he looked at porn

[Kate111]

My bf of like 8 months has been looking at porn and I don't know what this means...and I am a little hurt by it. (I'd appreciate any opinions and input anyone has)

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

Well, just about every guy does it, married men included. Its normal, and It doesn tmean he has any less love for you. If It really bothers you, make It clear to him taht you dont liek It.

[R_master]

trust me, its very hard to separate some people from there porn.

its not that he loves you any less because hes looking at it, but that guys masturbate, and if you two are not yet sexually active he only have more reason to do so.

if your uncomfortable with it you should let him know.

but if you just feel a bit distanced from him because of it, maybe you could even try to take part the hobby with him :)

[Kate111]

that's the thing...it's an online relationship and we are doing sexual things (with webcam and chat and on the phone) and I never was (or currently am) into masterbating or porn

edit: I guess it just ruins the little self esteem I had, I mean what am I compared to these porn stars and stuff.

[R_master]

nah, you shouldn't at all feel that way. your online bf will never have an emotional attachment or anything to those porn stars, the whole point of watching it for instant sexual gratification and nothing else.

the porn itself and the girls in it mean nothing to him, its just a way to spend his past-time. you have to understand many many people in relationships look at porn without their significant others knowledge.


i really think he would stop watching it if you communicate these feelings you have. you gotta to remember that guys are very sexual beings, and at this time in ones life there is alot of desire and horniness running wild because of hormones.

guys actually reach there sexual peak a few years earlier than girls, so try to be understanding of him instead of feeling hurt from his actions, we often don't understand what you ladies are thinking :P and hes probly completly oblivious to all this

[Kate111]

k lol, thanks...I talked to him about it a little. I tend to be an over sensitive person. Well still would appreciate other people's oppinions and all that, so feel free to add to the discussion.

[Kingjony11]

you could just take pic of your self and give them 2 him rather than him looking at other porn

[Maverick]

you could just take pic of your self and give them 2 him rather than him looking at other porn
No, that would be illegal.

[TakenAway--x]

Obviously, if he's looking at porn, he has some sexual "needs" that he would like to take care of.

It isn't unusual, and it doesn't mean anything negative towards your relationship.

[RaisingSand]

Teenage guys look at porn. That's a given. It doesn't mean he likes you any less or finds you any less attractive, it's just something guys do.
Males are visually stimulated when they get aroused, hence why there is a lot more porn created for males than females. They get horny, curious and they click on some dirty sites and they look. He's not cheating on you, he's not looking at the other people in the porn and thinking about them in the sense of an emotional relationship like the one he has with you. Hell, once he's done and exited the porn window he'll probably never give a second thought to the people in that material. This sort of thing just happens, and in the sense of where your relationship is concerned, it's all pretty innocent really.

[Glasgow]

No, that would be illegal.

Well they are already doing it over webcam from what shes said.

[byee]

You have just an online relationship with him and do sexual things? How is this different from him looking at online porn? Aren't they kinda similiar? I mean, masturbating to naked women online is masturbating to naked women on line. Aren't both porn?

Although people develop feelings for people online, those feelings seem based more on the fantasy we create of that person based on their words and such. So, although you might feel like you have a 'relationship', because it's lacking in reality, it's only online, it's not like a relationship. And, if you're doing sexual things, too, then it further blurs the distinction.

Yeah, guys masturbate forever, and alot do it to porn. But, if the only relationship you have is online, then I think you're being overly sensitive. Online sex is online sex.

[Kate111]

We are online dating, idk how to be more clear hehe. We had been friends for 6 months prior to dating. And we've been dating for around 8 months now, and recently started doing sexual stuff. So to each other and others who know us, we are boyfriend and girlfriend.

[Gumleaf]

We are online dating, idk how to be more clear hehe. We had been friends for 6 months prior to dating. And we've been dating for around 8 months now, and recently started doing sexual stuff. So to each other and others who know us, we are boyfriend and girlfriend.

i think that when it comes to the crunch you should tell him how you feel about him looking at porn. maybe he will stop for you? you never know.

[Kate111]

ya I sorta kinda discussed it with him, so idk if he'll stop or not (but he's pretty good about this sort of thing) ^_^

so question answer, thanks VT =)

[kovert43]

ya tell him how u feel make him understand, my girlfriend watches it with me (lol ahaha funny though)

[Smegs]

dont worry too much, alot of teenage boys look at porn,

[wolfram_07]

My bf of like 8 months has been looking at porn and I don't know what this means...and I am a little hurt by it. (I'd appreciate any opinions and input anyone has)

oh.. porn.. for me, it's nothing too big. every boy/man undergoes hormonal frenzy and it's good for your boyfriend to just watch a porn.
i mean.. at least he isn't forcing you.. nor is he having other affairs..

just trust him. :yes: