughen up and teach him manners,

P.s Please dont take this the wrong way, he definatly needs to be more pollite

[Synyster Shadows]

I like what you're doing. But as others have said, it's your parents that need to take over. I know this is not exactly relevant, but here's why I turned out the way i am. As a toddler, my dad ignored me when I cried, just let me cry till I stopped. I learned to control myself and rarely lose control of my emotions (sadness or temper). The point is that he didn't enable me to have my way. (Spoiled...what does that mean?) I also play 3 instruments and practice a few hours a day total for the 3. Your parents need to stop enabling this kid. Consequences are key. Take away the games, for a long time, half a year maybe. I mean, lock them in a cabinet or something. If he starts whining, they have to hold firm. Hope this helps.

[AquilaVolanti]

Sit down, talk to your parents. This is the cause of lack of dicipline, this is something he learned as a child. Your parents need to sit down and talk to him, tell him that this is not acceptable.

[SamanthaMaciel]

yrs u need to beat him up... teach him a real.lesson... then if he tries to telll you tell him that u will destroy his games and beat him up agin.... best way to learn a lesoon.... the tough way

[crepesuzette]

i wish i had a douchebag for a brother. i haven't got one and i'm constantly alone. plus my friends are out on the weekends hanging out and i'm just not there because my parents are too overprotective. sad.

[Jamesison]

you need to teach him to treat you right thats bs that is not right...

[JustinPCGamer]

Thanks everyone. I've spoken to him and my parents. He's just starting to act right. Let's see how things go.

[PinkFloyd]

I have a little brother that is also 13, and he likes to spend a lot of time on the computer. He does tend to say hi though. I was actually havin the same issue you are now when I was 14 and he was 12. Except he listened to me. Sorry, I'll get to the point . . . What you gotta do is be assertive and even agressive if needed. I mean you are what a Junior and he's like in 8th grade. I don't know if he's bigger than you or something, but if you show some force, he might back down. I am sorry if that didn't make sense.. post a visitor message on my page if you need anything else.
- Rob

[Wanderer_]

As his big brother the next time family visit if he doesn't even make a token effort to socialize or next time he disrespects your parents you are going to have to put his controller hand on the table and smash it with his PS3. Tough love.

Or just put tge freakiest gay porn you can find and put it on his computer and then go tell your parents "I don't want you to be alarmed but I'm worried about my little brother, I was grabbing x from his PC and saw this..." (show the gimp suit guy in action) and then stroll off satisfied as a mofo

[Mtty123]

isn't every litte brother a douchebag???

[Stephan]

Why don't your folks try and discipline him rather than you? Clearly your methodology isn't working the parents should attempt to give it a shot.

[justin 13]

I read your story. Its funny because I am 13 and I have a lil bro and he is a complete dumbass. I am like you, just like you. I need to be like you because I am the older one. Mom left us ages ago and I had to take care of him and myself. Dad is too busy working to help us. So, I do the laundry, I help him with the homework, do other stuff at home...and he is always complaining, never satisfied with anything. I cant be alone. He is always chasing me even in the bathroom. He always needs to know what I am doing!!!. Once, he told my dad I was gay. I denied it of course, and I felt bad very bad. So this is the way I live with my bro. I cant deal with him, but I know he needs me, he does not have a Mom and I can understand that. Maybe your bro is just in need for your attention.

[Sasha M]

Besides from all of the manners, family issues and middle school (Jr. High shcool in Canada) you pretty much just described my best friend. Lazy and plays Xbox360 and PC all day. All Day. NO SERIOUSLY all freaking day! :D

[teen.jpg]

You shouldn't try to change him. Most likely theres a reason for the way he acts like that. TALK to him, dont force your ideas on him. You might not know everything about him, he may just like to be alone. Respect that.

As for his disrespect, your parents need to step in. I'm sure there is something you won't be able to understand without talking to him.

[The LOLer]

He sounds like an immature little brat. Tell him hes not gonna get anywhere in life without respect. Go on another family gathering and take away his PS3. And good for you for telling him how it is you sound like a great brother.

[Haydenn3]

He's 13, I'm 16. There isn't a huge age difference, but he can be mature. When I was 13, I was polite, nice, kind, happy, and cared about others. I respected my teachers, family, and friends. I had trouble in middle school adjusting and all, but that didn't affect my attitude. Every time I would see relatives I would hug and kiss them. I was and still am very well mannered. He is the opposite of all that. He is having a hard time adjusting to middle school. He thinks he knows everything, he thinks hes better than everyone, and doesn't want to be bothered. When we have family gatherings he doesn't talk to anyone and often stays by himself playing his PS3. My uncle, aunt, and cousin came over two months ago. He stayed downstairs playing GTA IV on his PS3 the whole time. He didn't come up stairs to even greet the family. I spoke to him about respect and being polite and he said he doesn't care. He said to me, "You're all about maturity and respect. I don't care, you're an idiot. Stop talking to me." He would start mimicking me. Lately, he has been talking to himself. I would ask him to stop and he would reply by going "I didn't say anything." I've told my parents, and they are too busy to do anything. He said "People don't like it when you're correct a lot. They don't always like it when you're straight to the point."

I've tried to teach him about respect, but he just doesn't listen. All he wants to do is play video games all day and not care about anyone else. He also manipulates my mother. He makes her get him drinks, food, and get his clothes. I tell him that's wrong, and he says I am retarded. He always wants to argue everything with me like an idiot and gets joy out of that. I feel like I have tried everything to help correct this about him. He just doesn't listen. I feel like the next step would be to beat him up, but my father would go crazy if I even touched him. I don't know what to do at this point, and my parents are very bad at disciplining. He just never stops with his attitude and it pisses me off. He thinks he is entitled to everything and knows everything.

One last thing. Last Tuesday it was my mother's birthday. The whole family went except for him. He wanted to stay home and play stupid PS3. My mother told me at the restaurant that she was really hurt that he didn't come with everyone else. I told her, "You're the mother, you can discipline him. He's your son, not mine. My children will be respectful unlike him. Every trait he has, will be the opposite. If I have children of course." So, now what do I do?

Although these guys are right it may not be as simple as he is just a "Brat" he could have a serious mental illness or something maybe see to getting him checked out or google some of what he does and see what comes up

[Jae Ostraes]

For me (my own opinion) , dont teach him the right things, let him discover it and know the bad sides of the things he do. thats my own opinion.

[BpOlson]

He needs to learn discipline the hard way

[Haydenn3]

He needs to learn discipline the hard way

But you have to take in his mental stability he could be ill and you just want them to make him learn the hard way although i agree they should but it could just make every other thing go tits up in his head

[BpOlson]

But you have to take in his mental stability he could be ill and you just want them to make him learn the hard way although i agree they should but it could just make every other thing go tits up in his head

True. I did not incorporate that fact that I did not put in that x factor. My bad.

[JustinPCGamer]

Thanks for all the feedback friends. I straightened him out for the most part. Things are much better between him and the family. He isn't and never was mentally ill.

[naglfari]

He's 13, I'm 16. There isn't a huge age difference, but he can be mature. When I was 13, I was polite, nice, kind, happy, and cared about others. I respected my teachers, family, and friends. I had trouble in middle school adjusting and all, but that didn't affect my attitude. Every time I would see relatives I would hug and kiss them. I was and still am very well mannered. He is the opposite of all that. He is having a hard time adjusting to middle school. He thinks he knows everything, he thinks hes better than everyone, and doesn't want to be bothered. When we have family gatherings he doesn't talk to anyone and often stays by himself playing his PS3. My uncle, aunt, and cousin came over two months ago. He stayed downstairs playing GTA IV on his PS3 the whole time. He didn't come up stairs to even greet the family. I spoke to him about respect and being polite and he said he doesn't care. He said to me, "You're all about maturity and respect. I don't care, you're an idiot. Stop talking to me." He would start mimicking me. Lately, he has been talking to himself. I would ask him to stop and he would reply by going "I didn't say anything." I've told my parents, and they are too busy to do anything. He said "People don't like it when you're correct a lot. They don't always like it when you're straight to the point."

I've tried to teach him about respect, but he just doesn't listen. All he wants to do is play video games all day and not care about anyone else. He also manipulates my mother. He makes her get him drinks, food, and get his clothes. I tell him that's wrong, and he says I am retarded. He always wants to argue everything with me like an idiot and gets joy out of that. I feel like I have tried everything to help correct this about him. He just doesn't listen. I feel like the next step would be to beat him up, but my father would go crazy if I even touched him. I don't know what to do at this point, and my parents are very bad at disciplining. He just never stops with his attitude and it pisses me off. He thinks he is entitled to everything and knows everything.

One last thing. Last Tuesday it was my mother's birthday. The whole family went except for him. He wanted to stay home and play stupid PS3. My mother told me at the restaurant that she was really hurt that he didn't come with everyone else. I told her, "You're the mother, you can discipline him. He's your son, not mine. My children will be respectful unlike him. Every trait he has, will be the opposite. If I have children of course." So, now what do I do?

I can't believe you said that to your mom after she says her feelings were hurt.

[chrisawesome]

Arent all little brothers D-bags? Doncha just love being the perfect child?

[crepesuzette]

i wish i had a douchebag for a brother. It's way better than being alone on the weekends with no one to talk to while your parents are at work.

[HunterBlue]

You can't teach some one who won't listen some wouldn't bother. He's just gonna block you out and say you're not his dad and resent you for trying to act like it.

But don't put up with his crap. Personally, I'd give a smack down if he crossed any personal lines just so that he won't do it again. But as for smartening up, he's gotta learn that on his own. Or maybe you could set an example.

[JustinPCGamer]

You can't teach some one who won't listen some wouldn't bother. He's just gonna block you out and say you're not his dad and resent you for trying to act like it.

But don't put up with his crap. Personally, I'd give a smack down if he crossed any personal lines just so that he won't do it again. But as for smartening up, he's gotta learn that on his own. Or maybe you could set an example.

I tried my best. I've had it at this point, I'm just going to ignore him.

Edit: For the record; I'm far from perfect.

[RyanCrest]

He needs a slap upside his head

[BenjiCleland]

My brother is like that also and I just ignore him and let people hate him other than I used to try and stop him but that just got me in truble